Well we had a massive arguement but then resolved our differences I said that she didn't make enough effort getting in contact with me she said she would make more of an effort and she did, but now she has stopped phoning or txting me once again!, She has got friendly with my other mate asks her round her place asks her out even has asked her to her work do! I seem to get left out! Do you think I should just leave it be and get on with my life and I see if she does get in contact! And if she wants to see me! I feel she dosn't care anymore! I don't see why I should do all the contacting it should be 50 50!
2007-02-26 22:27:39 · 29 answers · asked by Purple Fairy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in this situation where I was the third person always being left out and it is extremely hurtful. I broke away from the friendship and made new friends and I was a lot happier for it - I was just being used. If you have to make too much effort with a friend then he/she is what I call a 'fair weather' friend - only there when they want something. She obviously prefers the other mate's company so I would let them both get on with it and move on yourself. Good luck.
2007-02-26 23:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with u. I agree a relationship works when there is love care and understanding from both the sides. If ur friend is ignoring u I think u should stop getting in contact with her any more. May be she feels that ur always available for her and she can get in contact with u whenever she wants. just ignore her and show NO CARE ATTITUDE and when she needs u dont be available for her, make an excuse like u were busy! and then make sure she gets to know that u were not busy when she needed u but u made an excuse that will effect her she might think that she is loosing on u and then she will get some sense into her and she will realise how important ur for her.
I think she got in touch with ur another friend may be she wants to make u jealous or then she really got bored of u. Give her some time to miss u.
bye.
2007-02-26 23:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Help me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was/is a really good friend you got to suck it up and try to reconcile. It seems as though your differences weren't truly resolved. This happened with me and I hadn't spoken to my friend for about 6 or 7 months. I finally called her and said "Look we have to resolve this because we've been friends for 9 years it's stupid to let that all go to waste because of something like this. I care about you and I'm not going to get off the phone until we resolve this." And now were even better friends than we were before.
Evidently this relationship is important to you because you're bothered by being left out and even posted an internet question about it. If you do eventually talk to her about it and she's not willing to put in the effort then it's time to move on.
2007-02-26 22:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it had been ur last attempt then fine else ring her up once again just a friendly chat dont blame her for anything and chat for as short as it can b in a friendly manner and leave the matter aside for a while. and let ur freind discover which wud b slowly and steadily whom she likes the most. in friendship also times come when one needs some space. let her work out if she comes back well and gud else move on with ur life. at least u wont b left guilty conscious in ur life. all the best.
2007-02-26 23:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by nice_lady559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathise with you, I've had friends to act that way before. My opinion, stop acting quite so interested or hurt by her not contacting you, or leaving you out, even if it does bother you! Given a dose of their own medicine often brings them back around, and if it doesn't maybe you need to find a friend that reciprocates your appreciation for the friendship. Time will tell if she's a true friend or not. Just for the record, who wants to push themselves off on someone who doesn't want to hang with them, don't you deserve better than that? Hope it helps!
2007-02-27 07:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently told my best friend that I felt exactly the same and I had been tellign her for a while and she always had and excuse but always had time to see other friends and this time I told her our friendship was over for good, as I did not want to be the one making all the effort. Explain again to her and see if she changes but if not then just leave her and find someone who will treat you as you should be.
2007-02-27 03:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read somewhere that ''friends are there for a reason, some are there for life, some come and go, and when they go its because the reason for them being there is done' or something along those lines. Move on my dear, she has moved on and if it was meant to be, you will be friends again. On the other hand why are you so upset, don't you have any other friends?
2007-03-02 07:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Babe K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i had the same argument with my friend it's tough but we sorted then she is doing same thing all over again i have decided to leave it be when she calls now if i'm not doing something else i go down but if i am i don't. Just do your own things she doesn't like this now but we can't just be there at there beck and call when they decide they have nothing better to do good luck babes and i feel for you cause been through it :)
2007-02-26 22:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swallow your pride and take the first step. If you move on, it can become a nasty habit and you'll end up losing valuable friends along the way. Believe me, I know. You may find it's some small unresolved issue or nothing at all.
Only move on when all else fails. It builds character and good judgment.
2007-02-26 22:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by byam64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be don't belittle yourself your friend obviously doesn't want to get in touch
Maybe your friendship has run its course
Leave the two of them to it their friendship might fizzle out
Get out and meet new friends leave her get in touch with you from now on
She cant really be much of a friend to let a quarrel come between you for long
2007-02-26 22:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋