Completely insecure with myself. Help!?

Question

I can not stand for another girl to even be around my boyfriend. I am told by people that I am pretty, and even by my boyfriend, but it just doesnt seem good enough. Like, I still think and feel like I am this ugly person and that every girl around me is so much better looking than me and I feel threatened everytime a girl innocently talks to him. I have already tried thinking, "okay he is with me, not her.. he loves me..not her (obviously)" but It just doesnt work..What the heck do i do to fix this ??!!!!!

please any help would be great.

I already told him that we needed time apart so i could have time to myself to try and fix this problem. Was this the right thing to do?

Answer 1

I think that we all go through that when in love or in relationships. Things usually get better after a while. Trust must be proven. One thing you can do is remind yourself that you are beautiful. There's a quote I absolutely love... "I know I'm beautiful, bec. if I didn't, it would be an insult to the One who created me." If your bf is going to cheat, even if you are Miss Universe, he will do it. The insecurity could drive him away ...or it can make you stronger also. Just be open with him. And when you start feeling insecure for a minute when he's talking to a girl, look away or keep your mind busy with other thoughts. Sometimes what we think about isn't really the reality. It's just negative feedback in your head resulting from painful experiences of the past or just whatever your brain transmits in your heart. Remember that physical appearance is not everything. Just remember that he's already with you, you have to make yourself more unique than the other girl...i.e the way he feels when he's with you. There's nothing that binds two people together unconditionally than friendship and mutual admiration..and trust. Definitely trust.

Answer 2

i think telling him u need time apart is an ok thing to do,...just let him know your not having feelings for someone else and that your having some jealousy problems. Everyone is insecure in a lot of ways...some show it more than others...and its prefectly normal to judge other girls and compare yourself to them. and being jealous is also normal...confidence is sexy...remember that!! its kinda of hard to fix this problem b/c it takes time and its about you changing...some people will say just stop being jealous and dont think your ugly but i think you should realize that your bf is with you...for what reason?? obviously he likes the way u look and you as a person...as i said before this kind of thing takes time and one day you will realize that you are pretty,smart and capable of getting everything you want...good luck :)

Answer 3

Being Jealous will cause unhappiness between you. It would be good for you to work on building positive self esteem. Give your boyfriend the credit he deserves, surely you don't really think he would go off with another girl just because she is better looking than you. Even if you are very beautiful as we grow older we see that there is always someone better and someone worse than ourselves. A relationship is built on much more than the superficial appearances - love is built on mutual trust.

Answer 4

I think you need to boost your self esteem. Your ex may not want to be with a girl that is insecure. There should be no reason to feel this way. Maybe you need to get some therapy for this,s o you can get over it.

Best Wishes.

Answer 5

Jealousy will destroy your relationship and make you more insecure. You're going to have to get used to the idea of your bf hanging out with other girls. It won't be any different with the next one either.

Answer 6

i have no magic words to tell you to make you love yourself. you need to find things about yourself you love. it's gonna take some time, but I believe you can change if you want to change.

Answer 7

you have to change your thinking . otherwise your life will be difficult for u to live.