So my mama and i got into a fight. the fight was because she went to pick me up from my basketball game but i had already left with my older brother. He told my mom that he was going to pick me up but is it my fault that she forgot??? I mean come on now she wont help me with my prom stuff or graduation because she says i owe her an apology who apologizes 1st cause the way i see it she owe's me one too.
2007-02-27 01:15:35 · 5 answers · asked by highschoolshorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before I even read the particulars of your situation, my answer was (and still is) YOU!
The biggest, best and (usually "most right") person is the one who has the grace and the heart to say those so-important words: "I'm sorry."
Even though you clearly were not wrong in this situation, just say "I'm sorry" to your mom to show respect for the fact that she is your mom. It is always the right thing to do.
Furthermore, when a person who was *not* wrong apologizes to the other person, it makes that person think about, consider, and see their own part in things....
It's sort of a trick, though it is also the right thing to do. They are disarmed, and are no longer having to defend their point of view, so all of a sudden they start looking for ways to make it up to you.
(It also works quite well in the situations where you really *are* wrong!)
P.S. and the most important part of apologizing, IMO, is that it *does not matter* what the other person's response is. They may say "Sorry, too" or they may not, they may spit in your face or say "Well, you should be" or they may say "I forgive you." None of this should have any bearing on the fact that *you* did the right thing.
2007-02-27 01:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologies don't necessarily have to come from the one who did wrong. It is done by the person who wants to make things right even if he did not do anything wrong.
In your case, you can apologize to your mother because she took the trouble to pick you up even if she didn't need to. You should at least give her credit for that. And don't blame her for forgetting. As you get older, your memory fades. I don't know how old your mother is but she may be going through menopause and she could have mood swings, hot flushes or be irritable.
Show some understanding and be the first to apologize. You know that it will do you a world of good because you will get her support for your prom and graduation.
2007-02-27 09:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Erize Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
do you really want to spoil the joy of your prom because of something so silly as who forgot who. one of you should apologize. if doesn't have to be the one who was in the wrong. remember she has a very hectic day every day. think about all the stuff that she has to do in one day to keep the house going and to make sure that you and you brother along with your dad and except that she maybe wrong and that she may not be able to say that she is sorry. don't spoil yours and her fun when it comes to your prom. think how she will feel if sh misses out on that very special moment with you,think how you will feel if you can not have that moment with her.
2007-02-27 09:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea your right , she is the one that should be apoligizing first, but why? don't you be the bigger and better person and you apologize, that way yall'll both be happy. you know, your mom wants a apology you give it to her, you need help with prom stuff and graduation and she helps you.
-lexis
2007-02-27 09:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by lexis_renee' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not really matter
you will find when you get older sometimes you just have to be the bigger person and say sry first
it is hard to say sry but its always is nicer to be the first one to say it
2007-02-27 09:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋