I need help because am loosing the girl i am in love with . her father died after 15 days she met me?

Question

i met this girl and from the first minutes i fell for her and i showed her my 100% real character and my true feelings that came later. on the 12 of this month her father died from cancer :( and she msg to me and told me that he was gone.. i told her i will be there for you at all times when you need me. she send me later that she was going to move to her house and that she was going to leave her study s from my town (40minutes away) . and that she want me to be only her friend and that she will maybe not come back to my town.. i told her ok and that it was no problem. we spoke for days late at night but i asked her if she was ok the previous day and she didn't answered me yet. i don't want to loose her and i know she needs time but is she coming back? she told me some days ago that it was not fair if i waited for her and that she is not thinking me as much as i do and she dont like that. i told her to go see her and she told me no. btw i ma 20 and she is 22 .

Answer 1

Without knowing to much of the dynamics of your relationship all I can say is that the lack of a certain level of communcation is hurting both of you guys. I wish you could say more about how you guys have treated this rather young relationship but thats a hard thing to explain ether way. Best bet is to keep the conversation away from the relationship for awhile and concentrate more on how the lost of her father is effecting her. If your not close enough yet to be allowed that deep into her feelings then you guys got some problems in how you relate your lives. If she can let you be a good partner and explain to you how this is effecting her you guys got a chance to strengthen the relationship. Unfornatunely if your not close enough to be on the recieveing end of those hard emotions then there is going to be hell to pay. Your relationship is therefor seperate from what it is she is dealing with making you more of a distration then the help you need to be. If thats the case work on talking to her so she can relate more how she is feeling about the world as oppose to how she feels about you right now. Keep that in the background and remeber if she takes the time out to relate those hard feelings then the relationship is doing fine. But if she is blocking that from you theres a boundry in the way that needs to be remove.