my girlfiend of 2yrs and 8mnths broke wth me just a month ago. now she had already a boyfriend but we still see each other until now. we still do things what ordinary couples do. i respect her a lot that i dont want her to do that thing. i even decided not to see her but i still love her. what will i do? i will still see her or i'll make the move not to see her anymore. whats her purpose why she still wants us to see each other. does she still love me?
2007-02-26 22:49:30 · 14 answers · asked by john 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should wipe the slate clean and make a new start without her. It sounds to me like she just dos'nt want to be on her own so she kept you hanging on until she found someone else. She does obviously still have feelings for you but in the wrong way. Maybe just as a friend. You should'nt wait around for her if shes met someone else then maybe you could to. I think you've done the right thing not seeing her anymore, its time to move on!
2007-02-26 23:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so plain clear, but your love for her do not allow you to see it clearly. Let me explain. Your gf broke up with you (though I dont know if it was from your side, from hers or mutual), she conveniently moved on to another guy, and she still conveniently sees you too (when you say ''seeing'', i assume it could be date, or just seeing as in a freindship). This is just to avoid her ''guilt'' that she has moved on, found another guy, but feels guilty about you. Therefore, to cover her own guilt, and the fact that she has now found a relationship, she still sees you and keeps you hanging. This is an emotional mess. She is going on with a guy now, and she is seeing you. Let us say, if she came back to you, how sure are you that she wouldnt leave you again in a few months. If it was easy for her to move on, you should move on too. This idea that she may be loving you would finally drain you emotionally cos' you will always be in doubt of her sincerity. Move on. Thats that. Nothing less, nothing more.
Get on with your life, cut off from her for a while. Cut off mmeans no communication, no ''how are you'', no ''i love you's, and no saying I am alright. Keep her guessing, while you get yourself involved with people who are worth it. You will find someone I am sure. And the reason I tell you to cut off is, you are just giving her the satisfaction that you will be around incase her present relationship turns bad, and she knows your affection towards her, allowing her to conveniently keep you on the side while maintaining her other relationship. Put a stop, no matter how much it will pain you. Do not melt, cos' you are only being ignorant on what exactly she is up to. Let go, and keep away....slowly your life should be pulling out to be normal, and you'd be far away from this moment. And you would be glad that you got rid of someone unfaithful and confused.
But then again, if you really do want to know, and give this relationship another chance, have a talk wihtout being leniant, and draw a line somewhere...and then see what her response is, you know what to do then..
P.S. John, got your note, but couldnt reply within the email, my pc needs to be thrown out..But on your question why she does that, is best known to her, us being normal humans can only assume that she is confused, immature, quite flattered at the enjoyment and attention you provide, with another partner by her side. Why she does that, is simply that. You are having a tough time to accept it, I think you shud accept it...no other way. Or else, you could always continue, but I know for sure you'd be hurt anyway, at the end of it all. I hope you dont want to be so easy for her...please do move on..
2007-02-27 07:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP seeing her. The reason she keeps going back to you is because she knows yo will always be there. I don't think she still loves you. If she did, she would of never got a boyfriend. Women like to toy around men, and it looks like she is having the time of her life. It might be hard at first, but you need to get over her. You'll be glad you did! Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-07 00:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by princess froggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you wasted 2 years and 9 months of your life? She is using you and obviously does not have the same feelings... ummmm look she has moved on and has another boyfriend...She is playing you! YOU my dear are so much better than her. I would act if she didnt exist and try to move on and start a new relationship with someone you will devote 100% of themselves to your relationship...
2007-03-06 18:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by *G* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to see her is your best move you gave her plenty of space and you gave your self some space too try to socialise again
try to meet other girls maybe you will find somebody that you will like someone that you can focus your feeling if she loves you?
hard to say because if she loves you she will not get another man
maybe she just need you as a friend
so move on and goodluck
2007-02-27 07:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her string you along... she wants her freedom to date other men, but still wants the comfort of having you around... tell her to get bent and move on, you're better than that and deserve to be treated as such!
2007-02-27 07:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants her cake and eat it to why would you want her anymore if she broke up with you then something was wrong dont ya think dont let her play you anymore let her go they say the ocean is really big with lots of fish so move on
2007-02-27 07:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres one quick way to find out- tell her youre going to start looking for another giflfriend! i guarantee you she will hit the brakes on her other guy or you one- you see we girls will take what we can get more if we can- and we do what we can get away with! ALWAYS! so you teach people how to treat you and youve been letting her think youll put up with it so she'll keep doing it. trust me, tell her and you'll get your answer
2007-03-07 03:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using you. so use her back. until u find some one else. at least u wont be lonely either. and if you love her then you'll be there to catch her when things dont work out.why not u only live once.
2007-03-06 19:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by jo.joggers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she still wanna be friends with you.. if you still love her.. then you should let her be happy with that other guy.. but im not daying to just let go like that... talk to her why she`s doing this.. why is she makng it harder for you? you derserve to be treated this way.. trust me this thing already happened to me.. but then i tried to ignore them and manage to stay friends.. its pretty tough for me.. and if you really love her so much.. and if you see her happy with him.. you should be happy for her.. and just hope the best thing will come for the both of them.. and one day, someday you`ll meet the girl that is for you, only for you.. who will love you and you will love. hope that helps.
2007-03-05 08:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Teardrops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋