I just don't function right; I do most of what I'm suppose to do: work, take care of my son, and pay my bills. But my house is a mess, I have no social activities, and I've turned into such a boring person. It's not an easy fix or a case of laziness there is something wrong that paxil hasn't fixed. I only tried medication because I felt I was cheating my son, some minor improvements but not overall. I use to be the fun aunt that all kids wanted to spend time with, now my own son who's a toddler prefers grandparents over me. It's hard to explain but I do need help,please!
2007-02-27 00:28:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
from the sounds of it you are burned out. All you energy goes into work and school and raising a child. You have no time for fun. go to www.flylady.com she has some interesting advice on how to keep your house less cluttered and organized. I have been doing her 15 minutes of cleaning and boy do my family notice. Before I could clean all day and nobody notice with 15 minutes on one room and nothing else i see more progress. You may also have the winter time blues. Where the weather is blah and it lowers your spirits so you don't want to do anything. All you have to remember is you are doing this for your son, so you and him can live a better life. It will all work out in the end. YOU can do it!
2007-02-27 00:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break once in a while. Send your son to his grandma or close relative for even a day and treat yourself. Tell yourself that today is your day and you are going to make the best of it.
For that day, do everything you've always wanted to do, and remember that you only have 24hrs. If nothing comes to mind, stay home alone and bring back the person you were before all the pressure came on you.
Listen to some of your favourite music, especially the lively ones and dance all you want. If you cannot dance (or think you can't), jump up and do some crazy dance. Also, eat and exercise and watch TV!
P.S - make sure that you are wearing just underwear all day. Trust me, it works for me. When i am home alone, i just keep on underwear alone and it releases some of weight off me. Additionally, it will make you appreciate not only yourself more, but you body and then you can say - 'thank God I am a woman'.
Just try it!
2007-02-27 08:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by hotti_hottichiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complicated soul is right, you are burned out. Meds are not the solution. You are taking too much workload on and that is draining you. I'm not a psychologist, I usually don't answer questions in this area (I answer econ questions), but I saw yours and I just had to answer. I'm happily married and have 2 kids, but I also tend to take on too much responsibility and end up being tired most of the time, stressed out and irritable with my kids and wife.
Take a step back, re asses your workload, and keep in mind that, in the end, you work to give your family a better life, so don't let work and study affect your son.
2007-02-27 09:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by MSDC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a LOT of work. I don't think there's anything wrong with being depressed in this situation. You work full-time, go to school and have a son. That is so demanding a job! I would collaspe if it was me. I believe anyone would have no time to be sociable and fun in this situation.
Be proud of yourself. You've been handling this difficult task. Once you're done with school you'll have more free time. It's just a matter of time. You'll make it! Good luck!
2007-02-27 09:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough time for you right now, but focus on the goal...finish school to improve life for you and your son...the best moms usually do have messy homes...why, because they are usually busy with their kids it's OK...Sometimes you need to try different meds until you find one that works for you...don't give up, but remember, you need to take time for you...even if it's only a couple hours a week, a happy mom makes a happy home...try to find another mom with similar circumstances and trade off play dates...this will give you both free time....good luck..this too shall pass!
2007-02-27 08:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a break from school to regenerate. I have had to do this. I was getting burnt out and took a couple of months off, when I went back I was refreshed.
2007-02-27 08:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone in the same frame of mind. look for caring, love, and respect. be careful. share. Maslow is a great help to me. hard to read though.
2007-02-27 09:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by nomisthgiwd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋