Hey every1, thought I would throw this question out there, see what happens. I have been confused about my orientation all of my life. I am married and have an ok sex life with my wife, however there have always been these signs that seem to point elsewhere. Seeing a woman naked has never really done anything for me, although I can be turned on by women in a sexual situation. I have an insatiable fetish for men's clothing (especially underwear) and I often get aroused by walking through stores, looking at the 'cute guy' clothes, trying them on, etc. My fantasies tend to fixate more on 'young men'; males in magazines and movies tend to catch my attention instinctively, but not women. Even though I often feel more attuned towards homosexuality, I cannot imagine myself in a relationship with one. I seem to be obsessed with the gay lifestyle but am not comfortable with it in myself. The idea of being 'gay' excites me, but what if i'm lying just to feel like I finally belong somewhere?
2007-02-26 15:46:17 · 12 answers · asked by lostb0y1978 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey Lost,
I am going to try to break this down into a series of questions for you to ask yourself. Answer them honestly, and you just might get more out of this question.
Are you happy with your marriage? Is your wife? Have you talked to her about your feelings, or do you feel she would reject you?
Are you body obsessed? Do you turn yourself on? Do you like to be alone when not with your wife?
Are you attracted to men? A clothing fetish does not guarantee a sexual attraction to any particular gender....so could you just be into a particular look on a man?
Have you ever had a meaningful emotional bond with a man in a non-sexual way? Or sexual? How many positive, self-assured men do you know?
Lastly, do you have a positive gay role-model in your life? A co-worker? I suggest talking to someone if these questions don't provide any help....and if they do, I am also sure talking would help.
Good Luck.
2007-03-03 09:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by earthcaress 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi 28 - went thru the same thing you are going thru with the same results. Decided to take the step and try the other side and had my internal questions answered in a hurry. Was not real big into the mens underwear but what was inside did the trick. Once you experience it, you will probably find you are bisexual. Then you will have to decide where the marriage thing fits in. Guess you will never know til you try it for sure and make sure you are ready for the consequences if you do. You can write if you want to discuss further....
2007-02-27 08:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
See, you proved my statement on another question. Society makes people want to be gay. Most people would get over that stage in life, eventually. And if i may offer a bid of advise. It seems kind of shallow, and perhaps a bit unprioratised, that you are focusing on how your wife doesn't (nor any other woman) turns you on. When you could be focusing on your family. I think it is unfair to your family to do this. Perhaps your just not happy with your wife. Whatever you do try not to hurt your wife to bad, please.
2007-03-03 00:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by ~Beauty is Beautiful~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is confusing you so much I suggest you try it and see whether you like it or not even though you may feel guilty on your wife. You need to know as this might be might affect you and your marriage and you might not be happy.
There's no point in livining a live you don't want live
2007-03-05 23:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rory F 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are taking the first steps down a very trecherous path. as a married man be very very careful in how you treat this issue and your wife. it is much easier/ safer to explore these desires when you are single... Many women have been destroyed by cheating spouses (sexually as well as emotionally)... not saying you are wrong for thinking through it, better now than later (have kids yet?) but please be very careful and considerate...
2007-03-04 05:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You find men sexually attractive. Theres your answer.
You are probably a canditate for bisexuality.
Just beware..if you try it..you may not be able to stop.
Then you will wonder if you are gay.
Then you will decide which you prefer.
You will always prefer men
2007-03-05 23:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by vacationman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your not lying to yourself to finally belong somewhere? I think that's really who your are and you have been suppressing your true feelings scared of the truth. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
"Come out, Come out, where ever you are and get happy!"
2007-02-26 23:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jaybo 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i can tell u to folow your heart dont let your peers pressure u if you are truly gay u will know it and feel it and glorify in it
2007-03-06 15:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by lady_and_lover69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand yourself. Ultimately, only you can help yourself.
2007-03-04 05:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by zelrio28 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, you maynot be gay
2007-03-06 13:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋