What would you do if a long time friend suddenly started to insult your spouse one day? I jokingly told my girlfriend on the phone that my 22yr old husband was fat & immediately said just kidding-I love his fat(also jokingly), he's a (36x32) so, she said he had a fat ***, she thought he was ugly, he's dirty(he's a chimney sweep!) on and on. At first it seemed like she was joking~and of course I went along with it, while defending my husband 100 percent. I didn't speak to her for about a week until today, and told her she had pissed me off. She said, she was 'just being honest', and it's her opinion. The thing is, I'd never insult her husband like that-but now all I can think of is just the right moment to let her have it-and start insulting her 47yr old husband(she is 26). My husband says to tell her at least I'm not married to someone so old they fart dust...lmao...Does my friend deserve an insult back-to know how it feels?
2007-02-26 19:45:00 · 4 answers · asked by Little Jeannie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What gets me is that she had commented before on what a nice behind he had-even at one point pretending to reach out her hands behind him when he had his head under the hood of the car! Now it's a complete turn around. I couldn't help it, I didn't mean to insult my own husband-just that I was standing next to him patting his tummy and just kinda said he's getting fat lol (because I feed him so well!) lol...but still, she went on and on, and nothing about his tummy-but about his behind, and everything. Part of me thinks she is just jealous. Now she wants to know if my husband is mad at her too? why would she care? All she ever does is insult him. I believe I might have made her mad one day, when she was telling me things her husband does, and asked me what I would do-I said I wouldn't be with someone like that. She said, "not even if the money was good?" I've been re-thinking my friendship with her, ever since she said that-and then insulted my husband a few days later.
2007-02-26 20:24:28 · update #1
(the things her husband does, which I could not live with are-he is an alcoholic, calls her names and lies to her about pornography) & wants her to pretend to be a schoolgirl when they are intimate. I just would never be with someone like that.
2007-02-26 20:27:22 · update #2
hmmm her response was, she was just being honest-she doesn't find him attractive and that I should be GLAD she doesn't. She just so self-centered, or something...thinks every guy likes her, wants her...it's crazy
2007-02-26 20:33:03 · update #3
That depends on if you want to keep her as a friend. If you just play tit for tat and insult her back, she will come back with something else and before you know it there will be a lot of bad blood between you and it will be far to deep to get out of. You will ruin your friendship. If that is acceptable to you, go ahead and insult her. If you want to keep her as a friend, I would let it slide.
Now this doesn't mean that you should let her walk on you and insult your husband. Instead of playing the insult game I would suggest sitting her down, explaining to her that everyone has faults and strengths and that she may not like everything about your hubby, but if she wants to keep you as a friend she needs to keep her attacks of those faults to herself. You married him for his strengths obviously, and have overlooked his weakenesses. Explain how it made you feel for her to say those things and explain that it is not acceptable and that you would like an apology. By doing this you take the higher road and she will either show you that she values your friendship by appologising, or she will show you that her friendship is worth nothing and she will not comply, at which point, you don't need her friendship anyway. But Insulting her back will not even give her that chance.
2007-02-26 20:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by nemsethcszardescu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, even though you just joking about your husband weight, but still you the one who had brought up the issue. You started,and as a friend she just went along. She might have took it the wrong way of you were whinnying about your husband that you hated his weight. If you want other to respect your husband then don't even disrespected him yourself. Seems to me you did went a little over board. So just let it be, or don't talk to your friend anymore .I am sure she'll know why? Don't make it even more worse. Two wrong don't make it right.
2007-02-27 04:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have never insulted your husband in the first place even as a joke that gave her ammunition to fire back at you using your own missile now do it insult her back in the most bad way so she gets a taste of her own medicine dont let anyone insult or put down someone you love never ever let it happen.
2007-02-27 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by aguardianangel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She insulted your husband and if you do the same to her husband isn't it you are just like her not well breed? Don't stoop down to her level.
2007-02-27 04:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋