To happily married men -- tell me about your wife?

Question

For those of you who are happily married men, can you please answer the following questions?

1. Where/how did you meet your wife?
2. What was the determining factor that you chose her as wife?
3. How long did it take to get married after meeting her for the first time?
4. How long did you wait to have sex with her after the first date?
5. Tell me your secret tips to maitain great relationship/marriage.

Thanks so much -- I look forward to hearing from you! P.S. I don't need lectures...please just answer the questions if you are happily married men...thanks! (Thanks a lot everyone who had already answered...these replies were very insightful.)

Answer 1

1) I met her at her graduation beach party. I graduated one year before her and did not know her at all. She was aware of me due to a successful band I headed.

2) The "determining" factor(s) were that in addition to us being horny as heck for one another, we had determined that each of us had pleasant personalities, and did not exhibit any particular neurotic tendencies. We didn't get any "red flags" from each other.

3) I think we wanted to get married within the first year we were together, but decided to wait 3 years until I finished college.

4) We got into some hot, heavy petting and groping on the first date, and I believe we had sex on the second date.

5) Here are what I consider to be some of the crucial aspects of a successful relationship:

- A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

- A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

- A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

- A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 2

Hello
1. I met my wife in a parking lot at a mall after talking to her on a dateline on the phone. Our first date we went to church.

2. She was God's will for my life and i knew she was the right one for me. There was just something about her:)

3.It took us a little over a year of dating and getting to know each other before marrying.

4. We had sex within a few weeks of knowing each other but i wish now that we would have waited until marriage.

5. Tips- This one makes me think. Well lets see her i would say communication and openess and honesty with each other. Unconditional love and forgiveness. Treating each other and loving each other the way that I would want her to treat and to love me. Staying commited no matter what and working through hard and tough times together. Doing fun things together and holding hands alot. We love going out on dates. Having God as the center of the marriage and relationship is a great ideal and help too. Respecting and loving each other no matter what is very important as well. Do not keep hurtful secrets from each other and make important decisions together.

Answer 3

1. Where/how did you meet your wife? I was a platoon leader and my platoon sergeant introduced me to her. She was his wife's sister and had come to stay with them for awhile. Before I ever met my wife-to-be, he told me that he would like to have me as a brother in law, which made me laugh at the time.

2. What was the determining factor that you chose her as wife? I would have to go with shared values. There was a lot we had in common as far as how we saw morality, money, children, family, and other important life matters. I always had a strong feeling that if we married it would never end.

3. How long did it take to get married after meeting her for the first time? It was about a year and a half.

4. How long did you wait to have sex with her after the first date? I don't specifically remember, but it was several dates in. We made out several times on previous dates, and the first time we had sex, she convinced/seduced me into it.

5. Tell me your secret tips to maitain great relationship/marriage. Mutual respect and trust are important. So is showing interest in one another. Fighting fair helps a lot too -- we never cuss or insult each other, and we never use sarcasm to hurt, only if we're joking around. Each of us genuinely cares about and wants to please the other. Neither of us feels happy if the other one is unhappy. We try to be considerate of each other. We spend time alone together, without the kids, occasionally. We openly display affection for each other. Both of us are dependable when it comes to maintaining employment, responsible with money, and not wasteful.

Answer 4

1. Where/how did you meet your wife? - Internet (Yahoo Personals)

2. What was the determining factor that you chose her as wife?

My wife was also a christian. That was the main priority when finding a spouse. In addition she was warm, kind and loving to people and to me in particular. It does not hurt that I find her dead sexy either.

3. How long did it take to get married after meeting her for the first time?

Engaged after 7 months, married after 18 months.

4. How long did you wait to have sex with her after the first date?

We were married when we had sex for the first time.

5. Tell me your secret tips to maitain great relationship/marriage.

My secret is simple. I live my life asking one question. "How would Christ treat me in this situation." As a christian, I am told to love my wife as Christ loved the church. How is this? Unconditional love that would cause you to give your life for your wife. I put her first in all things because it is what is required on me.

Answer 5

1. I met my wife on the IRC, a pre-web version of internet chat rooms, in 1995.
2. I knew she was special the day I met her in person. I can't really say what the determining factor was.
3. We married just over 4 years after meeting.
4. We were naked together the night we met.
5. Honesty, speaking your mind, being receptive to the other's thoughts, dedication and trustworthiness. Putting your spouse first. Making daily efforts to making sure they are happy.

Answer 6

1. We met online through eHarmony.
2. We're very compatible
3. We lived together over 3 years before getting married.
4. About a month.
5. Communication is the key to any relationship. If you don't communicate with each other, on many levels, your relationship will fail or not be satisfying.

Answer 7

1. We met in college
2. We fell in love together.
3. We started dating in 88 and married in 92
4. We had sex the first night of honeymoon.
5 Communication and giving/receiving.

Almost married 15 yrs.

Answer 8

1. Church
2. Same dreams/goals for life! She is beautiful (inside and out)
3. First date Jan. 1st, engaged in April, Married in November!
4. The truth is on our honeymoon! We chose to wait (both had ruined past relationships with sex)!
5. COMMUNICATION, don't expect your spouse to read your mind, I would do anything for my wife (just ask) but if she wants me to guess what she wants she will NOT get it!

Answer 9

1. 20 yrs ago in college she was my best friend
2. After 11 yrs of a bad marriage my wife now accidently ran into me.
3. 20 yrs.
4. 20 yrs
5. trusting that this is Gods plan for us both.

Answer 10

1. I met my wife at work
2. Shared interests, great sex, loved her.
3. around 4 years
4. Had sex the first date
5. Be kind to each other.