I find it so hurtful the way men mistreat women in general and have done throughout history. I know women do it too and there are decent men out there, but sometimes I just find it really hard to see past all the horrible misogyny that goes on. It's everywhere and, quite frankly, I don't want to live in such a ****** up world - I'm not going to do anything stupid, but sometimes I would rather be dead than be a woman.
Does anyone understand? What can I do? I'm beating myself up with all this negativity and I'm so bogged down in it I don't know how to get through.
2007-02-27 00:52:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi Carlos, thanks for your answer. I don't mean my own friends or people I know, I'm on about a more widespread scale, not individuals.
2007-02-27 01:01:02 · update #1
I can't do the ''oh, it doesn't affect me so that's okay'' thing, I wish i could but I can't. I'm not that shallow. NO disrespect intended.
2007-02-27 01:22:39 · update #2
I don't beat myself up with it on purpose, I don't want to be this way!
2007-02-27 01:29:23 · update #3
Things that get me - the fact that so few rape cases reult in conviction, the sh!t I see going on in the world every day.
2007-02-27 01:56:34 · update #4
I understand exactly what you mean. You've got so trapped in the mud you don't know how to swim to the surface anymore.
I sense your vision of this may be skewed from personal experience, and that is something I share with you. I know you're talking about a much wider scale than your own life, and I agree that far to much abuse goes on and far too few people are doing anything to change it - especially in rape cases, as you mentioned. I'm with you 100% on that.
Just remember, though, that there are plenty of decent, kind, loving people out there, both male and female. I know this is easier said than done when you automatically see from a certain viewpoint because of what you've seen and experienced. Try to see from another perspective. Perhaps you should seek help (I probably should too) to develop some good coping strategies.
Think of all the decent men you know who would never harm a fly... there must be a few. God knows I've been around far too many seriously nasty characters, but despite that, I can always think of good men I know. Now think about how miniscule a percentage your circle of friends/acquaintances is of the total male population. You know quite a few decent guys in your circle, right? So, in that case, how many must there be throughout the world? Loads!
You're not alone, and there ARE people who understand. Don't let the people that hurt you finish you off - you're so much better than them. I know how much of a struggle it is to push on through, but you are clearly a strong and caring person with a hell of a lot to offer.
In the meantime, if you need to chat, please IM me and I'll do what I can to help out as much as possible. Take care. x
2007-02-27 02:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Wildamberhoney 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl, we girls have lots to be thankful about being a women, Of course there are a lot of poor quality men out there , but to be fair I am sure there are lots of men who would say the same about their experiences. I am sure you will find better than you have in the past, don't judge them all the same. I have done OK, I have always tried to ensure that I don't get to close to soon, if any stuff shows that I feel I could not do with , then I finished it quick, before I got to involved, give things time. the Bastards will always be there, but so are the good uns! Good Luck
2007-02-27 01:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a terrible thing that bothers you. This problem will not go away, so if you're looking for the answer it's your own attitude and how you think about it.
My suggestion is to concern yourself with another problem, like world hunger, people oppressed by their government, the homeless, abused children, police corruption, the list of other world problems goes on. I'm not telling you to be tough, I'm telling you your problem is...you.
If abuse of women is really bothering you to the point that you need to seek help about it, then you have a problem with yourself. At least you are taking the steps to correct that problem and move on with your life.
2007-02-27 07:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by raztaman420 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider reaching out for some help. This extreme negativity could be depression for which there is lots of help. If you are employed, check to see if you have an employee assitance program.
As for the specifics of this concern, don't you know any men who treat women well? Use them as examples to help you examine the counterpoint to your opinion about men. There are plenty of rotten people in the world - both men and women - and if you choose to dwell on this, you will always find examples to support this belief. What are you doing to yourself, though, by staying focused on this. You're ruining your life with this obsession. Get help.
2007-02-27 01:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bill F 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't know any men who treat women badly. I think it's because I picked the right friends. If I were you, I'd stop having anything to do with such people and pick my friends more carefully.
2007-02-27 00:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Carlos 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
dont surround yourself with people that are bad influences or bring you down. Change your circle.
Or if you cant beat 'em join 'em.
Transition. If you would rather be dead than be a woman... be a man. (heavy on the sarcasm here)
Being dead is not an option. If you think so, than you are using world resources that someone else could be using.
2007-02-27 01:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by kd s 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Men do not treat women bad in general. You have to know what to choose. I know that if a guy will act to nice to you you will think that he has to low self esteem and you will not be attracted to him. Real men will not act like "nice guys" (all the time)...just very rare. And this is just a game...men that really treat bad women are generally in jail.
2007-02-27 01:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Trufas M 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why would you beat yourself up with negativity over a history that has been improving dramatically over the years?
There is always room for improvement, but do a little research and see how far things have come. It is inspiring! Not dismal.
Live well~
2007-02-27 01:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Just relax....if it's not affecting you, don't get all heated over it...you can't change society, just make sure you don't experience it, and let the idiots of the world go on in their miserable exsistence!!!
2007-02-27 01:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋