I am an engineer in the US who recently finished a Masters,
who's getting tired of his job & soon wants to do an MBA
for a mid career switch.
#1 is about a 5-6/10 on looks. If dresses well, she'll be a 6-7/10.
I personally prefer a 7-8/10. Nature wise she's 10/10 (more like 20/10).
She's fun to be with. Smart, naughty in all the right ways, active,
energetic and sporty. Career-wise she hasn't made it big so far.
She's planning to come to US to study further but looks like she'll
struggle to find a good job based on her field of interest. So my MBA
would be on hold too. I don't think I can study after another 3-4 years.
#2 is beautiful, finishing a PhD in US in engineering disciple & should
easily manage a stable job. Looks wise, she is 7-8/10 but talk-wise
she's kinda reserved. At times, difficult to keep the conversation
going. Marrying her would make parents happy as she's docile and
softspoken. She'd get a decent job soon & then I could easily study
full-time.
Girls, please advise. I really wanna aim for happiness & stability.
2007-02-26 15:50:21 · 34 answers · asked by MV 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've got the wrong idea pal on chosing a wife. Looks fade away for us all(men and women alike). And life is much much shorter than you think. As far as education or payscale, what happens if she ends up medically disabled or disfigured from an accident? Would that be the time that you pack things up and file for divorce? You may be looking for the females opinion here, but you need a lesson from life experience. A wife that is faithful, honest, loving, and willing to stand beside you is more important than what she looks like or how much she makes. You could also be the one who becomes disabled or disfigured! Use some wisdom here. If you find a wife with the important qualities I mentioned and she is nice looking and/or has a good career then count those as bonuses to a quality lady, but not necessary to be a perfect mate. You will find your life much richer if you set aside looking at he outside and look more on the inside. Take it from an old man that knows because of a wise old man that raised him.
2007-02-26 16:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You say you're aiming for happiness and stability... Sometimes you have to let go of that stability to achieve true happiness. As far as the second goes, you shouldn't marry someone based on a stable job, and if you can't hold a conversation with her, well, where does that leave you in the future? This relationship is based only on stability and looks... It kind of reminds me of a royal marriage from the middle ages or something. The first one is probably striving to reach her dreams rather than going with a stable career and she's fun-loving, but she's not good-looking enough for you? Do you realize that you're trying to marry stratigically? There's more to life than stability. Live your life. Marry for love, not strategy. I didn't read anything about you loving either of these women. You don't need to get married right now. I don't think that either of these women are right for you, because if these are the only two options you're giving yourself, you'll never be happy.
2007-02-26 16:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Elisabeth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doubt means don't. If you are not sure about Mrs. Right then you probably shouldn't be marrying neither one. Superficiality aside, your'e listing their "stats" in such an esoteric way that I highly doubt that you could ever be statisfied by either woman.
Sounds like your'e making a bet at the OTB.
I think your'e more interested in who's the better safety net as you risk taking a mid-career switch. Sorry to tell you but that aint love boo. Once she realizes that you chose her for her ability to provide she'll resent the hell out of you...and a woman scorned will never give you happiness or stability.
2007-02-26 16:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Get Togetha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ennie, Meanie, Minnie, Moe
Hard to believe you have a Masters degree in engineering and can't come up with a simple equation
Are you looking for a wife that will love you and raise a family or are you looking for a colleague with a degree to bring home the bacon.
Love isn't something that you can measure with GPA's
(Duh, let's use the six sigma methode and calculate the standard deviation of these 2 relationships... and the probability is... both girls think I'm coucou within a 95.962% probability)
2007-02-26 16:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your basing your marriage on who looks the best and who will get the best job then I don't think you will be happy with either. I think the first one has the personality and the second one hasthe professionalism. Why is it just between these two? Obviously neither is who you really want. Stay single until you find the right one that has everything you are looking for.
2007-02-26 15:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your head and your heart will tell you when and who you should marry. Don't rush yourself, you aren't ready right now. You don't even know what you want. Maybe neither is the right choice for you. Take some time to think about all the things you think are absolutely necessary in a good relationship and what things are not ever allowable. Hold out for what feels right inside for you. Don't give yourself false illusions.
2007-02-26 16:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that at your present moment, you don't need to marry either girl. You have to get your own life straight before you can begin to consider marriage, especially if you are bored with your present career. Plus, if you have 2 girls that you are serious enough with that you are considering marriage than no matter how old you are, you are not mature enough to get married. It sounds like you don't really know either girl to me. Pick one, spend a year (or more) getting to know her, then maybe discuss marriage.
You asked for advice from girls/women, instead of looking for stability, maybe you need to look for love. Stability comes with a healthy relationship with the person (not people) you want to marry. Don't marry with the intention of divorcing please, there is far too much of that going on. Marry someone you want to spend your life with--the rest of your life, not just until you get bored.
2007-02-26 15:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Son,Let me tell Ya What!!!!Money ain't evrything! #1 is the girl I would go for! Beauty is skin deep and kinky is everything. And how much ed. do you need? You can be too educated and no one will hire ya. Life is all about kids and grandkids and loving the woman you are with. The happiest people I know are in the lower income bracket with 5 kids & no savings account. Besides,when Hosa the pool boy takes your beautiful wife away along with 90% of your earnings,where ya going to be?
2007-02-26 16:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either of these girls deserves someone who cannot make his mind up. Interesting how you seem mainly intrested in money and looks and job prospect and the advantages to you. Marriage is about giving not receiving so a long lasting relationship isn't going to happen until you can see that and are prepared to give everything of yourself without any conditions
2007-02-26 15:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I notice that you didn't write anything about love in your descriptions. Nothing at all. You rated them like they were cattle for sale. That is disgusting. If you want happiness you need to be with someone that you love. As for stability there is no stable relationship. Anyone who says that is a liar and a fraud. I don't know what kind of culture you grew up in that allowed this sort of thing to brainwash you.
Find someone to love and grow a sense of human emotion.
2007-02-26 15:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋