my husband seems dont like to go back home.?

Question

he's working in china and im living in taiwan with my mother in law. every 3 months he has an holiday to go back here but he seems dont like to go back, he said if he dont go back he can get the money, i was worry maybe he has an affair with another girl, even sometimes he's home sometimes he still want go back china early. i dont know why, he said thats for work so he can get more money for us.

i asked him to bring us go with him there but he said he just worry maybe i will feeling lonely coz he need to work till night.

i am from philippines, and my husband is from taiwan, we've been married for almost 3 years and have 2 child.

Answer 1

Ask him to take you with him to China.

Answer 2

My best Taiwanese friends father also works in China. Only comes home every 4 or five months. When I visited my friends house I asked why did his parents have separate rooms? After a while he explained that one time his mother felt uncomfortable, went to hospital and found out that she had a sex disease - but she had only ever slept with her husband. She was crazy the next time she saw him - she took him to the hospital - he had the disease too. He them admitted that he had a mistress in China. Since then my friends Mam has not divorced him (as in Taiwanese culture this is unthinkable) - instead, when ever he comes home he must sleep in a separate room.

You could do a few things to find out:

- You could pay him a surprise visit (don't let anyone know you're going to see him - tell your mother-inlaw you're going to see your friends or parents).

- You could email him or text him (using another number or adress) saying you know that he's cheating. . .

Then again perhaps he's not cheating at all. Long distance relationships are really tough, perhaps you can ask him to try to get a job in Taiwan so you can keep the family together.

Answer 3

hi! though certain situation makes us so confused that we dont believe easily to our loved one but they also dont understand that we love them so much that is why we feel insecure of their nature, to be very frank u please ask him directly when he is in good mood whether he is having any affairs or not and the most likely result u r going to get is that he will scold u for thinking in a such manner but tell him how much u love him andmake him remember the past days where u celebrated and had lots of fun, and did all ur wishes that u both will always b together no matter what other say and trust each other.
Say him how much u r insecure about him and love him so much. Do take help from ur mother in law also because she is really going to help u.
Tell him that money is required just for living but love is required for living happily.
Believe in God, dont ever do any argument because by doing peaceful talking u will get ur husband back.
God bless u

Answer 4

Has he done something to cause you not to trust him, or do you distrust everyone? If you really feel it would be better for you all as a family to be together, insist that you all go back with him next time, even if just for 3 months and then go back to his mothers. Separation is extremely stressful on any marriage, especially a new one. Good luck to you and God Bless.

Answer 5

I wouldn't like to be in your shoes you might want to check the records and see if he's got another wife if so then you need you get rid of him tell him you want to be with him and if he tells you some kind of excuse tell him you don't want to be married this way that's not a marriage you would think when he came home to you he would want to stay longer read his body language and the things he says i think you should move on find someone that wants to be with you and not so far away

Answer 6

Sorry dear it sounds as if your husband is having an affair. Money is not what keeps a marriage happy and together especially if one of the partners is gone all the time. Good Luck dear.

Answer 7

I'm sorry for you. But he is possibly dating someone else. Unless you all are in desperate need of money. Or maybe your husband is very greedy. But think about this ask him this." If he can honestly say that the only reason he goes back early is because of the job?

Answer 8

I feel sorry for you. You should ask him why he doesn't want you there. I know you mentioned that he said that you will be lonely there; see what he says if you say, let's give it a try. If he really wants you near, he should be happy that you are even willing to move to be near him.

The fact that he keeps making up excuses to keep you away sounds suspicious. Make sure to have a heart to heart talk with him.

Answer 9

he might or might not have an affair, but its weird if he doesnt want you to go there. the standard of living is very low. leave him as it is and do not stress him out. you can let him know you heard of the beautiful places there and will like to go on a holiday with your children and mother in law. be positive. it is not easy to maintain long distance relationships.

Answer 10

If money is so important you should stay with your husband and earn so that you can send more money to your mother in law and also lead married life and not feel lonely.

Answer 11

He's dumping you, slowly but surely. I would start a bank account of your own. If he's working so much,then there should be some major money coming in. You need to look out for yourself and your children. You won't be able to collect from him if he's in another country.