My Ex of 4 years plus we have a child met a girl 2 weeks after we split and has now informed me that they are moving in together. It's only been 3 months I think it's to soon.What does every one else think?
2007-02-26 22:57:47 · 17 answers · asked by j25d11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My ex husband and I were married for 14 years and he had a woman moved into the house we shared 3 months after our divorce and one month after meeting her. They have been living together for about 3 months now and she is helping him to raise our children when they are there (which is only 2 days every 2 weeks) but yes I thought it was to soon.
He was very abusive to me and about a month ago my daughter came home from her dads and wet the bed 3 nights in a row, that tells me he is the same with his new woman. But my hands are tied. Legally there is nothing I can do unless he hurts the kids.
I understand your pain but the only advice I can give you is to be strong for your kids. Unfortunately they will know what your ex is really about someday.
2007-02-26 23:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases yes. But it depends on how he feels about this girl. He may have spent abit of time with her and feels that its right, could be a matter of convenience for them both or he may just be on the rebound. It must hurt you to know he's moved on so soon after your break up. Your a free lady now, don't get hung up on the choices he's making now, think positively on creating a new future for yourself. All the best
2007-02-26 23:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't really talk. My husband (of 16 years) and I moved in together after 3 months of knowing each other.
BUT
I think it's way too soon considering she just came out of a 4 yr. relationship.
2007-03-02 11:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyKaycin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is way to soon. i would wait over a year to be in a relationship before i move in with someone, especially after getting out of a 4 yr relationship.
2007-02-26 23:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are broken up it really isn't any of your business, however, I suspect that he'll do the same to her as you... ever heard the saying "why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free"? If he were marrying her, it would be different, but he's just "shacking" up... my husband and I were married after 6 months...we're still here 10 years later... my point: he sounds like a mooch and you should be happy to be rid of him!
2007-02-26 23:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends on how well you know the person, and how you feel for them.
My current boyfriend and I moved in with each other after dating for three months, and let me tell you something::::::: BE SURE YOU WANT TO DO THIS BEFORE YOU SIGN A 12 MONTH LEASE!!
When him and I moved in together I didn't know that he would be lazy and not clean up after himself. And on top of that dealing with his disgusting habits...eew!! Ya its a pain.
2007-02-26 23:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by 88776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes too soon. There is a lot more in a person than meets the eye.
2007-02-26 23:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by kuntakinte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no control over his situation. I agree that does not seem like a good decision to make but he must make his own decision. I advise you to maintain a decent relationship with him because of your child but you must move on in terms of your desire to be with him.
2007-02-26 23:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is to soon but you have to let them learn from their own mistakes. You cant tell them anything, they arent going to listen to you just let them learn but keep an extra close eye on your child because they always get hurt by our mistakes.
2007-02-26 23:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your X is just that.....your X. The fact that he is your childs father is a different issue. Your in control of you, not him. Pray for him and wish them luck. Rise above that side of you that has trouble letting go.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 23:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by meemadee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋