need to overcome depression?

Question

Hi friends, i am very depressed after passing through storm in form of EMA by husband .All things are settled now. That other woman has exposed herself to the limit of being hated . Husband was very depressed after all that . Now when i have faced all situatiion ..I am broken from my inside .. feeling like though i loved my hubby very much in all these years but he never loved me by his heart . he abused me for that other woman .. i am agreed that now he is improved but i am feeling liek i have lost all enthusiasm for life . I am good in my behaviour with hubby n child but i know i am very sad from inside. What shd i do ? Dont wanna take anti -depressive tablets .have been married for 4 years n blessed with a child. Trying to keep myself occupied but nothing is working ..
What shd i so ?

Answer 1

I'm sorry for what you are going though but you need to live your
life for your self and your child, this man can not give you what
you need. time to heal your self , get counseling to deal with what
going on but you need to find the joy that is inside of you and it
does not mean that you need to be with this man that abuse
you emotional time to move on and find the sun shine that god
has for you. look to him for guidance.. be strong in your self
and allow your inner self to shine out then you can see that
you are loved wither he in your life or not. you have a child
that need you.

Answer 2

That was an accident which none of you wanted to happen.
Now either get out of it completely or leave family completely.See for an outsider any perspective will not help you and what you are going through is completely inderstandable.But Humans are make to make errors.Try excuse him once whole heartedly but make it very clear to him that next time God forbid if he repeats he will NOT be excused.
I understand now you must be finding this life too consuming but reading your story all i can judge is you too want to give it a try.

So restart and all the best wishes for a new life.Take care.

Answer 3

Whatever you do...do not deal with you negative emotions alone. Left alone, your emotions will poison you. Share you emotions with someone who is a good listener and someone you can trust. If you have no one, join a group. If there's no group; create one.

I had a gurlfriend who refused to empower herself and chose victimization; even when she would admit that her husband was a total loser. She didn't love herself or believe that she deserved better.

Only time can heal and you just have to believe that you will come out of this situation stronger. As women, we often feel rejected when our partners decide to move on. But we don't recognize the tremendous opportunity for better things to happen in our lives, when people make the decison to continue on without us.

Your ex, did you a favor and The Universe always gives you a chance to create your best life. And know that you will have the ultimate love someday. Forgive yourself for anger, and forgive your ex. The love that you deserve is on its way, but true love and devotion begins with you.

Answer 4

I truely belive that feelings like depression, sadness, confusion, self doubt, inability to concentrate, etc, can be attributed to a chemical im-balance in the brain. You're not alone, I also did
not wish to take the pharmaceuticals. However, I take supplements with great success. Some to consider and work for me, 1/ St Johns wort(oil extract) from FLORA,Cdn.
2/ B vitamins(they're depleted daily, especially in high stress, and water soluable) 3/ Essential fatty acids(omega 3-6-9) also fish oils, flax, and hemp seed. Check it out

Answer 5

One thing you can do is take B vitamins and omega 3 fatty acids, like fish oil. Both are needed to keep depression at bay when you are under stress.

Hopefully, you will find a way to communicate with your husband and get back the intimacy you once had. You need to let him know that he hurt you. You have to work past it.

Answer 6

Clinical depression is something you cant just say to yourself.."snap out of it" depression is a mental illness and needs some professional intervention in the form of anti-depressants and counselling. Being cheated on is about the ultimate in betrayal and your self esteem instantly takes a nose dive. You would be having all sorts of doubts, and your spirit would be crushed. It is going to take time for you to get your trust back for your husband, but you have got to want to get it back. You have got to try and put everything into perspective. Do you understand the reasons why your husband cheated? Have the two of you sat down and talked about it. Has he been totally honest with you and is he trying to make amends? Is he trying to show you he loves you and he was terribly wrong in what he did? Or has it just gone back to how it was without either of you getting any counselling? I believe you both need to go to counselling because this self doubt you are having will end up eating you up and without intervention your doubts will become worse...your spirit will become more crushed. Your husband owes it to you to go to counselling with you and you owe it to yourself to understand that what you have had to endure is a woman's worst nightmare. When you love someone you dont expect them to treat you this way and when you are treated this way you look internally and always ask "Why"....it is natural. If your husband wont go to counselling then I would be having very serious doubts as to his sincerity. While I hate the saying, once a cheater is always a cheater, if you have taken him back without him having any consequences for what he did, then you are really giving him permission to do it again. At least stipulate before you are even going to try to be his wife again the both of you must go to counselling. Only with intervention, I believe, will you stand any hope of your marriage enduring. Your doubts will eat you up and you will not only make yourself miserable you will make your husband miserable too, and if he is really trying to make things better and prove himself to you, it will be near impossible whilever you are feeling this way. Go to counselling....see if it cant improve how you are feeling.

Its a terrible thing for any woman to have to go through....admit that, then you may understand you do need counselling, and maybe you do need to take anti-depressants. Think of it this way....if something makes you feel better, then you would be silly not to take it.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

THAT WORTHLESS NO GOOD BUM IS WHAT GIVES US GOOD MEN A BAD NAME!! ok? tHERE IS A COUNTRY SONG ABOUT SHE LET HERSELF GO!!! She let herself get a new dew.She let herself go on a blind date and she let herself go on a singles cruise! You get the idea? Us guys are a dime a dozen and if I could I would give ya a fifty cent piece and tell ya go find another.What are you sad about? Da bum is gone!!!!And that is what he is/was! If ya look like ya write and your heart is as pure as ya sound a new guy is just around the corner &he will love that child more than he loves you! I know cause I see things in peoples's future! No antidepressants,OK!!

Answer 8

If you make your happiness and future dependant on ANYone, husband, boy friend, child, parent you are making a huge mistake, because you give OTHERS power over your own happiness. If you GIVE them this power of happiness over you, then you also give them the power of WITHOLDING or TAKING happiness from you. That's why you're depresses, because you falsely think that it is only your husband's undying and forever faithful love for you than can keep/make you happy. You've given another your happiness. So take it back. Realize that NO one can take your joy. Our Creator gives us the most basic joy, itself - LIFE and did your husband or ANYone else give you that? No. No one did. Take your happiness for the fact that you LIVE and NO man can take that away from your. You ARE and in THAT being, you your Creator has given you ALL that you will ever need. No he did NOT give your BEING - who and what you are to ANYone else to steal from you - not hubby, or baby or mommy or daddy, so CLAIM what your Creator has given you. Think how happy, for example you were when you were cuddled up next to your mommy and/or daddy as a little girl, all nice and warm and wonderful. When your mommy or daddy looked at you as your were hugging them, did you say, "Mom, you know I'm really UN-happy right now and I'm gonna be MISERABLE until I meet that guy I'll one day that I will marry, and, of course the MINUTE he seems to STOP loving me, I'll just go back to being as miserable as I am right now?" Were you thinking that way then? Nope - why not? Because, at THAT happy moment you had ALL that you needed for that one little happy moment - to feel loved and warm and happy. Did you need hubby then - to be happy? Nope, and guess what, sister, you were happy beFORE you met hubby - and if you really reach down into your heart and get calm and quiet, you'll hear that same voice of your Creator that spoke to you that same day all cuddled up - only that Creator used mommy or daddy's voice and through them what did he say? He said, "I (though your mom and/or dad or whoever was loving you in the purest possible sense at that moment) LOVE YOU." Realize that this Creator is STILL loving you right now, right through all the pain and hurt and tears if you'll only listen. What seems to be an empty heart is simply empty (for now) of the RIGHT sense of where ALL the love in the Universe is REALLY coming from - its coming from infinite divine livingin Love, itself. All this experience of infidelity and pain is for one reason - to get you to TURN from believing that HUMANS can EVER be the source of our happiness. Humans will AWAYS come up short, and that's because the human heart and soul will NEVER be filled with merely human limited love, it was designed by the Creator to be filled only with the REAL thing - Divine Love's real thing - love itself. So wipe that muddy window of human dependency that's blocking the light and let the REAL light come on in. It's right there but only YOU can let it in. It does NOT force itself in. Nope - only YOU can open the door.

Answer 9

depression is anger turned inward at ones self, are u blaming yourself fro what happened, we can only control ourselves not the other person. u still have your hubby, he is still with u, be thankful to god for this, know that u did not loose him, pray to god, it is hard when we have been hurt because of another woman in our marriage. we see we may not have been treated so badly if it were not for her. but we do have to forgive him, and get rid of the bitterness we are carrying as that is where your depression lies. be thankful for your child, your husband, and your life, even is u have suffered. life does involve suffering, life is a lesson. god bless

Answer 10

Sorry but you need to kick him to the curb. A cheater is ALWAYS a cheater. You need to live by yourself, for a while, only time can heal your pain. You have a child that you need to think about.