I have decided I gossip too much.. it's not that I spread lies, I don't.. But I get caught in listening to chatter about others then tell other people too. It is mainly within my family and it is making me feel pretty bad about myself, as it should. I remember a time where I never listened or spoke badly about anyone else.. but I have lost it.. Anyone know how to kick the bad habbit? The most difficult thing is when other people are talking about something and I get sucked in.. I honestly want help for this.. any suggestions? Thanks
2007-02-26 17:05:43 · 5 answers · asked by I carry your heart with me... 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well this is my rule of thumb especially regarding family. I have younger cousins who I am very close to in which we made a pact to never talk about the other unless it is directly to their face. I saw how it could tear a family apart and build hatred and make a great divide. That actually happened with my mother and her siblings when I overheard them talking about my mother and 1 other of their brother behind their back. So I vowed to never talk about family in a negative way ever again!!! I want to promote togetherness and not a sunken boat if you get what I mean. I thought this was wrong for family members to do and take part of. I also have a cousin who wishes to keep up gossip and I simply tell her what I respect in the person that she may gossip about at that time and let it be known that I will not take part in her antics what so ever but in a nice under the radar way....lol!!! I simply support the positive things within the target of the gossip but if it is someone that you do not like then just do not take part in it and be the bigger person and I promise you sweetie you will find a big reward within your heart because the feeling of being a good person is way better a reward than one that keeps gossip or drama up. Just remember that to look at all things in positive views and you will be okay.
2007-02-26 17:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by kimthornton1231 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about how it would make you feel if people you know were talking about you behind your back. Then realize that is what you are doing to someone else when you gossip. Pretend they are standing right behind you and can hear everything. That will make you want to stop.
2007-02-26 17:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by out of the grey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your Avatar is pretty. teehee
My only advice is to make it a point to think before you speak. Ask yourself how you would feel if someone in your family blabbed your business.
Gossip is a vicious trap, but you can do it with a little thought. Good luck!
2007-02-26 17:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by emaaaazing! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel when people gossip about you? The next time you find yourself gossiping, think of that, and give intent to not do it anymore.
2007-02-26 17:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Black Rose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask yourself why you like gossip. Maybe you won't like the reason and it'll be enough to help you stop.
2007-02-26 18:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋