Ive told him he cant say things like that but he thinks she should know. She isnt over weight. She isnt very sporty either. He tries to make her join in with physical activities that my other children are doing. But she preffers to read a book. She cries when he says it and im heartbroken. What can i say to him to make him stop. Ive told him that he might think its ok but Experts say its not.
2007-02-26 17:52:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's not okay! Dont worry to much about him... we know whose the kid in this situation... so... just talk to ur 8yr old and let her know how u feel. Just becuz she's a child doesn't mean that she's not able to talk/listen to ur words.
2007-02-26 17:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by honeyxmust 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jAre you married to this guy? If not, kick his body and his stuff out of there asap! If you are married to him, you may wnat to go to the "extreme" and separate from him until he gets counseling. No matter what, this guy needs to get his thinking right. He is verbally, and emotionally abusing your 8 yrs. old duaghter! That is not acceptable. At all. She has a different personality, and different interests than the other children. She is her own person-like we all are. Possibly start with an app.t with her dr.-and the two parents, and talk with her dr. about her weight, height, etc. A child her age doesn 't even need to think or be concerend at all about their weight. She is growing. She is fine the way she is. And, your daughter should probably most likely do better with some counseling of her own. And, the cjounselor can have a "talk "with dad aobut his mouth. I wish you and your children the best. Take care.
2007-02-27 02:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry, low-life, no good, looser a@#. I cant even believe you would even let that go on. You are the mother and protector of your children, and there is no way she should be made to feel bad about herself by a son of a b*tch like him. This does nothing but cause problems for her when she gets older. And guess what you will be the one to blame for it. So save your child and forget that man. Tell his A@# to hit the road that's what you tell him. I can not even believe you are asking what should you do. Protect your Baby from this type of emotional abuse!!!!!! Wake up.
2007-02-27 02:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by ccwilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, she is YOUR eight your old. I am assuming that this child is not his or you wouldn't have written it like that. You need to tell your daughter that she is fine the way she is. Make sure that she knows you love her and make sure she knows that she is special. Secondly, what he is doing to her is verbal abuse. Saying things like that to a child is rude and if she is your kid, that she is depending on you to stand up for her. Stand up for your child. You cannot control his actions, but you can make him realize that you will not stand for that behavior. Tell him that if he doesn't stop, then you will pack up and leave. It's not worth hurting your child for the love of a man. You can find a man that loves you and your children and does not verbally abuse your beautiful little girl.
Amanda
2007-02-27 01:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he always picked this child out from her siblings to condemn or has it started recently? Why her? Does he abuse you in the same manner? Give him an ultimaitum... Be a man, not a boy, and raise your children with love... or tell him to get out of all your lives before anymore damage is done.
2007-02-27 02:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by partyhnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Melissa, what are you subjecting your daughter to in introducing your precious daughter to a man identified as your "partner" who is attempting to bond, but can't even commit to you and her in marriage? My goodness, how confusing can it be for your daughter to be listening to a man who has no formal responsibility for her welfare and yet he offers advice that you nor your daughter agrees with or abides by. Unless you change the way you are living this relationship, you and your daughter are headed for a very miserable future. Tell him you want to get married first before he joins the family rearing of your daughter and quit thinking that a "partner" is a father and a husband. . . you are just playing house to the detriment of your daughter.
2007-02-27 02:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he has issues from his childhood. like my b'friend has a fat sister and he used to have to defend her alot. he teases my daughter from time to time but then she called him santa once and well that did him in. touche!
its the same as the bully in school,....if they see weakness they pounce on it. sick but true. he obviously has some emotional issues that prevent him from seeing the harm he's doing. he has no empathy. I would suggest you to guide your daughter to high self esteem. tell her on the side that he's only saying that because.....like say that she should see his gut when he takes his belt off....make a private joke of it and maybe she'll laugh when he says that because you got her believin it means something else. Tell her to make fun of herself when he does it. have her say "oh i'm sooo fat that I hope I can get in my seatbelt" but like out of nowhere....
if he doesnt stop or she change her esteem about it then it will be her demise of self esteem. he must stop or she must be ok with it and not take it personal.
2007-02-27 01:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you letting a child put up with this abuse? Because HE is not the one she will confront later, it is YOU. You will deserve what you get-now remember: your child was here FIRST and if necessary should be there last. Get rid of this jerk. You let this big man make her cry? MOVE ON THIS NOW.
2007-02-27 01:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by life coach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is pushy and i would say just to talk to him. tell him outright not to say that garbage. yes encourage fitness and exercise but dont outright say that she is a blimp or anything like that. tell him flat out to stop and if he keeps it up then i would think about ending the whole thing before he becomes pushy with something more serious.
2007-02-27 01:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by U.S MARINE GREG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Givr him sn ultimatim either he stops saying his "helpful coments" or he is out of your life...your children come first and besides every child deserves love and attention
2007-02-27 02:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋