he never use the home computer 2 send mail . i got his Mobile's list in which he had called HER a no. of times.but he isnt admitting it. actually i dont have to prove he has given us 2 bad treatment so 2 make him feel bad i have to do this . but how ? as he has a secret sim card i can't get it's list to find whether he's calling to her or not . i can't take a divorce ( i think ... ) He is making many financial problems 4 me by giving me very bit money etc.
b'coz i am a house wife and it will affect my daughter's life (?)
plz suggest me solutions on this .I stared the production of Indian spices and food but then he came to know that if i will get money , i won't listen to him . so he made the production close .
I wanted 2 hire a detective but then i thought that they can sell 2 my hus. by taking more money from him (
i think as i am in India the show 'Cheaters' can't help me .
I am 2 tense about it and bcoz of this i am having many health problems like hair - fall , headache ..
Help
2007-02-27 01:20:12 · 20 answers · asked by Neeta 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as my girls r living in the house , my husband won't dare to take that woman to the home .
so the 1 st option - spamoid won't be useful .
2007-02-27 01:30:14 · update #1
Be very careful. You might find answers that are going to very hard to live with. I would hire a private detective. You are going to make yourself sick if you leave it too long. Think of what you might have to do once you find out, make a plan. Did you get the other woman's number? Perhaps you can call it and ask the woman?
2007-02-27 01:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're stronger than you think. This man is treating you wrong, whether he's cheating or not. (and yes, a woman always knows) You could handle a divorce, but you need a support system of friends and relatives to lean on. Don't be afraid to accept help from others. You will get to a point where you can stand on your own two feet and will be a proud, independent woman, free of mistreatment. You will come to respect yourself and be a much happier person. Maybe you could get your spice production biz back eventually.
Even if you don't end up divorced, if you stand up and demand respect from him, your life will improve. He's only going to get away with what you let him get away with.
2007-02-27 10:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have been in India a few times and know the culture well. So i agree that it may be difficult to get a divorce. Also men are very fragile in their nature and especially with respect to sex. They get naughty by looking at each good looking female and will keep doing it esp in your case when you have some problems. See you cant stop him from doing it, but you can always discuss it openly with him that you know about it and why is he doing it? Tell him that you are concerned and that both of you are responsible for the kids and their future.
I would like to talk more with you.
x
tom
bh37bh37@yahoo.com
2007-02-27 09:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by bh37bh37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the other person's response to you about going away for the weekend and checking your house. You need to find a way to get out of your marriage. It's obvious the problem is not going to go way and your health is beginning to deteriorate. You might want to talk to an attorney just to get an idea of what you can do and what you are entitled to receive from your husband by law.
Best wishes!
2007-02-27 09:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow him then when he is with her or in the act call him out. You dont need a man like that anyways. If you had a business and he made you close it down or stop production then he obiviously does not love you. Any man who loves there life would want the best for them. Get rid of him and catch him in the act of cheating so he feels really bad, then he will be begging you to stay.
2007-02-27 09:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if you did catch him, what good would it do? You need to move on in your life for your mental and physical wellness as well as for your daughters. If things get worse the girls will be pulled into it as well. You said you had started the production of Indian spices and food. Start it again in your own place. Good Luck
2007-02-27 11:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Loran T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i suggest.....
IF you have a friend out there who could help to take you where he might be is a idea. To find him cheating.
IF you have your friend that he doesn't know help you to catch him at his game is best too. Make sure he doesn't know your friend.
You can simply look at his history in the computer to see where he has been going is an idea.
Get a job. Get daycare for your child. Save and leave him, there are lots of ideas, things you can do.
Asking him obviously didn't work, he lied.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-27 09:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am Sorry, For evidence for your divorce, try and get a good friend to follow him and tape his infidelity, meanwhile you be the best wife and mother you can be then save some money without his knowledge and file for a divorce, get child support, and spouse support. Make sure you comfort your child, You may even want to get a little counseling for your self. It is normal to worry in this case. You have to take better care of yourself for your self and your daughter. Remember you are a great person! May God Bless you Please keep us updated.
2007-02-27 09:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're positive he's having an affair, why do you need to catch him red-handed? Like the others have said, you're better off without him. Why would you want to be with him?
Get a divorce, move out, move on.
2007-02-27 09:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by sct442 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if she were an "expensive" woman (versus a cheap woman) would that be better?
why do you need to "prove" it??? to make him feel bad? Trust me, if he doesn't have a conscience, you're not going to make him feel bad for what he's doing just by proving it to him. He already knows what he's doing.
If you're unwilling to do anything about your situation (divorce) then there is little to do besides accept the way your life is. You have to accept it, or your going to make your daughters life and your life hell.
I definately wouldn't have unprotected sex with him, if he's cheating.....
You say "cheaters" can't help you.....no one can help you....
UNTIL YOU HELP YOURSELF
2007-02-27 09:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋