I met one of my best guy friends I ever had through the net. We shared a lot of stuff, and this was for three years. There was a period where we were sorta expressing feelings of relationships, like freinds with benefits is what we decided. later, i decided to break this because i felt he still loved his ex. but this i regret because i learned to find that he had true feelings for me, i found out from a friend of his. but we still continue the friendship without me or him ever telling about our feelings. after sometime he got back with his ex. and me still not telling him anything. i noticed he wasnt the same in his form of writing. and he changed a lot. his parents got divorced a few weeks ago. i was there for him and he said he appriciated that. later after a few days, i find that he deletes me from his friend list. i am like 'what did i do?' now i am seeking help, i dont know if i should confront him? or say 'it is his loss?' this is not an ordinary e-friendship, it is a strong one.
2007-02-26 16:45:04 · 9 answers · asked by ChickyBabe07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Did you ever stop to think that maybe,just maybe that the ex found out that you were keeping in touch with him. and just maybe she was the one that deleted you & she might even be the one that you have been talking to. Hey " it could happen," I know because it happened to me! I regret not making it known that i had feelings for this other person. So, do some very deep soul searching and deside for your self.
if nothing else you can lay it all out on the table and see what happens from there.
After all is said and done, you will truely know just how strong your friendship really is and if he really cares and loves you to then it was worth the risk.
you only live once and if he walks away knowing how you really feel, then yes, it was his loss! Good luck and i hope it all works out for you !
2007-02-26 17:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you shared lots but it seems to me that the most important feelings are learned third hand from someone else. I am a dope with messenger and have actually deleted a friend by accident. Happily she wrote to me and asked what was wrong. I told her and we are friends again and I am more careful. Contact the guy and ask him what is going on, tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same way. If not go find someone else and realise it's over, before it ever really began
2007-02-27 00:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright, there are a few explanations for why he's acting this way, but i can't say they're 100% true. one reason is that the ex may have been jealous of your relationship, and told him to delete you from his list.(just a thought, but this has happened to a friend of mine.) he might be going through some tough time because of the divorce, and that could be the reason for the strangeness of his acting. (sorry if that didn't make sense). if you give him some time before talking to him, he might feel better. he might have just been overreacting when he deleted you, so don't take it too harshly. if his condition starts to get worse, you need to confront him as soon as possible. it wasn't really fair what he did, but he's probably going through a lot of stress. my dad and step-mom divorced last year, so i might know how he feels. you don't have to take my advice, though...
2007-02-27 01:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ayla R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a very strong friendship if he has never been honest about his feelings. Who wants a guy where you are supposed to guess or hear it from his friend? And what if his friend was full of baloney? People make stuff up all the time, or they guess wrong..
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2007-02-27 00:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say consider it his loss.and in the long run if the feelings were strong enough hell come back,however it may be too late at that time.just rem.it was his loss
2007-02-27 00:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had your chance. he had his chance. now look at you. both of you are where you dont want to be. dont confront him. thats looking for a fight. send him an email telling him how you feel about everything. if he answers you great. if not then let it go.
2007-02-27 00:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would still try to email him asking what you did wrong for him to delete you..?? Maybe it was his ex* saying to him to delete you or she got his psswd and deleted you herself.
Maybe he didn't know your feelings for him and figured you didn't want to date him. I would let him know in your email what you really truly want to say to him. What do you have to lose?? Nothing*~ and alot to gain*~ GOODLUCK*
2007-02-27 00:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk to him, tell him how you feel, and see how he feels and see if maybe he thinks you rejuected him and thats why he did what he did ! just talk things out honestly!
2007-02-27 00:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should talk to him, that's the only way ull ever get to know his true feelings
2007-02-27 00:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋