How do I change her mind?

Question

My ex girl doesn't want to be with me because I hurt her. I didn't cheat on her or anything just broke some promises to her and didn't really trust her. I want her back and am willing to do whatever it takes. What am I supposed to do? If you're just gonna say move on don't bother answering

Answer 1

I'm sure she'll come around. If she loves you she will forgive you no questions asked. You probably just need to give her a few days to blow off some steam. Things seem like a much bigger deal right after they happen then a few days later we start to forget about them. If you are sorry for what you did and you really want to change her mind you should prove it to her. Do something that will sweep her off her feet. Ask her if you can see her to explain everything and talk about things with her. Bring roses of course! Then take her out for a nice dinner or better yet... play chef! Make her an awesome dinner with a romantic setting (candles, fresh cut flowers on the table, jazz music, etc.) and just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. I'm sure deep down inside beneath her anger she still has feelings for you and there's no way she can hide them if you do something like that!

Answer 2

Have you heard the saying, you can't change anyone except yourself?

You can't do anything to convince her that you've changed unless you really have changed and she is willing to give you another chance. An honest talk is the best. Being pushy or aggressive with her can only make her think it's a good idea to avoid her. She's probably going to want to talk about all the broken promises and get it all off her chest. It's not easy to listen to all your mistakes without getting defensive and pushing back.

If she refuses to talk about it at all then there really isn't anything else that you can do except try to contact her when she has calmed down more and see if she will talk then. But there is the chance that she does want to move on, and you'll have to get your mind around that possibility.
Good luck!

Answer 3

On these issues maybe let things rest for a while. Don't call her, just leave her alone and give her her space for a little bit. After that, maybe call her and see if she's willing to go out to dinner or maybe have a quiet private evening or something. Then it's a good idea that when you're alone and everything is calm, maybe talk to her about the promises you broke and how you regret everything that happened, and how you are willing to change. Don't pressure her, she will just reject you worse. Just tell her about how you know how you did wrong and how you are willing to change just to have another chance. Then let her make her own mind up, don't pressure her or annoy her. Hope this works!

Answer 4

You have to earn that trust back. Dont look at what you did as a mistake look at it as a lesson. What did you learn from it? Take that and put it into showing her that you know what you did and you have learned that it was wrong and that it will never happen again. Sometimes just the right words are enough, not all the material things or the showing. How do you show someone, you have to make them feel it. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and how being without her makes you feel, how you feel when you are with her...how hurting her made you feel. And how you could never see yourself making her feel that way again. Keep trying dont stop...If you love her you must make her see that. If she loved you she will and she will forgive you once she sees you are very sincere about what you say...

Answer 5

sit down with her, tell her what is really in your heart, u will need to show by your actions that u are willing to change how u behave. know what caused the split and make an effort to stop the behavior that hurt her. keep your promises to her, don't just promise and not deliver. keeping ones promises shows are true character.

Answer 6

You need to show her that you have changed and are will to make the sacrifice for the relationship, also you need to keep your promises to someone you care about, and stop hurting her. You'll will push her away. Conversations about the relationship and what each of you expect of the other would be a good start.

Answer 7

its will be hard for her to continue living with what you did but you can always prove to her that you change, IF you really did talk to her and trust her, comunication in a relationship is the key. Be nice to her and do some sweet or romantic thing to change her perseption of you, if you really love her dont give up. She will come back

Answer 8

Try to win her back. Keep your promises and dont make new ones you cant keep. Try proving this to her. But once you have her, trust her. you have to have trust in a relationship or nothing is going to workout for you. Good luck!

Answer 9

What are the promises you broke?, depending on what they were you should move on.

Example promise: Honey yes I will go to rehab I promise? six months later the person who made the promise is still on drugs.

Answer 10

awww Jake she must be very special to you ,,, well first you have to start all over like you just met her, all the romantic things you did then,, also you really must work on the trust issue , that's hard to deal with ,, but she still has many feelings for you and you know that but you must change your ways and continue being the man she first feel in love with and she will again :) hang in there i know all will be fine,, and i think you do too :)