What advice would you give me to stop the feeling of emptiness in my life?

Answer 1

By dissolving your ego.

Read the books of Eckhart Tolle to achieve this.

They will change your life, I promise.

Answer 2

I'd suggest you set some obtainable, yet challanging goals, then do the best you can to accomplish them. This should give you a sense of worth.

While your doing that, date as much as you can. Don't "use" the people, just enjoy their company. I've always said the more you date, the more you'll know what your really looking for in a relationship. While your obtaining your goals, perhaps you'll also be lucky enough to find the right "other half".

If you are successful in both the above, I think the feeling of emptiness shall be replaced with great joy, self confidence and fulfillness.

(When I was dating, I realized I didn't want the alcoholic, the egotistical, the "clinger", etc. I also realized I wanted someone with goals, intelligence, humor, etc. I'm proud to say I've been happily married to an awesome guy for over 20 years!) Talk about fulfillness!

Answer 3

Maybe you feel empty because you have unfulfilled dreams or you are disappointed with people or aspects of your life. No matter how old you are, you can still learn and grow. Go back to school and take a course on a subject that you've always wanted to master, or teach a course to people who could use your expertise. Visit any of the college campuses and you will see people of all ages. Join a health club, take exercise classes and try to make friends.

Cultivate new hobbies or resume one that you used to enjoy but gave up. Take art classes, learn to paint, start a book club and invite a few friends to meet in homes a couple times per month. Throw a tea party for them. There are all kinds of classes in the high schools and community colleges. and it's a great way to meet people. You could also do volunteer work in your local hospital, help underprivileged children, visit nursing homes to help the elderly, read to those who can't do it for themselves. Maybe you could be a literacy volunteer, or be a volunteer for a local political candidate. You'll meet lots of different people and perhaps get the chance to see your candidate get elected.

The point is to look outside of yourself and try to do something new, or help others. In doing so, you will find fulfillment. You will always feel empty if you think only of yourself. Having said all of this, remember that everyone needs some spiritual grounding, even if you aren't religious. Church is a good start, meditation, yoga classes, etc. Good luck.

Answer 4

Try to fill your time up with visiting friends and family. Also, are you happy in your job? Everyone needs a feeling of "belonging" - without it you are bound to feel empty. Try and plan things so you have something to look forward to - even it's just inviting a friend over and cooking for them and sharing a bottle of wine or just a trip to the pictures to see a great movie. Or how about enrolling for an evening class at your local college - you'll meet like minded people and it'll give you something to concentrate on, and even if it's just a short course, it'll give you a sense of achievement.

Don't for one minute think you need a man to make you happy and fill the void you're feeling (that's if you don't have one). It's important to feel happy and content on your own and then when a man comes along, it'll be a wonderful bonus.

Answer 5

I'll answer your question by referring to what a friend of mine once told me when I was feeling the same as you are.
There are two things you can do about things in your life which you're not comfortable with.
1. Accept them if you understand that such things are beyond your control. this realization and subsequent acceptance will give you a peace of mind you would have never thought possible.
2. Do something to change them, if you know that the problems or parts of the problems are within your power to change. There is so much you can do and an entire world to do it. The emptiness in your life is only there because you're allowing it to stay. And learn to appreciate the small sweet things in life, without craving for great things to happen if it's not yet their time to do so.

Picture the following metaphor. Water, a jug, a balloon.
Some people are like jugs. when they're half filled with water (emotions, achievements), they will appear half empty, because it's visibly obvious that they want more to be full (fulfilled). when too much water is poured into them, it will just overflow.
Some people are like balloons filled with water. Even if the balloon is not being used to its utmost capacity, it will always appear full. If more water is poured into it, it will expand to hold in the extra water. People should be like balloons, feeling fulfilled with what they have at that particualr moment in time, and allowing space for when further fulfilment comes into their lives. Try to think in such terms, you might find yourself feeling less empty. At least, it worked with me.

Answer 6

During my late 30's and 40's I worked, finished college, raised a son alone, had good parents in another city, had a decent job. Had sisters and brothers I talked to on the phone and visited on occasion. I wasted most of that wonderful time in my life looking for someone to fill the 'void' of not having a husband. I felt empty and lonesome.

Now that I am much older and looking back on those times that were so full of everything one could want, I know that I wasted much of it because of the empty lonesome feeling.

My suggestion to you is to take what you have and be very very satisfied. Look around you every day knowing that you have everything especially in your younger days. Don't waste your life the way I did.

Answer 7

Stop and wonder what's all the emptiness for. Is it because there is not a special someone in your life? or you are not doing outdoor door stuff?

Simple!

Just drop all the stuff you've been doing. Take yourself out for a drink or better yet, go and watch a movie. After the movie, go somewhere where people your age hang out. After a while, you will start meeting people and trust me, just to have someone to talk to or relate to, it helps!

After you reach home, turn on the music loud enough so you cannot hear yourself and sing out and dance. Just release all the hard work you've been doing all along.

Therefore, just take a day!

Answer 8

You are not alone. We all having feelings of emptiness at times in our lives. Try to look about you and about your life and be thankful for all of the good things. There really is a lot to be thankful for. God gives us each another day to live and we need to focus on the good things we have. Things can always be worse. Cheer up and make another friend or contact an old one to get reacquainted with. Good luck.

Answer 9

I felt wrong because I always felt empty and thought no one else does, as soon as I realised that a lot of people do, I saw that emptiness is a normal human emotion that drives us to fill our lives with money, babies, religion and love- if we felt complete sitting alone in our room and didn’t feel the need to fill that hole society would fall apart.
We are meant to feel empty and should just accept it as part of life but of course as soon as I knew this and I felt I wasn’t abnormal and could feel empty- the hole filled its self with this knowledge and now I have no drive because I filled the emptiness with the knowledge that its human nature, that were not really empty at all and need nothing to complete us except the knowledge that we are as complete as we feel in our minds (for example a rich man with a wife and kids can feel empty while a man with nothing and no family can be happy if he feels he’s not missing out if he likes his own company) and now I have no need to fill it- I don’t want money enough to work my life away or success if I have to sacrifice my peace, so now I just sit in my room!
Feel grateful u feel empty and still need to search for that thing to fill it.

Answer 10

Thank God for having given u life in this world and love yourself as you are. Only then u will start loving other people or things and not feel the emptiness

Answer 11

everyone has an inner self (soul)- mind- and body, when you are able to understand the needs of all three of these your emptiness should fade.

I would say that you may not be doing what you feel is the right thing for you to do in life. do you have passions? aspirations? dreams? of a perfect job or lifestyle who wish to work towards.

this may be a start but remember emptiness usually arises when we are not fulfilling our needs.

surround yourself with people you love. this could lift your spirits!