In my experience I've found that my absence makes people forget me. Is this a rational fear?
2007-02-26 18:24:53 · 7 answers · asked by Too Cool For Me 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
there are some good answers already to this
i have another angle as well
when we are around people all the time, sometimes we can get bogged down with the little stuff, upset that they leave the toilet seat up or snore at night, or channel surfing, whatever.
when the person's not there, we tend to take an idealized view, ie just think of the good times we had with them. i think thats another way to look at it
when you look at it from your perspective, they forget you. that is they remember you from their idealized perspective and dont even know the 'real you"
if they completely forget you as in oh yea i forgot i knew you, then maybe you need to turn your personality up a little, maybe you are too shy, dont know
2007-02-26 18:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by sahajrob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my experience, I found my soul mate 29 years ago. I got pregnant with his child, and felt that this was too perfect, that something would go wrong if I told him. So I ran away, and man, my heart did grow fonder, cause I had fallen for him and knew him well enough after only a few weeks, that I hurt for about 25 years, then got back together with him. Best love story I ever heard, my own! (By the way, he felt the same as me all those years).
2007-02-27 02:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by karenhar 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The theory is that people are stupid and like to pine away for the things they don't have rather than appreciate what they _do_ have. And they like to live in fairyland and think, "Things will be better later. Later later later. Tomorrow tomorrow." The problem is that we don't _live_ in tomorrow.
What we should really do is take the advice of Crosby, Stills, and Nash and love the ones we're with.
2007-02-27 02:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the idea is really that if you're around someone too much you're more inclined to get sick of them or take them for granted. When someone you love is away, you remember and crave the idealised version of them that's in your mind and don't think about or have a chance to discover their flaws.
2007-02-27 02:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you never know what you got till its gone, i believe is what thats kinda saying, if people forget you because your not around, also outta sight outta mind,
2007-02-27 02:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Halena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You begin to be missed, if you are not missed then you are not around people that love and care about you, and that means- find different people to love and care about you.
2007-02-27 02:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Harmon 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think its crap,, absences makes them frustrated and lonely , and good bye to you so i don't believe that phase is accurate
2007-02-27 02:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by mala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋