Bad girls, Bad boys? Why do we love them?

Question

As a man looking back to the past, I always think about the girls that were no good, they treated me like nothing and prefered the company of men who treated them like property. I had the looks, the car, the skill, but still they licked the gutter just to get the sugar taste out of thier mouths. Know what I mean? So why waste energy on the abuse? Thoughts? Tales of woe?

Answer 1

maybe because if men treat you badly again and again, you get used to it. you hate it but it's something you become used to and it becomes your comfort zone. when someone treats you well, you're not used to it. somehow, the ill-treating by other men has become something you think you deserve, and somehow you're attracted to it.

then after being badly treated by other men, when someone treats you well, you tend to think that since ALL men have treated you that way, you will too, and the nice guy side is just a facade.

you can't really be all that - so i'll treat you badly in anticipation of your bad guy side, which is bound to show eventually.

i know, it's pretty twisted. i'm sure there are other reasons, this is just mine.

Answer 2

You're not living in a successful thisworldly nation at all. that's your error. You're living where pseudo-otherworldly ideas of puritanism are taught as 'the norm".
So "bad" girls and "bad guy" types in movies appeal to the self-denying, obedient victims of dictatorial laws, rules and behaviors for three reasons--
1. They don't care what other people think, where you do.
2. That way, they get to do whatever they want without regard to its effect on other people--which extends all the way from no giving a damn about who you hurt to doing whatever you feel like to committing crimes.
3. They don't worry--you do.
So between not being repressed, practicing pseudo-libertarianism and not caring, they seem to be getting freedom from all the things that an unjust and postmodernist world fastened onto you as its social 'laws" guaranteed to bring on unhappiness and disappointment.