When I was just a kid I asked a police officer to help me find my parents. He just replied, " I don't know kid, there are so many places they can hide." I have put up with this my whole life. Would counseling help?
2007-02-26 19:35:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I had an unhappy childhood also, so I will share my "overcoming" of this circumstance and hope to help in some way.
I've learned from and related with other people and their bad childhood experiences through counseling. What I have learned is that even though I have had a bad childhood, there are others who had worse experiences. It is not anything we have any control over because we are the "children". We have to go along with the program whatever it may entail. Rape, incest, unfair treatment, insanity, selfishness, addiction, whatever the issues that affected my childhood in an adverse manner that was imposed upon me by my guardian, parent, relative, etc., is resolveable mostly.
Although we can not understand why or how our parents could do or allow something to happen to us or neglect us, it is important that we try to understand and forgive. We must understand that our parent(s) were under certain conditions that effected how they related to us. My dads acute alcoholism stole him from me and my sisters. His addiction got the better of him and we kids got the fallout. How could he love me and allow this to happen to hisself? Then as I continued to live and observe my own life events, it dawned on me, and I saw, that problems come upon people in life and some are stronger than others, some are luckier than others, or at least it appears so. I realized that I myself have committed some of the same crimes and maybe even more grevious at times. I am just as guilty as my parent(s) and they are only human like myself. I am not sure what pressures or childhood problems my parents had to deal with in their psyche. I cannot judge them and say that I am better! I can possibly never know all the reasons why they did what they did, but I can love them and forgive them. I can give them something that they maybe did not give me. Hopefully, they did the best that they could muster up. And if not, I still must forgive them no matter how wrong I may portray them in my thoughts. If I do not forgive them, them I will let that negative issue have power over a part of my life. I will alway nurture that scar, never allowing it to heal completely if I do not grow past this issue. Maybe, I can learn from the problem, and keep it out of my life and make sure I don't pass on the problem to others in my life - like my children perhaps, etc. I think that it is safe to say that it would be impossible for sane parents not to love their child, they just might have been hindered from doing this satisfactorily because of all the things that life throws at you. Forgive them, try to emphasize the good things that were in your childhood. Be grateful, and slow to fault them. Keep trying. You have the whole world to help you now! Keep your head up.! Its gonna get better. I'm sure it already is, embrace this if you can.
by Blak Dooogg,trademark2007
2007-02-26 20:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by blak dooogg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, without being rude, I can't truly tell if you're just joking around or being serious. I'll do the right thing and assume you're being serious...
You just have to get over it and move on. I was mollested, raped, physically, mentally and emotionally abused my ENTIRE childhood... I lost every bit of it to the hands of another person. I held it in, I hurt, I cried, I was miserable, then when I turned 17 I realized, holding onto it wasn't helping me any. There was nothing anyone could do to take it back. Therapy was a crock of shitt and a waste of money for me. That's not to say it would be for you.
Sometimes we just have to realize that what's done is done and if we want to truly survive, then you just have to get over it. I'm 22 now, happily married and have a wonderful daughter and most of all... a life. As bad as it hurts, as empty as you may feel, sometimes the only person you can truly rely on is yourself.
Be a voice, not a victim. I wish you the very best in life!
2007-02-27 03:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the answers, it is difficult to post a lighthearted response....so I won't try. I would guess that the best antidote for an unhappy childhood is to do everything you can to have a happy adulthood. This may include counseling. It does NOT include becoming a Cubs fan.
2007-02-27 14:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were just joking but of course, that would be so out of character for you. It's too late for counseling. Don't waste your money. I think you should just post ridiculous questions on Yahoo!Answers and then laugh hysterically at the responses. Laughter is very therapeuatic and cheaper than drugs and alcohol. It works great for me. I'm scheduled for early release from the asylum.
2007-02-27 20:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The past haunts as it reminds us of our bitter experiences. Something we cannot change anymore. Difficult as it is, our focus should be in the present and future. We cannot forever let the past get stuck in our head for it will impede our success in life. We can only learn from the mistakes it has given us.
Seek counseling for it will greatly help but remember that change is only possible if you help yourself.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 03:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hold head up..talk to some1 if it helps. Find yourself a lovely partner! do not waste your life in dwelling on the past..look to the future and be HAPPY x
2007-02-27 03:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the chances are your mother wouldn't of had a clue who your father was anyway...Get over it, forget those two losers...This life you have been given, is yours for the making. Go do it son.
2007-02-27 03:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by florrie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, but you have to be detemined to turn your life around or else it will be a neverending counselling.It helps if you have somebody whom you can share all your struggle, just for moral support.Good luck to you.
2007-02-27 03:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by geleskie2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please consider that very few people had/have normal/happy childhood. Hence we spent the rest of our life in therapy & coping with our past.
Look forward to your bright future & do your best.
Good luck
God bless youâ¥
2007-02-27 04:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, when I was a kid I was so weird I made Michael Jackson look normal! (wink wink)
2007-02-27 04:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋