2007-02-27 00:54:19 · 11 answers · asked by emma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a man answering you.. I would hope he is living somewhere else by now. After I chopped his **** off and hit him in the head with a ball bat, he would pay child support for several years. If this is the best you deserve from him, you don't need the low life.
2007-02-27 01:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Really ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it one time? If so and you suspect it was a weak moment, and they can happen, then be candid and clear that you will try to work it out (if you want to, and it sounds like you might), but that you will not tolerate it again. If it is a habit, it won't stop and staying just because there is a child is not good for you, him or the child. Of course he still has the right to see the baby.
26 years ago I met a lovely girl and married her. She had a past and so did I, and it wasn't a real distant past for either.
Both of us knew a lot of people. Early on we both made a mistake. We talked, re-vowed not to do that again and we are still married. Neither has done that again.
If it is like that, then working it out might be good. If he has a problem with fidelity overall, it never will.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-27 09:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not sleep with him until you both get checked out for an STD or HIV. You need to protect yourself and the health of you unborn baby.
If you both want the marriage to work, it will be hard but you will get through this. If he apologizes and you feel he is truly sorry, forgive him and put this madness to the back of your mind. And don't mention it ever again. It is not forgiveness if you keep throwing it up in his face time and time again. And dont share this personal business with your family or friends. More trouble with that ....
Finally, speak with someone from your church about it or join a couple's ministry at the church to help you both get thru this. He needs to find out the REAL reason why he cheated and you need to learn how to forgive him for REAL. God Bless You Both.
2007-02-27 09:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by YaYa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You talk to someone that will help and support you, leave him because if he did it once, especially at the one of the times in your life that should be the happiest time, he will do it again. He does not respect you and probably willl never give you what you really need in a relationship or in life. There is help out there. You do not need to be treated like that.
2007-02-27 09:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some questions to ask yourself......
how do you feel about him now
how do you feel about your marriage now
how does your husband feel about your marriage now
do you both want to do the work that's necessary to try to save the marriage
You will certainly need the help of a marriage counselor if you want to save the marriage....good luck.
2007-02-27 09:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is sad indeed. However, don't be upset. Have a one-on-one chat with him. Ask him what it is that makes him cheats on you. Let him know your love for him and for the sake of the unborn child.
2007-02-27 08:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Divorce and he can pay child support for 18 yrs.
2007-02-27 08:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He could have a disease,you should get checked.
2007-02-27 08:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you change the locks,go to the bank,pack his stuff and send it to his job... you get ready for your baby............. why would you want him? get a good attorney.
2007-02-27 08:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is he to you? When you can answer that you will know what to do!
2007-02-27 08:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by ndiguy73 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋