OK, let me outline the situation.
I like this guy who only recently told me that he was bi. Everyone (of course) assumed he was straight and, like many straight guys, he loved playing "gay chicken". Then on New Years Eve, we were sitting next to each other and we started feeling each other up WITH HIS GF (Jess) RIGHT NEXT TO US. She seriously didn't move the entire time.
Anyway, fast forward to now, he told me that he was bi (BIG surprise as I'm sure you can imagine *sarcasm*) and that he liked me. So he wants to sleep with me, blah-de-blah-de-blah.
What about Jess? you may ask. That's what I asked her. She said "I don't care if he messes around with other guys, as long as he doesn't mess around with other girls."
Little bit of background; Jess is bi aswell and may or may not (**cough**) mess around with girls.
So, do I sleep with him? Or even do ANYTHING with him? I mean, after what Jess, normal rules don't apply.
Or do they?
2007-02-26 17:46:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OK, firstly "Iam_canadian"; "Iam_gay" SHOCK-HORROR. What's your problem?
Paul = you have SERIOUS issues. FYI, I AM Christian AND Gay, so get over it.
Oh, and tuberoot. LOL... in a kind of sad way.
2007-02-26 17:59:36 · update #1
No, let him breakup with Jess first. This is just a sick situation all around. Unless you're just in it for the hookup, go for it. Honestly, I don't even think the sex is worth it. They both sound totally screwy and there's potential there for one or both of them to go bonkers. It's easy to say they have an open relationship until one of them actually hooks up with another person. Why are they even together if they both supposedly sleep with other people? It sounds really stupid and you probably shouldn't get involved. You'll probably gets tons of drama if you do.
2007-02-26 17:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
I think you should go a head and do what you feel comfortable at.
One thing you do want to keep in the back of your mind is- You do go forward with Jess's friend, is the thought is Jess's, so there fore if you get to attached to this person you might wind up just getting hurt? So just keep an open mind about that fact.
Please though use protection as you should always anyhow.
Good luck.
Note: Your gay Lover is also Jews For Jesus and has been reported.(He need help one sick person)
2007-02-27 02:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you be sleeping with the guy, just for the experience? I think that what you have found is the omnipresent ambisexual couple. I think that if all parties consent to just a sexual tyrst, then so be it. I dont think that you should involve emotions into the mix- he is partnered already. You could wait and hold out for a quality guy that puts this bi guy to shame. good luck
2007-02-27 04:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by jwmdangerdogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the guy you like and his gf have a pretty 'fluid' relationship and some people like that kind of relationship. You need to be careful that you don't get hurt. If you just want someone to have sex with 'no strings' then fine you seem to have your man. However don't expect anything more as he is in a relationship and doesn't seem to mind looking at other guys. so where is your future?
2007-02-27 02:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I first wanted to say that it was pretty ironic, I think, that someone named Jews for Jesus called you confused. Look who's talking, if you believe in Jesus then you're a Christian, now a Jew. Anyway...
I personally wouldn't sleep with him. I got worried about you when you said "I like this guy..." because you're all thrilled that someone you like wants to have sex with you, but if he already has a girlfriend he'll probably just be using you. If all you wanted was sex, I'd say go for it. But it sounds liked you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.
2007-02-27 03:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by infrablue03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, no , no , no! dont sleep with him! it WILL bother jess!it will! dont believe what she says, 'as long as its not w/another girl. she's bs ing you. and dont sleep with this guy. find someone else. he has a girlfriend. whats his problem? being unfaithful and all. but if you DO decide on doing something with him, the most you shoudl do is jerk off w/ him. anything more.. youre mean! WELL! i dont know..
maybe i should take everything back. are you good friends with this jess gal?
if not, maybe you should go for it? i only say not to - to protect her, and yourself from feeling guilty. i dont know.this is a tough one.
2007-02-27 02:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by louie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to sleep with someone who has a girl? This whole situation sounds complicated and I would'nt mess with it myself... I would say that you find someone who is a little more into you and you only~! Good Luck~!
2007-02-27 01:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some people want your problems.
2007-02-27 01:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you gay in the first place? If we were all gay how would we reproduce? This is not a normal practice no matter how much MTV wants to shove it in your face. Get God and Get Straight.
2007-02-27 01:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
sleep with him, if she dont care, whats there to care about?? why dont you all sleep togeather lol
2007-02-27 01:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by cb450t 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋