sometimes even twice or 3 times a day, usually starts the minute i get home from work ! he doesnt have anything to tell me and to be honest i hate using the phone for no reason, the sound of it ringing drives me mad!! i always know when its going to be him and it winds me up, another pointless 30 second conversation, i didnt really mind when he first started but 8 months down the line im going mad!! how can i tell him dont ring everyday when u have nothing to say, WITHOUT hurting his feelings, i just want peace and quiet, not a phone shrilling 3 times a night :-(
2007-02-26 23:45:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok few people think im just ungrateful, believe me im NOT i love my dad with all my heart! i havnt lived with him since my parents divorced and he moved out when i was 7 years old, he never felt the need to show such an interest for the next 15 years so why does he do it now in the past 8-9 months? and in reply to some other people i do see him regulary so i dont need to talk to him everyday, he has friends and a girlfriend yet still has to ring 3 times a day, believe me its too much!! im 26 yrs old with a very tiring physical job, sometimes im in bed at 8pm cos im up at 5am, my dad knows this yet still wants to call at 10 pm just to tell me something he already told me, he knows im in bed so thats just frustrating, i also do ignore the phone sometimes but its still 3 times at least when i dont answer!!
2007-02-27 00:03:44 · update #1
Well first of all, you dont have answer the phone! You can choose to ignore it or put it on silent. He will then get the point. Or you can just say "dad, i love you alot, but can we limit our phone conversations to three times a day, or once a day?"
2007-02-26 23:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is only doing it because he cares for you. Why don't you got and visit him on the weekends or one day during the week if that is possible and have dinner with him, and ask him if there is anything wrong, because maybe he is worried about something or he is worried about you and he just wants you to make the first move by asking if things are okay.
Don't be mad at your dad because if anything were to happen to him you would miss his phone calls. You can't tell him not to ring you because that would really hurt his feelings. The only things you can really do is deal with it or tell him when he rings the first time that you are going out later so you won't be in later. But obviously something is worrying him so talk to him and try and find out what it is
2007-02-27 07:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In spite of what others have said on here I don't think it is healthy to call every day, let alone 2-3 times a day - he is in effect stalking you and that is a bit scarey even if he is your dad. I think you will have to stop answering the phone and hope he gets the message. If he asks you why you don't answer say nicely that although you love him and love hearing from him he is invading your privacy and you want to relax when you come home from work. Good luck. NOTE: In view of the additional information you have put on since I answered this, your father is being totally unreasonable waking you at 10pm - pull the plug out the phone and switch your mobile off. I think there is no point ***** footing around this any longer so you have got to tell him straight that he is harrassing you and it has got to stop. Good luck.
2007-02-27 07:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see this is really frustrating you. If he hears your frustration, he will probably call more often trying to smooth things over. Sounds like he is really lonely and misses you, while frustrating to you, it is really quite sweet. I'm sure that frustrates you more.
Try this....Dad I love you too and love to talk, but I have got to sleep and just have some time to unwind. After a certain time, I will turn off my ringer, so please don't call and don't worry. If it's an emergency leave a msg and i'll call ya back when I can.
Then after a certain time, don't answer the phone. I wouldn't turn it off, just in case there is an emergency, but after a few days or a week, he will think your phone is off.
2007-02-27 08:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by ggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have anyone else to speak to during the day? It sounds to me as if he needs a hobby or an interest to get him out of the house and meet new people. You could try telling him that you are not going to be home for the next few nights, as you are working late or going out straight after, and set a day when you will be able to speak to him. If he thinks you have a hectic social life, he may take the hint.
2007-02-27 08:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the similar problem with my parents in law, however together with my husband we decided to do something about these everyday conversations about anything. So one day we simply told them that there was no point in repeating the same information every day and next WE would call them if something important happened... and now they call us/ or we call them only on weekends :)
So, my advice is, tell your father that YOU call him if anything happen or simply at weekend, give him the exact day and time, and do not answer any calls from him till that time. If you answer, however, tell him that YOU were supposed to call him on weekend not TODAY. But remember to call him on the day.
Show him that you have your own life and he doesn't have control you all the time.
Hope it will help....
2007-02-27 08:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by didi1083 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just hate phones but that is cause i work on them all day long! I would just ask him to call every other day but explain why tell him you have got other things to do and that when you get in you just need to chill. Be nice he only cares and don't lie you will get caught!
2007-02-27 07:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Girlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad a couple a months ago. You will never know how much you will miss those calls unless you lose him. I would do anything to have 1 of those calls from my dad, so everytime he calls think of it as being your last conversation with him..then it wont drive you crazy!!!
2007-02-27 09:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And do you have kids? I have kids that are grow just about and I call them everyday, just to let them am thinking of them and love them. Give your dad a break he means well and if he didn't care he wouldn't call you.
2007-02-27 08:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by reeree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you tell him not to call you at all and that you will call him once an evening when you have the spare time and eventually every second then third or you could get him a mobile so he can text and tell him your phone will only accept a text
2007-02-27 07:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kenny K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋