This Quest is for parents who LOVE being a parent and believe it's the most important thing it their lives?

Question

I am a 28 yr old guy, married a couple of yrs ago, my wife is 32. We discussed having children a while ago and decided we both don't have what it takes right now. It's quite complicated, coz we moved to a new country, don't have much of our own, but besides the financial strains and not being to provide too much, something else troubles us even more. We seem to not have that desire to produce offsprings, to make "others" like us. We're both Christians, we believe and trust God and sometimes wonder what He would like...It's quite difficult but I kno if I'm ever gonna have children it's gonna be coz I really-really want them. How do U feel (happily parents)? WHat drove U to become one? What did U feel at those moments, how did U decide? These things are very important for me coz I want to learn from the experience of others. And also I kno, no matter what I'm still gonna love and adore my wife, she's like my baby sometimes and I'm her baby to her. Answers will be highly appreciated !!!

Answer 1

i'm not a parent but i am basicly to my little nephew jacob... he calls me mom and he calls my husband dad, we are the only thing he hes and we love him he loves us....his mother or father can not see him by law..we love taking care him, he brings us so much joy, he learns from us, we learn frome him, eversince our whole life has been diffrent, its like nothing i can describe....me and my husband still have the sme bond...only we have a bond with our "son" to we love it it is so great....he is the cutest, plus hopefully he willcarry on our last name, and then we will be grandparent, that will open up a whole new world of joys, and excitment.........................hope it helps

Answer 2

I am not a parent. And never will be. I am childfree by choice and have never wanted any children. To be honest...it's too much work. I don't disrespect those that chose to have children. In fact I give them much kudos because being a parent is not an easy task. I just wish that I would receive the same amount of respect in return. Don't try to make yourself be a parent or make yourself force to have them. Because you could end up resenting yourself later on in years. The way I see it...the decision to have children is just that...a decision...a choice. I think that people add their own reasons for having children (it's Gods will, the bible says such and such, just because it happened, or whatever reason they chose to use). Nobody is going to 'make' you have children. Besides this world is over-populated as it is and the earth's natural resources are being strained as it is. I am a pround antie. And I am also a pet-mommie to my cat whom I adore. I would suggest for you to offer to babysit for a half a day or a day or maybe a weekend so that you can really get the full understanding of what it may take to raise and keep children before jumping into this decision. Too many people don't stop to really think about what it will take to have and raise children until it's after too late. I applaud you for asking some questions in regards to the decision to have children but it may take some first-hand expierence before really deciding that. So offer to voluteer someplace that has children, or babysit. Then make your decision. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are 28 and your wife is 32. Your wife is still at the age of child bearing, I am saying this because medically it is a risk to plan for a baby after the age of 35. There are medical compications when it comes to pregnancy. Children are a blessing from God and if you decide that you do not need that blessing no one can blame you. but let it not be that one of you knows the real reason why you guys can not have children and is hiding behind the reason that the two of you call each other babies. You may say that you do not need children but if whenever you see a guy holding his baby in his hands you have that feeling that you should be holding yours that could be a dream that needs to be fullfilled. Have you checked with your doctor if both of you are in a position to make babies or if both of you are medically ok to can reproduce? If you have done that and you are sure that you can make a baby but you made up your minds not to do it that is a choice one has to respect. Well having a baby is exciting and there is that sense of responsibility. There are things I could not achieve in life but since having a baby I can boldly go to God and say Father bless me so that I can leave inharitance for my children and childrens childrens.

Answer 4

I, too, struggled with becoming a parent. I come from a family of 8 kids (no. 4) - -had plenty of experience with babies while growing up (4 younger siblings) and did not feel that desire to be a parent -- almost had my tubes tied at the ripe ol' age of 23 (doctor refused to do it) -- until I reached my mid-30's ......as a matter of fact, my then-husband and I were living separately -- contemplating a permanent split. We started "dating" again, and before we knew it, I ended up p.g......at the age of 35. We had our daughter, and I have to say, it's been the best thing I've ever experienced in my entire life. She is 16 now, just got her driver's license, discovered her first boyfriend (yes , the grey hairs are coming in 10-fold!) and will be off to college next summer -- She is the best thing in my life -- her father and I are divorced now (surprise -- if you don't fix the problems back then, they have a way of creeping up on you in the future) -- but we get along, he's a good dad (much better dad than husband) -- and we both love and value our roles as parents.
It's not for everyone -- only you know if it's right for you -- but I have to admit -- being a parent is the greatest honor you'll ever have on this earth. To guide another human being along this road we call life -- is just unfathomable to anyone who has not experienced this......You will discover a part of your heart that you never knew existed.....
Good luck!

Answer 5

I am 28 devoted mother of an 9yr old and a 4yr old. I would continue having more if I felt we could emotionally and financially. Ever since I was 15 people would ask what I wanted to do when I grew up and I said get married and have kids. All I have ever wanted out of life is to be a wife and mother. I have fulfilled that wish and although it can be hard and sometimes scary the good bits out-way the bad 10000000 fold. My children bring me more joy and happiness in one smile than you could imagine. If you really really want them then do it - it is the scariest most thrilling most fulfilling and satisfying rollercoaster you will ever ride on. I wouldn't change my life for the world

Answer 6

Hey i applaude u for being honest and not bringing a child in this world just because people say it is the right thing to do.... As for me well i got told it would be very hard for me to have children because of a medical condition so i never thought i could have them.... i fell pregnant by accident (we werent trying) and it was the most wonderful experience of my life.. i was scared how i would cope emotionally aswell as financially but all that faded when i had her... So my experience would be different from some others but i had no doubt that i would have her and she is the most important thing in my life.... But if u feel that u have no desire to have children then dont have them until u both are ready otherwise u could end up resenting them....Goodluck.... dont let people sway u in ur decision not to have them each to their own.......

Answer 7

I am 46 and I have 2 daughters and 2 grandkids. I love them with a kind of love that is hard to describe. Without them in my life , I think that I would feel empty. I would look back at my life and wonder what I had really accomplished if I didn't have them. I am amazed when I see the things that they do and how beautiful they are and I know that I did this. I made these 2 wonderful girls with my body and I am so proud of them and they fill my life with so much happiness. I would only have material things if I didn't have my kids. To me they are my biggest most precious gift that I was blessed with that I have to show for why I existed.

Answer 8

I'm a father of two. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world. They're not perfect but they're good kids and raising them has been a lot of fun.

I really enjoyed watching them grow up, experiencing life, even the small things such as learning to walk, talk, their first ice cream cone, my son having his first crush on a girl, etc. It's also fun to see them develop traits that you or your wife have that you never taught them, they just seem to pick up on their own such as food tastes, sense of humor, etc.

I was at their birth and it truly changes your life. If you're waiting on the "perfect time", you'll never have kids. Yes, they're not cheap, they're hard work and you may have to sacrifice some of the things you want for what your child needs (wanting and needing are two entirely different things!).

All in all, it's worth it. If you want kids, you better start knocking them out (your wife isn't getting any younger).

Answer 9

It was just natural for us, once we were married, to want to share our lives by bringing a child into the world. An expression of our love, something to share together, and the journey has been wonderful!

Answer 10

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