speaking to a counselor about everyday life?

Question

if i go to a counselor telling him/her about my depression problems and suicide toughts, what do you think the counselor would say?...cause basicaly to me...a counselor is just another person with a job that does his job well..but when he gets home..he just forgets about it..i want a person to remember how i struggled trough life...and im going to tell you off the bat right now...my life is the worst...(you people are going to say..no..its not..you just think it is) NOPE..guess what..it is the worst LIFE ever...and i dont even want to type it how it goes..cause its just very depressing and very violent you just dont understand...now people tell me what you think about this counselor idea...

"i bet your life's not that bad. it's called growing up."

whoaa whoaa whoaa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa, SHUT THE HELL UP...NEVER SEEN MY PARENTS....I LIVE WITH A 80 YR OLD DEF MUTE GRANDFATHER THATS ABOUT TO DIE...im 18 and still in the 9th grade...stfu..just shut up..i have been physicaly molested as a child...JUST..whoaa..WHOAA...

thats not normal..thats not regular growing up...thats ******* torture...

i could keep going on in my life...

Answer 1

There are counselors that actually care, but you need to understand that they have such stressful jobs that they HAVE to "leave it at the office" or everyone's problems would make them go crazy. That doesn't mean they don't care, or that there isn't occasionally someone who they do think about outside work.
What I get from your question is that you want someone who will actually listen and understand how bad you feel and that you are more than just another brick in the wall. Go to a counselor, and if you don't click with that person, try another. It can really feel good to get stuff out, and if you find someone who listens and remembers and asks the right questions, you might be glad you did it. Living with violence is very damaging to your soul. You need to get it out, and get out of it.

Answer 2

go to the counselor and talk about it. i'm guessing that there is no one else out there in your life who knows all of the pain you are going though....only us here in yahoo answers.

don't worry about what the counselor thinks of you. that isn't the point. the point is for you to be able to get some stuff off your chest, and get help with solving some issues. that's what the counselor is there to do.

it's hard, but you can do it. it feels weird to walk into ashrinks office. but then you see all the other people waiting to see the shrink - and they look normal, like anyone else.

just go do it. try it for 4 sessions, and then reflect upon it.

Answer 3

Theres nothing wrong with speaking to a professional, but if I were you I'd be going to the police if my life was violent, maybe then you wouldnt need to speak to a professional.

Also sometimes writing in a private blog/diary helps, writing your feelings out is kinda the same as talking to someone, only without the feedback.

However hard your life may seem like there are at least 20 people far worse of than you.

Good luck

Answer 4

Therapy isn't a one answer, or even a short answer type situation. It is a process, and it requires your cooperation and work as well. The idea is that you work with a counselor to come up with a solution that works for you. If something isn't working then you try something else.

After seeing many many therapists, and having trained for many years in Clinical Psychology, my advice to you is to seek cognitive-behavioral therapy. It focuses on actually taking steps to change your body, your mind, and your life (and not just talking). Research has shown that it is even more effective than medication in many cases. Your family doctor should be able to give you a referral, and may also look into trying certain medications which may help to balance you out for the first while (but don't expect them to cure you or you will be disappointed...they only help to take the edge off and give you the energy to get through this, and they don't help everyone).

Don't expect a quick fix, but the time and effort is worth it. I am 26 and after a whole life of severe depression I am finally happy and have been doing very well for the last 3 years without medication. What I was doing wrong before was trying one type of anti-depressant after another, not staying in therapy, and not ever trying behavioral therapy. It wasn't until I was taking Psychology in school that I actually learned the skills that I needed to work on getting better. It took a lot of hard work, I felt like giving up many times, but eventually I pulled through it.

I don't doubt that you have had a horrible life, but I also don't doubt that you have the strength to recover because you have survived. You can turn this around and use your unique but painful experience as your strength. You will be able to deal with bad situations so much better than anyone else because you have survived worse. You may help to educate others who are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts once you recover and help them. You may turn it around to create amazing works of creativity that can only come from your experience. This will take time, but it is possible.

...about counselors themselves? My mother was a counselor, and although they may hide their emotions from you (they are not supposed to get emotionally involved with clients) it is pretty impossible to not be affected by the pain of others. There were many nights when she cried as soon as she got home because she was so worried about her clients. She even become depressed herself, and she still wonders about how clients are doing that she hasn't seen in years. And the reason why she decided to be a counselor? Because she was abused and depressed for much of her life, and wanted to help others who had gone through what she had.

A therapist may act like they are not that affected by your pain, but they are. That's why they chose the job...because they care. They just can't show it in front of you because it's not professional (many people would lose respect for a therapist who breaks down in tears in front of them - how can they help you if they can't help themselves?).

Most counselors and people training to be counselors that I know have experienced some sort of bad experience themselves, or are close to someone else who has.

Answer 5

You should talk to someone that can give you strength and will. A professional is good in this case. The best answer I think is too find some group of friends somewhere, where are you working or something...to get something to do with your time...something you like...so you would not have such thoughts.

Answer 6

I guess there are different kinds of counselors, but my experience was that they are just listeners not counselors. They just listened and didn't offer any suggestions. Get a book entitled "If You See The Buddha on The Road, Kill Him". It basically says you have to be your own Buddha

Answer 7

look up the word counselor - it means someone who advises - and I think a good one helps you change your life for the better.
Even if it is only in how you mentally approach your own life.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

if you want to see the counsler you can. they will keep anything between you and him/her confidential. but since you have thoughts about hurting yourself, they have to alert your parents/the people who have authority over you.

i am seeing one right now. at first i was really hesitant but it really helps if you want to open up. you don't have to tell them anything that you don't want to. i don't really recomend posting your stuff here and and asking for help because many people will give you biased answers.

Answer 10

go to the shrink. the only way they can put you in a hospital is if you have a plan to kill yourself, you're allowed to have thoughts...or at least that's what my shrink tells me. and i bet your life's not that bad. it's called growing up.