I am maried to this man for th elat 15 yrs. He is not anexpressive peron but he is an responsible father for my 3 kids. He had an affair with my friend who is also our family friend for the past 2 yrs. Now that lady's hubby came to know abt it and confronted my huuby and my hubby apologiesed. but this two selfish people still continue their communication and still carying on with their affoar. My huby i least bothered abt my feelings how much i am hurt bcos he keeps telling me he will not leave me and 3 kids for any women. NOw the women has ask for a divource from her hubby saying that he is not forgetting the ast and keeps hinting her everythime. SO she has decided to leave him, i told he the reason you are leaving yr hubby is it o continue this relationship with my hubby she said NO. she keep telling me she wants to live on her own and do wants to come out clean. Here i am lost and scared that with her hubby around she has many times went out with my man now that she leaves he hubby
2007-02-26 20:09:28 · 10 answers · asked by susan r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no way that this can end well. You should definitely move on. He's just going to cheat again. If not with her, then it will be with someone else.
2007-02-26 20:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I believe you have lost confidence in this relationship. In any relationship if one party have lost confidence or trust in their partner it is very hard to maintain the relation.
You should plan carefully on your future instead and not hang to a relationship that may not work out well.
2007-02-27 00:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please don't allow yourself to be treated like this, you are worth so much more. Your husband sounds like a true shithead, get out of the relationship and start LIVING. There are lots of support services around, good people to ring are the people at lifeline they are there 24hrs and can offer lots of support and good advice. You say he is a responsible dad, that's a plus, even if you do decide to leave him, I would, it does not mean that he still won't see the children. You really need to look after yourself now.
2007-02-26 20:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by judles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you still love your husband? does he love you still? because if he does, he wouldn 't have an affair with another woman. if i were in your place, i will divorce my husband and take my 3 kids. you see, no matter how much i love my husband, i still would want to maintain my self respect. and having another woman is a great insult to a wife. think about it. search your heart. the answer is there.
2007-02-26 20:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my friend it is so sad to hear this is happening to you and if there is anyone who has been through similar circumstances, it is me. SOmething like this is so soul destroying and hurtful and not only to you but to your children too.
You have to choose. You must do what is best for yourself and your children. Firstly this girl is no friend. Tell her to get out of your lives or you are going to sue her for alienation of affection. And do it if you have to. Secondly tell your husband that he has to choose because what he is doing is not fair to you and your children and you can not live this way any longer. Its either you or her. Either way you have no choice but to sue her and to sue him if he chooses to leave you.
Both are selfish people who I might tell you are not in love but in lust with one another. Sexually inflamed people like these two deserve all thats coming their way and they will get what they deserve. No one can build hapiness at the expense of others. What you sow, you reap. What they have sown will come back to them in a bad way, because they are sowing destruction and destroying the innocent people around them.
You must get help and most of all turn to God for help. He helped me through my crisis and restored it too. I came out the better for it! Seek the help of a marriage counsellor and ask your husband to join you. If he refuses to and starts lling you its your fault he did this tell him to stop pushing his selfishness off onto you. Its called transference of actions.
Dont listen to his promises. Words are mere wind if they are said idley and not lived up to. Your husband is very immature and lacks accountability and commitment. You must sue her for alienation of affection. Watch how quickly she dissappears off the scene. Shes no friend. Tell her to stay away from you through a lawyer and let your husband pay the lawyers fees as well!!!!
I wish you the very best in life and I hope you make the right decision. Life can sometimes not be fair and neither are most people nice either. They are just plain selfish! You have to make a choice - dont leave it!
2007-02-26 20:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 3 kids should be your number 1 priority and if you dont think they arnt seeing this you are seriously kidding yourself...Would you want your daughter to put up with this from her husband? Or your son to treat his wife like this? Show your husband youve got a backbone and tell him he ends it or you will.
2007-02-26 20:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wake up girl - your rotten hubby has got the best of both worlds you and the kids without a divorce settlement and his bit on the side, now she is living on her own he will be staying over there aswell
2007-02-26 20:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by SOJLO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From my experience ill tell my cousin flirted with man i love when we were just family friends and best friends.She did knowing she was married and i was in love with him.So they crossed few things like openly flirting with eachother in front of me.His side he said he was just best friends family friends with me.Her side was they were just friends which was a total lie.It came to a point when she realised he wasnt going to like or be with her when he came to know she was married which she had not told me or her so she blamed him abused him after continuing their thing for weeks.She blamed him for everything left him went back to her husband.She did not tell me anything even when i asked her he told me everything.So i kicked her out of my life,i told her husband its his marriage problem he should not involve me or my best friend and my love.So now we both my best friend and i are in love going to be together.Shes back with her husband and cheating on him again.From my experience let me tell u looks like shes like my cousin alot.Shes left her husband wanting to be with ur husband after fooling her husband and lying to you.Shes no family friend just like my cousin is no cousin of mine.Shes lying to you saying she wants divorce to be on her own if she gets it she will next ask her to husband to get divorce and leave u with kids.Please dont let it happen.First get a good lawyer dont file for divorce make it impossible for ur husband to get divorce from u even if he wants,so shell get tired of waiting and go chase some other man.Get property and money in ur kids name and ur name so ur secure,get urself a job start working even if ur husband leaves u can move on with ur kids.Think of ur kids.And honestly women like her dont last long she will go after another man even if ur husband goes to her trust me my experience my cousin is chasing other men now.As for her hubby get him to not divorce her make it hard for this woman talk to him tell him everything so u two can work together to save ur marriage.U know if ur husband leaves he deserves her they both are made for eachother just how cheated u and her husband they will cheat on eachother.Trust me from experience im telling u this will never work.Pray to god and i know what ur going through dont worry u have kids its time u live for them forget ur cheating husband and that woman shes no family friend shes a home wrecker ur husband will realise sooner or later what that woman is when she cheats on him too.God bless.Email me if u want to talk.
2007-02-26 20:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
divorce the cheater and kick her dam ***
2007-03-02 12:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be lost just think your future husband will love you more and more
2007-02-26 20:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋