My husband is an early bird and I'm a night owl!! Help?

Question

My husband goes to bed early and I cannot go to sleep atleast till 12. This has become a problem in the romance dept. Any suggestions.?? I'm desperate

Answer 1

I'll be over at 10:00.

Answer 2

Same problem here. I used to go to bed for sex and then get back up and stay up all night.

After 7 years now though, I just don't necessarily feel like doing it at 10 pm. For the most part, I go to bed at 5 am or so and my husband wants to do it then. It's no problem with me. He gets up a few hours later and I sleep for most of the day.

If we actually slept together all night, we'd drive each other crazy because we both snore. Who's the loudest depends on whose allergies are acting up worst at the time.

You can make the romance part work out ok, if you really try.

Answer 3

I'm in the same predicament as you! He's an early bird, I'm the nightowl (and midnight is early to me, but I go to bed then because I have to get up in the morning to work, on weekends, we're talkin' 3 or 4am before I see the goose down pillow!)

So! This is what I do! After we're home from work for about an hour (not every day, but every now and then), I go to the bedroom and act like I'm doing something, and I call him in the room. I'm bare *** naked and ready to give it to him. He takes the bait and is satisfied! There's also other things you can do, like lay in bed with him when he goes to bed and give him a massage until he's ready to fall asleep, then when he's satisfied with all of the attention that he is yearning for, kiss him, tell him you love him and get up and do what you normally do. All he wants is attention, recognition and appreciation. Good luck! I really hopes this works!

Answer 4

I've been married for 18 years and my wife and I have ALWAYS been that way. I'm an early riser (usually up by 6:00 am) and she's the night owl (up until midnight or later every night). I think you have to make time. Some nights, he can stay up longer for you, maybe some mornings, you can get up early with him.

It's called compromise, try it, you'll like it!

Answer 5

Find a happy medium so you can be mutually content and on the same page. For example, you could go to bed early with him a night or two every week and he could stay up late with you a night or two every week. If you can't find a happy medium, seek marriage counseling. This issue wont just go away by itself and it could cause deep bitterness between you over time if left unresolved.

Answer 6

Once you find an answer, email me willya? My wife and I have the same issue, but in reverse. She's out cold by 8:30-9:00. I'm up until about 12:00-12:30.

Answer 7

My ex and I had the same problem. She went to bed early and I stayed up. Still do. But the go to bed and make love then get back never worked with us cause she wanted me to stay in the bed with her and I was miserable cause I wanted to be up. We had other problems too so that why she my ex. I not know what to tell you but I can sympathize with you.

Answer 8

We have the same problem.Those days i go to him early,right after our kids are sleep.When the love making is done,they(men) fall sleep anyways,so i come out of bedroom and sleep whenever i want to.

Answer 9

during his bedtime u can romance and let him sleep and u can go back to whatever u do till 12, i can see only this option convinient.

Answer 10

If you go to bed with your early bird, you're not gonna be going to sleep, so what's the problem? ;)

Answer 11

go to bed early with him for love making and then get back up