Can someone tell me some of the Psychology of Promiscuity in teenage girls?

Question

A teenage girl knowingly having sex w/ too many partners and knowing she is hurting herself and others is a mystery that I really want to understand. Does someone know the thought process of their action?

Maybe even advice on how to talk to them about it?

Answer 1

I work with at risk youth, most of whom are female and teenaged. A lot of them have been extremely promiscuious. Their problems with promiscuity (and other problems as well) generally stem from past physical or sexual abuse and/or an absent or abusive father in their lives. Many people will say that there isn't hard evidence to substantiate this, but as someone working in the field, it is a common thread.
Girls, particularly teens, long for belonging and affection. When it is not found in the most common places (i.e. home) they begin to look other places, most generally to their peers. If these peers are also "disturbed" (and I don't mean that in a negative way), then promiscuity and delinquincy are common effects.Sex for girls is emotional--that's just the way we're wired.
Also, I must note the increased level of sexuality in society. The media is saturated with sexual images and messages that are falling in the eyes and ears of young men and women, giving them a warped view of sexuality. They are told that sex is meaningless in the long term. The "if it feels good, do it" philosophy. Sadly, this is a major contributor to the fact that 1/4 pregnancies in America ends in abortion.
As for advice on talking to someone in this situation is not easy. First, she may not know how much she is hurting herself, because she does not recognize that she has a problem. She probably sees that she has a void in her life and is looking for something/someone to fill it, not understanding that by having multiple sex partners at such a young age is emotionally damaging.
Try to be supportive and non-condeming. She's probably been put down enough in her life. Try to focus on her postiive aspects. If she is a talented singer, then focus on finding ways to use her talents. I'm not saying to not confront the issue of the promiscuity, but do it in a very sensitive way.

Also, just a suggestion, giving the liklihood of past abuse in her life, she may not be trustful of men. It might be easier and better if there is a woman who could act as a mentor for her.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If she doesn't feel loved at home (particularly with the father figure), she may seek and seek someone to love her, confusing sex with love as a lot of girls often do.

Many times early exposure to molestation will also cause promiscuity.

Both of these situations need counseling.

Answer 4

what about guys? guys are known for being even bigger players than girls.

a huge part about this is it is the way society has evolved. idc what the "stats" tell you i just graduated high school in '06 and it doesn't matter who you are really, most kids these days lose their virginity at ages 16-18.

abstinence only education is the biggest load of crap and causes more problems than it fixes.

as far as advice on talking to them about it, try to make it as little awkward as possible. realize that this is how our culture is and that telling kids to wait till marriage doesn't really fly anymore. discuss instead the importance of a relationship with someone and being loving and caring instead of just going crazy and finding a new hook up every weekend.

talk about safe sex practices, like condoms and birthcontrol. talk about diseases (STD's) and even better, bring in pictures. in our healthy class, our teacher brought in a speaker who used a projection machine to put 10ft x 10 ft pictures of peoples' genitals with fullblown STD's. let me tell you, nothing makes you rethink unsafe sex more than that.

hope i helped answer some of your questions.

Answer 5

Criminy - Im still waiting for "Understanding Women for Dummies" myself, Rev. Us guys are really lost about all this. Hopefully, there is a 'mother' figure she will run into to get her through this.