My husband is addicted to Internet Pornography. He hides it & is sneaky about it. We've argued about it in the past, and I thought it was over with, but I noticed him acting differently and a few days later found pornography on our computer. He swore months ago that he'd stop (he tried Sex Addicts Anonymous SA) I can't trust him and am considering a divorce. I think the porn is getting the best of him-HELP!
2007-02-26 21:21:56 · 11 answers · asked by Soon to be mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel as if my husband is addicted to internet pornography. He is sneaky about it, and doesn't come out in the open with it. He tried stopping in the past, when it really got in the way of our relationship, but gave in just recently. He says he'll stop, but he won't and I don't feel comfortable with it being so secretive. TRUST is diminishing, and I don't know if I'm making too much of a big deal or if my feelings are valid. HELP!
2007-02-26 21:49:27 · update #1
Some of you have asked what it has gotten in the way of. The first time we went through this, it was getting in the way of him desiring me anymore, and when he did-he would be passionless and seemed to be in another world. THAT'S how I found out what he was doing, after I realized it affected our sex life. He also would get nothing accomplished, while I'm busy saving our money, paying off debts, going to school full time, and working full time. Then he stopped, and started a few weeks later, then stopped.... and now, here we are.
2007-02-27 09:42:42 · update #2
My heart really goes out to you, I dont think enough people realise how it makes the partner of a porn addict feel. Inadequate, unattractive, repulsed, shall I go on?
My husband has done the same, even after 'promising' to stop. Its the whole sneeky way they go about it, waking up at 3 in the morning, husband not there beside you, yep hes on the porn site.
I am often told that I am very attractive, nice eyes, teeth, natural 38G boobs, and a cute butt, I am not a prude ,infact i am a confessed nympho, bedroom is full of sex toys, cruthless outfits, and also an x Ann Summers party host. There is nothing I dont like to do regarding sex, my fave is anal persoanlly and yes I swallow, so why he did it, I dont know..It is addictive, I understand after a hard days work maybe a 'handy' job is a lot less physical than the wife.
I am still with my hubby, 'think' porn has stopped, but I dont feel or look at him in the same way now adn prob never will.
Your more than welcome to email me and chat further, all the best sweety x (crazycow22523027@aol.com) alternative email.
I wish you all the in what you decide to do, your more than welcome to email me and chat further.
2007-02-26 21:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Uhm, your husband isn't addicted to internet pornography nor does he have an illness. He just doesn't want to stop looking at pornography. Really, if you thought it was over, then I'm guessing that your sex life went back to normal? If it did, why are you so upset with the porn? Everyone has to masturbate sometimes. It's part of a healthy sex life. Porn? It's the lazy persons fantasy. Go buy yourself a vibrating and stop nagging about the porn unless your sex life is in a mess, then seek a qualified sex therapist none of this "sex addicts anonymous" crap.
2007-02-26 21:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know for sure, but it sounds like you are making a big deal of it... you don't say what his like of internet porn is getting in the way of? Has he quit his job, is he not there for you, when you want him? Or are you just "bothered" that he'd look at things erotic?
You didn't mention if he'd rather look at porn than have a great time of sex with you.... make me wonder.
2007-02-27 03:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 01:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men have been looking at porn since they started puberty!
Why try to change him? Its just one of the things you should let him know you disapprove of it and he has a choice, you or internet porn.
You can also get porn blockers to block internet sites.
2007-02-27 09:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by hotstuff15951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can install NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2007-02-27 15:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by beyondhelper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously look what you are up against and think to yourself can I compete? Does he get Internet porn when wants? Does Internet porn nag him? Does Internet porn love him?
2007-02-26 21:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Going for professional help doesn't stop the behavior overnight.
If you want to make the marriage work you should see a therapist on your own.
If you want results immediately it's not going to happen.
2007-02-27 01:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he can kick it - he doesn't WANT to. You need to make him see that him doing that is disrespectful to you, your marriage, and women generally. Time for marital counselling.
2007-02-26 23:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at it with your husband, maybe it will spice up your love life and give him something else to do....
2007-02-26 21:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋