what should i think?

Question

my bf of 2 years got me the most beautiful necklace for my birthday this past week-i was shocked when i saw how much he paid for it (there was an insurance appraisal note inside the box-1500.00!!) he was really nervous about me not liking it and had even called his mom for help picking it out and called his best friend (a guy) about it when he was buying it.

everytime he refers to it-he calls it a ring ("when i went to pick out your ring" , "the place where i went to get your ring", etc) and i don't know if i should think anything from this?

we've talked marriage before but are still living separate (he has a house and me an apt w/my 3 kids that i have part-time, which he adores)

he said it was the most money he's ever spent on a girl (he even used part of his rebate from his credit card to pay for it)

i was so grateful and felt so lucky to have it!!

but y does he keep referring to it as a ring? could he be thinking of proposing too?

oh and it's the first piece of jewelry he's ever bought me and he's NEVER spent even close to that on me before-i cried when i opened the box!!

i just want everyone who reads this to know how truly grateful i am to have him in my life-and it has nothing to do with the necklace-he took me AND my 3 kids on-no questions asked and at the time-my youngest had just turned 2 and was till in diapers. he's never been married and has no kids of his own

i hope that i'm not appearing stuck up,ungrateful or greedy-i do feel truly blessed...

Answer 1

I think you're very lucky too and he must think you're wonderful to go out and do something like that.

I think that if he refers to it as a ring then he is definitely thinking of marrying you but he thinks it's not time just yet. Maybe he thinks you haven't been together long enough, or is worried you'll think it's too early, maybe he's wondering how you're going to sort things out so you can live together with your kids. Maybe this was a way of seeing how you'd react to a precursor to a proposal.

No matter what's on his mind, he does seem to think that gving you the necklace is a pre-cursor to marriage and as long as you reacted in a positive way, he intends to marry you. Make sure he knows how delighted you are and how you think he's a great guy and you're lucky to have him. I'm sure he'll summon up the courage to take the next step quite soon!

Answer 2

It is a very simple thing. Women have so many small things to wear from different types of clothes to various types of ornaments. All of them have different names. There are men who are not that much interested in knowing & remembering each & every such small things.
So, I guess he may not be aware of the fact that he can not use the word "Ring" in place of a "Necklace".
For example: A Punjabi Dress (Punjab state, India country) includes three clothes. Chuni, surval & comiz. I know about chuni and how wear that. But I am always confused about surval & comiz. One is used as a top and the other you wear like a pent. But which one is on top and which one to wear at the bottom...God knows... It is called Pujabi dress that's it...

So, he may be in love with you..just propose him... He is difinetely serious about what he is doing and what he wants. He is just hesitating about how to start or propose... Go Ahead.. All the Best and God Bless you both

Answer 3

It just may be too soon to pop the question but the time is near.. and the fact he may have a bit of buyers remorse of not the amount but what the item is. Hes spent his wad on a necklace so how much should he now have to spend on a ring?

I would ask him if he really wanted to buy a ring.. he may just want to know if your ready for one.

Answer 4

Maybe hes just getting a bit confused, you know men they cant tell the difference between a dress and skirt so jewellery to them maybe all the same. Next time he mentions the ring just say dont you mean necklace? Or maybe he has secretly bought you a ring to and keeps putting his foot in it! Good luck either way, you'll know soon enough if he is going to propose but try not to get your hopes up.

Answer 5

Well, what i would have thought is that he got two things together. The neckless and the ring. And he forgets not mentioning to you, or trying to 'clip your mind' so to see if you'd accept marriage or ask a question to him, just in case he's afraid as you may be afraid about marriage...

i am excited now for you, you will make me loose sleep.
could you inform me more about this? if he doesn't give you a ring, i will go break his home and force him to buy you one, come on! Men should read women's mind!

DON'T BE LATE BOY, GO FOR THIS LADY AND BUY HIM THE RING NOW, OR ELSE I'LL CALL HER MOTHER TO CHOOSE A GOOD SIZE AND DESIGN!

Answer 6

I understand how you feel. Of course you are grateful but you have every right to be feeling the way you feel.

A lot of situations are depending on you and how you feel, he is already figured out he likes you....as for you, you need to sort out your feelings and see what you want.....if you want to be "his future wife", then leave the subject alone, be happy and hope he proposes one day, if you DON'T want to be his wife, then you must wait a couple of days...for things to cool down, and start to mention to him, that you are so glad you are not married and do not have any intentions of doing it again....bla bla bla

See what he does... he might agree with you..and just appreciates you as a friend...a very special dear, close to his heart friend..,..who knows...

Answer 7

well, he is the one referring to it as the ring...I think the ? is coming soon...why don't you ask him what he means? you can only know if you ask...just ask, "Does this mean you want to marry me? It is quite an expensive present for a birthday and you keep calling it 'a ring'."
I hope so if you really love him and you both get a long real well...Good luck

Answer 8

Perhaps he was too scared to buy a ring! It is a scary step. Relax about it, joke even. 'Have you seen my ring?'. It is what it is, maybe even more in time. If you are that anxious, why don't you propose to him!?

Answer 9

YOU SHOULD ASK HIM STRAIGHT THAT WHAT DID HE BUY FOR YOU ON YOUR B-DAY ! TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE SERIOUS AND IF HE STILL SAYS RING THEN YOU KNOW WHAT HE PRESENTED YOU .HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO REMEMBER THAT IF HE REALLY BOUGHT YOU A NECKLACE .BECAUSE IF YOU LOVE SMONE YOU SPEND A LOT OF TIME LOOKING FOR A SUITABLE THING .ASK HIM WHY HE KEEPS TELLING RING WHEN HE GIVES YOU THE CORRECT ANSWER.--NECKLACE.

Answer 10

be thankful for what u have with this man, he may have your ring already picked out, and in layaway. he will propose soon, you are his world, his priority in life, he is more than serious about u. he worries about your feelings, and if u will like something.