17 and pregnant and no one to talk to?

Question

My period was due today and never came. I only just did the test today and it was faint.went to the dr and had a blood test and another urine test. I have to go to the dr friday to see what the result is.

I broke up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago.. The day before V-day I was crying and my best friend boyfriend was comforting me and one thing led to another. I was so stupid, dont know why he was even over tin the first place. Do you think there could be any chance it could be my ex's baby? I really hope so because I don't want to have to tell my best friend what happened.

Does anyone know any good parent chat sites? Id like to talk to other teen mums for Australia. I'm so scared and don't know who to talk to. My parents are going to kill me when they find out.

Wow, thanks everyone for the response to my question. I am sorry that what I wrote was a confusing, I haven't been myself all day as you can imagine.

I took a test at home that showed I was pregnant. I went to the Dr and he did another home test and a blood test. The urine test showed I was too. I get the result of the blood test on Friday.

The Dr said I am due on the 6.11.07 and gave me a referal to the hospital. My last period was on the 30.1.07 and was due today on the 27.2.07. It never comes late. Last time I slept with me ex boyfriend was the 2.2.07. We broke up on the 3.2.07 because I wouldn't have a 3some. We were together a whole year and he dumps me cause I wouldn't let him have sex with another girl in front of me :(. Then I go off and do something even worse.

I slept with the other guy on the 13.2.07.

I hope it is my Ex's cause even though he is a sleaze he has a good job and will be qualified next year. The other guy is younger than me.

and still has 2 years of high school left. I finish at the end of the year. I'm working at a take away place, but that doesn't pay too well.

I live in Melbourne Australia. I used contraception with my ex, we always did the right thing but since I wasn't planning on doing anything with my friend we didn't use anything. I guess that makes it even more likely to be his. I don't intend to get back with my ex and I don't feel anything for my friend, so not looking for a relationship there.

I will tell my parents, I know I have to and they'll find out anyway. They are strict catholics, so I know they are going to be heart broken. We have a big family function on the weekend, I'll wait until after that. don't want to ruin it .

I will not be having an abortion. This was my mistake and I wont be taking it out on an inocent little baby that didn't choose to be there. It would be so much easier for me to, then I wouldn't have to face up to everyone, but that is just being a coward.

Answer 1

If you have a regular cycle, you most likely conceived around 10-14 days after the first day of your last period. So whoever you were with around then... is probably the father.

Answer 2

Well, you have been given a bunch of advice here!! First, I am the mommy of 3... 2 girls, 1 boy, they are pretty much grown -up now. (almost 26, almost 24, and almost 20) I cannot imagine life without them!! Here is what I want you to do... put your right hand on your left shoulder and your left hand on your right shoulder...now squeeze really hard; that was a hug from me! I would bet your mum would do the same for you if she knew you were so worried about something. I would be devastated if my kids thought they could not tell me anything. One major thing to keep in mind is that you may not be pregnant! Hopefully you have already started your period, but if not - remember that all any of us can do is "take one day at a time". As far as whose the little one might be, here are some things to consider:
Ovulation usually occurs between 11-14 days after the 1st day of your last period, this may vary if you have a cycle (the time from day 1 of period to day 1 of next period) that is different from a 28-30 day cycle. You can sometimes feel ovulation as a sharp pain in the lower abdomen that goes away fairly quickly. Another way to tell when you are ovulating is by the cervical mucous, it becomes thin, "stretchy", as opposed to the thick and sticky type of discharge during other times of the cycle. Sperm can live from 12-36 hours on average, sometimes longer. With that in mind, it is more likely that IF you are pregnant then the father is probably the "other" guy. That is not a certainty tho'. By the time any of this would come to light - your girlfriend may have broken up with the guy, so don't worry about something that might not ever come up. God can take a seemingly horrible situation and turn it into something awesome! Don't worry, it doesn't change anything, it only makes us miserable. Talk to your mum when you find out, she has raised you and loves you I'm sure, and tho' she (and pop) will go through the full range of emotions you will both (all) get through it - whatever the outcome. You should however learn from this experience, and grow through it! God Bless and Good Luck, and let us know how you are!!

Answer 3

If your period was due today, then you probably concieved about 2 weeks ago, in saying that, sperm can live for a couple of days, but I would say its a huge chance that it is the friends boyfriend. What an awful situation to be in. Whereabouts in australia are you? Where I am they have a pamphlet for a teen pregnancy group where you all get together once a week, and talk and learn about what is happening and the changes you are going through and stuff. I would say most places would have something like that. Your parents will probably be disappointed at first, but believe me they will warm to the idea after a while. My parents freaked when they found out, and I am 23 and married! They called it the biggest mistake of my life, but now they are buying me baby things and calling me every day to make sure i am doing okay, they are so excited, give em time, its a big shock to the system. Good luck with everything, and I hope your best friend is there for you

Answer 4

You poor dear. I don't know about Autralia, because I'm in America, but you could check out babycenter.com. There are some very supportive young girls and women on that site. It's possible the baby is your ex's, if you guys had sex right before breaking up, because you ovulate about 2 weeks after the first day of your last period (though every woman's schedule is different), but it's also possible that it's the other guy's. Don't try to use the baby to get your ex back, especially sine you don't know if it's his or not. It would be deceitful and would lead to a dishonest, unhappy relationship, no matter the outcome of the DNA test. If you don't want to disclose the name of the father because you're afraid of who it will be, you have the right to not have any DNA tests done, but then you can't get child support from the father. It's your decision, so do what you need to do. It might be hard to keep such a big secret, but it's not lying if you say you're not sure. If you need someone to talk to, you can email me at [e-mail]. I'm 18 and preggo and my best friend got pregnant when she was 16, so I know what you're going thorugh, to an extent.

Answer 5

I was 16 when I got pregnant. I was terrified. I too thought that my parents would kill me, and yeah, they were disappointed, but they both supported my decision to keep my baby.
It's a pretty scary place to be, all of your friends disappear, or damn near all anyway, cos noone understands why you don't want to do the same stuff or if your focal point in your life has changed. Doing it alone is hard too, my ex was all for me being pregnant, but the reality of the situation was he was still a big kid anyway (he was 21). We broke up three weeks after my son was born. Your body will change and so will your mind, and in the next few years, your life is going to change out of sight. But it all comes good, there is alot of support networks out there, even if your parents aren't or you don't think they will be.
I'm 22 now, my son that I had when I was 17 is 5 now, he has just started prep, he is a magic little boy and I wouldn't be without him. I also met a really nice man, who I have now been with for 4 years and we have a second child, a daughter, who is 6 weeks old. Enjoy your new life :)

Answer 6

Hey,
I wanted to first tell you that you must tell your parents. They may or may not be upset with you. The only way is to go ahead and nip the suituation in the bud now. There is still time for you to make the decison to start your prenatal care or to terminate your pregnancy, or prepare for adoption. The choice is soley up to you. You seem to be a sweetheart and things happen, we all make mistakes. You are still young, smart, and definetly know that you need to speak with someone. That's a start for you right there.
If you feel like you can't talk to your parents, have a close friends mum be there when you tell your parents. It can break the ice. But I'm quite sure that parents will appreciate the fact that you did come to them and not try to hide your pregnancy. I know it's scary and the fact of the paternity. ( your boyfriend or his friend). Right now your health and emotional state is what's important now and the family support. If your parents aren't supportive of you or your decision, then start to think of some other family members that may be able to help you. If that's not an option, your school counselor may be of great assistance.

When you go to the doctor's , they should have teen referral help for you. Also your doctor maybe able to help you with preparing your parents for the news.

I wish i could type more to you, but feel free to email me : [e-mail]. If not, I wish you much luck. Muah.


UPDATE: 2/27/07 After reading your additions, I wanted to tell you that it's a stronge possiblity that the baby is your boyfriends, simply because it's a fact that highest possibility to get pregnant is 5 days before or 5 days after your period. But be sure to get a blood test done. And Bravo to you for holding your moral ground and saying NO to the 3some. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 7

The first thing you should probably do is go to or call a pregnancy counselling clinic and discuss your options with a counseller. Many clinics offer this service for free for teen Mothers in the States and I am sure the same is true in Australia. They can also help you find out when you concieved so you can have a better idea of who the father is. Once that is determined, they can give you advice and options on what to do or how to break the news to your boyfriend/parents,etc. You will need to understand the reality of this situation and seriously consider what options you have before proceeding with any decision regarding your pregancy, who to tell and what to do about it. I have been there (about 13 year ago), and I truely believe the cousellers really helped me make the best decision for my baby and for myself.

Answer 8

ok, first of all just relax a little. Just cuz your period didn't come today doesnt mean it's not coming. Our cycles can differ from month to month due to a number of various factors like stress, how much/little you eat, increase or decrease in excercise, sickness, etc. Even if your cycle is usually really predictable your period may be delayed a couple of days. As long as you used a condom or are taking birth control chances are pretty good that you're just fine. Good luck with the tests.I know its scary. God be with you.

Answer 9

You are in Australia? Well I guess you will have to wait til friday to really know because the doc will tell you how far you are if it is true. then you will be able to tell who's it is. The other thing is do you have a job and able to take care of one? Are you prepared for one? Is the father going to be in the child's life? Depending on who's it is of course. These are things you need to think of before you even think about getting pg or doing it for that matter. If you are not ready for it then you need to think maybe about adoption. Maybe even chat with couple that are considering adoption. Let us know what happens friday.

Answer 10

God Help Our Young People Today!!! I had To Pray for you Baby Cause When Your Best Friend Find Out About the Situation Yo Azz Is History.

Answer 11

if you had sex anywhere from february 4th through the 13th with your boyfriend then yes i'd say there's a chance the baby could be his. if your period was suppose to come today then you probably ovulated around the 13th of february, yikes... the day the other guy was around... don't freak out just stay calm and take one day at a time. remember to be honest and make sure you tell your parents soon. i'll be praying for your situation, good luck and god bless you immensely!