If your child was asking for sexual advice on Yahoo Answers, what would you do?
2007-02-26 20:23:06 · 32 answers · asked by Bud#21 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Put a watchdog on your computer, limit computer use & have a serious chat with your child.
2007-02-26 22:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's curiosity. What age??(should be over 13 to be on here)
Honestly, I wouldn't like it. There are a lot of Jokers and Pervs on here( if you believe what they type!), and they might misinform or try it on (I would worry) have you ever been on midnight-2am?Can be very smutty.
I would want to find a site run with guidelines I approve of, specifically tailored to the relevant age range , that gives accurate and honest info.
This looks like a very negative reaction, it's just that I've seen a few teenage girls asking "why is everyone here so mean?" and I'm not sure youngsters have the ability to discount and not be upset by the answers they get.
I have seen at least one guy boast about how he purposefully gives wrong (but credible) answers in the homework section.
If your youngster is going to stay completely safe , and has the mental strength not to let the bad stuff in, take it all with a pinch of salt, then I suppose it's a good place to ask about stuff. They may want to think about their privacy issues, and how they would feel if they lost their anonymity.
Wishing you luck. You're a good parent, don't jeopardise your relationship, give yourself a few days to calm down and think of the right thing to do , I can't think what I would actually " do" in your situation , stay calm and do nothing for a bit, I suppose. You know the teenager will consider it a total breach of trust if they think you've been nosing in their private stuff, and you could end up with it all blowing up if you let on you've found out.
M : )
2007-02-26 20:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would look at the questions they were asking then sit my child down and let them know that i came across some things that they had been doing on the Internet and i was just wondering if there was anything they would like to talk about? and if they say no then that's when you bring up the questions and ask if you could help them with it. Just talk to your kid and get to know them on the subject. and see why they needed to resort to the Internet other than turning to you for advise. but what ever you do don't seem angry or upset cause that will cause them to become defensive if they feel threatened or think they are being attacked.
2007-02-26 20:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremysmom05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it is time to sit down and discuss a few things with them. You didnt say how old they were, but if they are curious then they will find their answers somehow, whether it be on here or in the school playground.
Its a parental responsibility, one of the last big ones, to make sure the child understands how it all works, what ramifications their actions can have, and allay any fears.
2007-02-26 20:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the age of the child and the kind of advice they were seeking. If they are asking about safety measures I'd be pleased as well as a little disappointed that they hadn't felt able to ask me. I'd probably write a reply and let them know I knew, and that I was there to give advice.
2007-02-26 20:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your child and give them the best advice you know!At the end of the day your the parent and its one of the more gruesome tasks!I'm sure your shild would learn far more from someone who put them here in the first place than some weirdo online!Alternatively take them to the doctors and let the doctor give them the nitty gritty or possiblytake them to a sexual health clinic and get leaflets etc?
2007-02-27 01:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends mostly on how old my child is.
But honestly, I think my first thought would be apprehension and worry. I think the person in me would starts panicking about the thought and start thinking of the worst case scenario.
Once the panic's gone and I've settled in, I think I'd be really pleased that my child is resourceful enough to understand things better through this medium instead of just jumping on to someones bed.
My 3rd step would be to subtly talk to my child without telling him/her that I saw his/her post on Answers!.
I'll try to get round the topic by not directly asking questions, so that we can hopefully talk about things like this openly. And so that I can guide him/her better.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 20:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by DeN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as a mother of a 15 year old boy I would be ok with that at least they are getting advice but also a little disapointed they had not talked to me but I guess it kind of depends on what advice they are asking for because they maybe just embarrased to ask you but I would say in my opinion thats ok because thats how you learn by asking reading etc
2007-02-26 20:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what they needed to know...
Or better still make up a user to answer them truthfully so they dont realise its mum or dad they are talking to.
More important If I had a kid they would not have to as would have covered it all and I mean covered it ALL in detail like the Lovers Guide videos and have dating queastions and what each likes and basbies and myths before hand...
So they would be the ones answering others questions.
i would be upset if they did not know stuff and check to see people were answering them truthfully.
My main concern would be innaccurate info so would put them only agencies like
www.childline.org.uk
www.4yp.co.uk
www.fpa.co.uk
www.brook.org.uk
www.lifeline.org.uk
www.lifelinepublications.org
http://www.lifelinepublications.org/catalogue.php?PHPSESSID=473789af35d8be97a77bfe96711047dc
www.drugscope.org.uk
www.talktofrank.com
www.ibogaine.co.uk
www.ibogaine.org
and yes that includes ones on drugs.
As a better source for info.
And tell them to check stuff with them...
I would very much want them to fall in love and have successful realtisohips I did not have at thier age.
They would have been taught pretty much everything well before age 9.
they agains and again and more relationship and dating stuff as they got older. So they young age would not be an issue...
And more detail as they got older.
2007-02-26 20:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps they are asking because that is what teens & pre-teens do. They are curious as to what is happening, why, etc. Kids do not just ask 1 person the same question. Remember, they need a variety to make up their own mind and turn into their own being. If this is the case, I would just explain that I know, that I am not mad, that I am curious as well as to why they want to ask by chat rooms. As long as they know that I monitor chats for their own safety, not for content, but just for the 'who' aspect, they are typically ok with it.
2007-02-26 20:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by mud 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16-year-old son. I check his account now and then to see if he's asking any questions. If he was just asking a general question I wouldn't be upset, but if he was indicating that he was sexually active, I'd be very upset and I'd probably lock him up until he's 18.
2007-02-26 23:59:30 · answer #11 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋