I mean, I all the advise I get on making friends says to put yourslef out there. Ok, I'm doing that, but no one else does it. Like, I never see other people out trying to make friends, they're nice, polite, some even seem to like me. I've also never had anyone new appoach me without me approaching them fist (like in classes, at events...), even at orientation(university student). Are most other people shy? (no, I'm not being pushy, coming on too strong, etc.) Has anyone else noticed this?
It's not like I really mind, it's just weird.
2007-02-26 15:57:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ya ur right
i have the same feeling......
i have noticed too many ppl ......
i dont see too many pple coming out to make frnds
it isnt weird 4 me i sometimes feel "am i the only one in this world dong this? y the hell doent they come out!!"
all ma best frnds i have now were ppl whom i hav gone to and spoken
wen i first saw them all i noticed was that they were doing their own work and i thought i would be disturbing them but was shocked wen they told me later that they were feeling very lonely till i came and spoke to them
i felt like asking then y the hell didnt u comeout to make frnds but i never did that!!!!!!!!!! maybe its their character!
it does sound weird!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hmmmmmm
2007-02-26 16:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by ~~mruthyu~~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's like the old adage "If you want something done, you gotta do it yourself."
That's precisely why you need to be outgoing; because no one else is. If you don't take the initiative, make the first step, etc, no one will, and you won't make any friends. If you take the first step, you create a lot of opportunities for YOURSELF, and that's what this is about, right? Making things better for yourself, right?
You're right. Most people are, in fact, shy. So, if you want things changed, start by changing yourself.
2007-02-27 00:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people are generally shy. I don't see things like that either. I'm really shy, and whenever I try to connect with someone I think I will get along with, if they don't respond right away I back off. Or I'm afraid they're with someone and won't let me join in conversation.
2007-02-27 00:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Violet777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most people are shy. What they don't realize is making you more outgoing is making them more shy. I don't know why, but its reverse phsycoallagy. (sorry about uncorrect spelling!)
2007-02-27 00:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋