so are the children better off with 1 parent or 2, and does it affect their future?

Answer 1

Children are best (read: happy) when their mother and father are a happy family living in the nucleus, with each being parent a "god" to the child's maturing. The love; unconditional and conditional they absorb, can make them mature individuals who will one day create their own happy family. They are also influenced by their surrounding, though to a lesser degree; all the other families around them create the refference (social impregnation) to their maturing.

The worste option is a mother and father living together in an unhappy relationship. As hidden as it may appear, children sense it and it reflects. These later big children are likely to create their own unhappy relationships, or seek apparently happy relationships which rather fulfill their inner unhappiness, creating the neurotical circle of unhappy happiness...

In a separated parents family, children still seek for "gods" in their surrounding, which is not as bad as the worste option, although at certain age the respective seeks are crytical. Therefore, assuming that both parents love their children and respect each other (ideally), this might only make children create light bonding families, which is socially acceptable.

Answer 2

Depends on the parents, situation and the individual child.

Some kids are better off with adoptive parent(s), in care or being raised by their grandma or other relatives.

My ex became a drug addict after I had children. My children are better off with 1 parent and I think that they will have a brighter future because of 1 stable parent vs 1 parent running to save/fix the other parent and wasting that energy there.

Stability is what is best for a child no matter who is doing the raising.



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Answer 3

It all depends on how the parents get along. If the parents yell and scream at each other Than that becomes a problem The child picks up on what is going on. and it can affect them later on in Life. For If one Parent is raising the Child and Has a good roll model in there life and dont use the children to choose between the other parent and try to get along. it could work out for the better. After all its not the childs fault and thay shouldnt have to pay for it. As Parents its our job to teach our Children what thay see and here from us. so dont talk bad infront of the Children. save it for when thay are some where you cant be heard. And no matter what let them know you Love them.

Answer 4

In a perfect world everyone would marry for love have perfectly behaved children and live happily ever after!!!....well sweetie this is not the case! ask yourself...if you were in and abusive relationship, and it didnt matter weather you had 1 child in that relationship or 10, would you want to stay in that situation just so that the children had 2 parents, running the risk that they also may grow up to follow in the footsteps of their father? especially if they were boys and more prone to do so, or would you want to offer your children a happy content life were they didnt need to be affraid and truely felt secure even if it ment being raised by only 1 parent? I think each relationship is different and no one can predict the future, in some cases children are better off having only 1 loving parent, just as in other cases other children are fortunate enough to have2 loving parents!

Answer 5

If the marriage is causing rift in the family then the children are better off with being with the parent who is most concerned about their welfare. I came from a broken family. My mother waited too long to get the divorce but at least she got it. Do not stay together for the kids that will only cause more harm. Good Luck.

Answer 6

It's always better to have two parents,but the parents don't necessarily have to be together.Some people make the mistake of assuming that they should stay in a relationship with someone for the sake of their children,which is unhealthy.If the parents are unhappy the children will easily sense it.Single parents can raise kids perfectly by themselves as well.It all has to do with parenting and love.The child's future will not be affected just because their parents divorced,unless it was a bitter divorce and the kids come to the belief that it may of be caused by them.People who are open,honest and loving to their kids can raise them perfectly fine rather their a single parent or married.

Answer 7

2 is always better then one and yes it while affect their future choices if there are two people then they will know a relationship is not perfect and will try to keep infidelity in it's place. The parents are the example of how one should live in peace, harmony and disruption if more American taught this way instead of I gotta get mines you better get yours attitude than kids would grow up being respectful to one another cut down on divorces and crime

Answer 8

I can speak from experience - my parents divorced when I was 14, which is relatively old for a child. I haven't seen my dad since we left and I think about him every day, wondering what he is up to, and he wasn't even a nice person! I would say that missing a parent does definitely affect you. On the other side of the coin I have a friend who has a little girl of 4/5 years old and they divorced last year and she is confused with the whole mummy/daddy being apart thing and cries that she wants them to be together even though she doesn't fully understand it. It depends on the situation - if the child is forced through a bitter custody battle or hears bad things about one parent from the other - then yes it could affect you. It totally depends on the circumstances.

Answer 9

im now living alone with my 2 babes, well 13 and 10, they are fine they see their dad alot, they talk too him every night i still make sure he comes too parents eves etc, they are happy it took them a little time to adjust, i never bad mouth their dad, he did me, but was pulled up on it, i consult him over everything too do with the kids, as far as the guys are concerned he,s wonderful and it must stay that way, my 13 year old even said the other day i like you living here and daddy there!! their future will not be affected not if i can help it, and its looking good!

Answer 10

The answer to that question depends on the quality of the parent/parents/
If a child is living with two parents that argue then no that's not good.
there are plenty of happy fulfilled children out there from single parent families.
My parents stayed together for the sake of us kids and i wish to god they hadn't because we were always hearing their rows and it affected me.
Two happy parents together is an ideal but if not then single is fine