I'm 20 and my husband is 22. Well, I Think im pregnant its been almost one week and ive never been late. Anyways Ive been married for almost 2 years im fixing to start a job selling cars but before i fixing to do that i havent worked since december. and my husband is working 8.50 hr bi weekly so we don't have much and hes telling me if i dont get anbortion i can pack my stuff up and leave. I don;t believe in anbortions and I love my husband and i want to do everything i can for him but i think hes kinda cross the line i need some help please!!!!
2007-02-26 21:52:04 · 19 answers · asked by sweet_angel180 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he should not be giving u ultimatums like this, he needs to go out and attempt to get a better paying job, he is wrong, and selfish, u can still work and be pregnant, but u can never bring back a baby u have aborted.
2007-02-26 22:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very simple. He obviously is not ready for any children which is why he is giving you an ultimatim. Since this is your body you need to make a decision. Either have the abortion and keep your husband or get the abortion and lose him. If you two had sex without any kind of birth control (condom, pill, etc) then you should have thought about that before you had sex. Now you are faced with a difficult decision. Either way...you will end up doing most of the work in regards to this baby that you may be carrying. Also...just because you don't believe in abortion doesn't mean that it is not effective. You need to make a decision and fast before you pass the point of no return (in regards to your alleged pregnancy). If you chose the path of abortion...get on some kind of hormonial birth control (after the procedure). if you don't have any insurance then you need to get some. if you cannot afford any...seek out your local planned parenthood office.
2007-02-27 04:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not abort this baby if i were you and why in the world does he want you to have an abortion. Just pack your stuff and leave him then if he does not want this baby. Get that job you want and stay with family or a friend for now til you can get a place of your own and file for divorce. You are right in this one. Have you taken a pregnancy test yet? You can always get on wic and welfare too to help out with things. Why in the world is he only working that short of a time? Why does he not get a better job with longer hours? He needs to step up to the plate and be a real man and get a REAL job with more hours and better pay so that he can afford you and this baby. If he will not then you get the job to support this baby and forget about him. JMHO He chose to have the sex too and because of that he needs to step up and take responsibility if he is going to be a dad. Killing this precious baby is not the answer at all.
2007-02-26 22:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First things first, we need to find out if ur pregnant indeed...... get urself one of the pregnancy test to be sure, then sit down with ur husband and discuss the possibility's..... raising a child is not an easy thing I say don't have any unless ur truly ready on the other hand whats done is done start making preparations for the new life u and ur husband will be responsible for.
2007-02-26 22:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both make good points.
So the question isn't who is right or wrong, but how will the two of you come to a solution that is supported by both of you?
The way I see it, you have three choices:
Have and keep the baby.
Have the baby and give it up for adoption.
Abort the baby.
If you are against abortion, but agree with his assessment that you are not ready, then why not have the baby and give the child up for adoption?
If you are not willing to have an abortion, don't.
2007-02-27 00:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, he's right in that you two are in no position to have a baby; BUT, the reality is you are pregnant; you are right to do what you believe in; so you are BOTH right; but that won't feed the baby. I would be saying bye to any man that told me I had to get an abortion or I have to leave....tell him to leave, he can pack his crap and go. Obviously, this wasn't the plan, but now you are on a different road.....it's the way life works.
Nothing is ever as bad as it seems at the time; everything works out, one way or another.
2007-02-26 21:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off I would check to see if you are pregnant (you said think so I'm thinking that means you don't know and a week late doesn't always mean you are, can be other reasons you may be late). If you do a test and it comes out positive, I would think long and hard about what you want if I were you and approach your husband about the situation. Tell him what you are thinking, get him to express his feelings, if you can't agree and he is insisting you have an abortion and it really isn't what you want, then you will have to consider what is more important to you, the baby or your relationship.
2007-02-26 22:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by OziGirl_222 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Having children should not be an accident...you guys should have talked about things and you know your financial situation...I love my husband and all of that is nice ,but when you too and the kid have no money to live, then the love will go out the window trust me.
It is difficult to tell you what to do...you must first find out if you are indeed pregnant or not....then you can go to step 2. I will never tell you drop your unborn baby, but you must have thought about it before it happened...now what???? don't do the same mistake, you MUST talk and both YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND decide what you are going to do...........
2007-02-26 22:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think of its significant to look at what keep the receipt is from besides as what became into offered. it may desire to provide you clues to no count if he became into skipping artwork to do something he shouldnt have been doing. If its something basic, like groceries, possibly the time became into incorrect. attempt and think of returned to while he offered the article on the receipt. possibly its from a furnish keep and he had to p.c.. something up for his workplace? If that doesnt help, i could call, or pass to the keep, and ask the cashiers if the time is frequently precise and that i could enquire with regard to the article that became into offered on the receipt. as quickly as returned, if its something minute, I wouldnt trouble approximately. yet of course if its something that he shouldnt have been paying for then you could desire to certainly deliver it up.
2016-10-02 01:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by dyett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot afford a baby. You should not have it now. It can be very expensive and difficult.
I think your husband is right.
You both are young and can wait to have a child.
Schooling, food and all other expenses right now will be difficult for the both of you to manage.
So I think you should wait.
2007-02-26 22:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋