My husband and I got married last year after a whirlwind romance. I am 30 and he is 40. He has been married before and has a child with his ex-wife (now 7). We have talked about children in the past and it always seemed on the cards - he has now told me that he doesn't want any more children and he is too old to start all over again...
I don't know what to do or what to say to him...everytime I try to talk I end up in floods of tears and I sound like a petulant child myself as I sob 'but I want to have a child'...
Please will someone talk some sense to me - I am at the end of my tether...
2007-02-27 00:01:38 · 7 answers · asked by ConfusedWife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I sympathise with you.
Men are notoriously fickle and you have lots of options.
Firstly, you could be devious and get pregnant anyway and hope that he 'comes round' to the idea eventually, risking your relationship but getting your own way.
Or.......you could ask him to go to counselling with you.
Or.......you can decide to divorce him while you are still young and maybe meet someone who wants to have children....bit drastic!
Or....maybe take him on a nice holiday, butter him up a bit ..... relax....be a little persuasive. Be nice to him.... or just think....sod it....I'm the one having the baby....so go for it!
Good luck!
2007-02-27 23:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pink n Wise 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please whatever you do, do not get pregnant without his consent. What a horrible way to bring a child into the world. He may well change his mind in time, but if not and you really wish to become a mother then you will have to end your marriage and find someone who wants the same out of life as you do. Good luck
2007-03-02 18:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you re4ally discuss about having a child together before you married because you should have if that's what you want. i can appreciate his view and i can sympathise with yours too, keep a cool head and tell him that you really need to discuss this especially if he lead you up the garden path with the whole child issue, maybe in time he will come to realise that he is not being fair, but equally you cannot push the issue, you do have to find a compromise. good luck Hun.
2007-02-28 07:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married to my husband in 2001 , he hasn't been married before,he doesn't have any child. me too, but he doesn't want children, of course i want to be mother and have children, now he is 33 , i am 32, i lived with him for 6 years, now i desided that i have to divorce, my last life with him was only for doing sex with him. it is so stupid, isn't it? what does Marriage Certification!!!
it is nothing, Marriage Certification is Children between wife and husband,
therefore , if you want children and to be mother, divorce your husband, you can marry again, you can be mother ,
beleive !!!
i think that your husband needs only partner, that partner is you
life is beautiful , don't give up
2007-03-01 22:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by nyamaa k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop. don't weep anymore. If he's ur hubby and he's active, take in. he wont kill u. Otherwise, you'll be cheated out of the game as everything might go to the child of his first marriage. Be sure that he is responsible for the pregncy. Heavens won't fall if u do. good luck.
2007-03-02 05:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by oshokhameye 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
divorce him and find someone who wants the same as you life is too short if you stay with him you will end up hating him
2007-03-02 22:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a baby you need to find some one esle but get divorced first he don't want any more children
2007-03-02 20:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋