i think somethings wrong wit my best friend?

Question

ok look my best friend since i can remember seems a li off i thik hes hurting inside when he walks and talks he looks at ground and he wont look anyone in da face he asks 4 permisiond to sit wit me when it should be agiven dat of course he can sit here i know ppl have hurt him but 2 wat extent i fear hes afraid 2 let go 4 some reason and i know its bad cause last week we had a small party jus 5 ppl and he was party animal drunk and yea he dance a lil dat was a lot of him there cuz he never dances in public but he was stll holding back we are r close so i dont know why not but at the begging of da semester his friend of 12 yrs just carried him infront of the entire collge i was ther i know he was hurting but he also dosent trust ppl he told someone and private secreat and they told da whole sophmore class then he was betraye alot but never b me wat can i do to help him he seems so akwardly hurt not only dat his family dosent care about him it seems im da only one hes got please help

Answer 1

1. u make him feel comfortable with u and then ask him out.

Answer 2

I didn't get the story very well, but I got an good understanding of what you was talking about. It seems as if his pass memories or something is bothering him, and he's stuck in a black whole, and can't find the light. It must hurt to live like that, and have nowere else to turn and living so painfully. I know people whos gone through it, so I kind of know whats goin on.
Help him find life again. Make him feel like if he ever has problems he can turn to you. Talk with him more if you can, and give him so good advice to help himself feel better. Try making him feel hes not alone, and sad. I hope this works bye!!!

Answer 3

Well, he sounds like he has low self-esteem. Which isn't surprising in someone who has had problems in their life. He sounds like he doesn't have a high opinion of himself anymore in that he feels he has to check with you that it's ok to sit with you, etc.
With the holding back from joining in with normal things in public... Has he always been a little quiet? Because it doesn't take much for a shy person to retreat into themselves or become depressed. Both of these things go hand in hand with low self esteem.
I know I tend to do those sort of things - I won't loosen up with other people - i.e. I would NEVER dance in public unless I was drunk - and I am afraid of being thought up myself or laughed at or pushy, so I tend to do silly things like asking if it's ok before doing something when i don't really need to ask. And I can't look anyone straight in the eye for long except for my family. Walking around crowds of people makes me very nervous and I look at the ground constantly. And for myself, I suspect I have Social Anxiety.
It could be that, or any number of things, really. All you can do if he isn't willing to talk openly about how he feels is to be there for him and be his friend. If he ever feels rejected by you chances are he will drift away.

Answer 4

Hi Blue,

Your concern is very nice of you.. @ this point, I think that the only thing that you can do is be there for your buddy.. Let him know that anytime that he needs someone that you can be the brother that he wished that he had...

Everyone needs someone, even if you were to say things like " I know the feeling, sometimes I feel as if I have no one when I need someone the most" OR " Sometimes it feels as if no one wants to hear me when I have personal issues" OR " they'll say things like " it's your problem deal with it or we do not want to hear it"

Let your buddy know that you do not know who you can trust to talk with when you feel those ways..IT JUST SEEMS AS IF NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR IT...AND I DO NEED TO RELEASE IT OR ELSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WILL DO..

Turn the table around as if you are going through the motion, and let him know then that if ever he needs to talk that you are there for him if he wants and that it really does not bother you...

Actually we can be each others support group..

Good luck with everything...I can actually feel your sincerity

Answer 5

well there really isn't much you can do... all you can do is be by his side and not betray him... after all, his problem is a trust problem and trust doesn't grow overnight... only time will help him heal and learn to trust once more. but with a friend like you around it shouldn't be that much of a problem! good luck wit ur friend! hope he gets better.

Answer 6

i answered ur question 3 times