ok yes i have had sex before marriage and It end up with me having a beautiful daughter that I wouldnt trade for the world, its like everyone makes a mistake in there life(sex before marriage) when I say something about me being a single mom I get weird remarks its like what people would you have rather me get an aboration or give up my child.....dont judge me because none of us are perfect
2007-02-26 15:44:19 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Amen sister. total respect.
2007-02-26 15:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tiffany, I think you are confusing being rude for giving up the facts about illegitimacy and the difficulties in being a single mom especially in this day and age. You know better than anyone how expensive and important it is to have help in rearing your child. Why you didn't marry before the birth of your child is your business and that of your child's father. But you have to admit that your child is going to grow to be an adult, and she is going to be the one wanting answers from her mother and father on her illegitimately. She's going to demand the "why" answers, which can be very embarrassing, rude, and disrespectful, but never the less, she deserves the truth and the answers because she is going to have to deal with her friends, the government, her health, her future relatives, and her children (your grandchildren) about her birthrights for the rest of her life. So, don't think of it as rudeness, but of preparation for future answers to hard questions. For now, you and her father can only be the most unselfish parents within limits of financial, social, and economic conditions, try not to repeat the past "mistake," and pass on your experience positive and negative to other unmarried pregnant couples so they can decide the legacy of their children before birth. By the way, society has always been and will always be judgmental because that's the human way of promoting, discriminating, and demoting people in this competitive world where limited resources are being sought by everyone where only the "strongest" survive.
2007-02-27 00:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people just have an idea of what is right and what is wrong. It's not okay for them to judge you, or for you to judge them.
Personally I don't see anything wrong with premarital sex, or being a single mom. You deserve alot of creddit for being able to raise a child on your own.
If your happy with your life then you shouldn't care what other people think of it. I'm sure a loving daughter is more then enough consolation for a rude individual who can't keep their opinions to themselves.
2007-02-26 23:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
* THATS RIGHT TIFFANY YOU GO GIRL!!!!
people now a days act as if they where raised by Wolfe's,well maybe not Wolfe's they are cute...look people judge others because they themselves have done something wrong in there life's so they put others down to make themselves feel better.What you have done is chosen to have what God gave to you !!!continue to take care of you're daughter and forget everyone else if they are so closed minded then they don't deserve for you to speak with them in the first place.
P.S.live. laugh. love.leave the negative behind
2007-02-26 23:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Art 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish i knew why people where so rude. do not listen to those people. you are a single mom. SO WHAT!!! your daughter was not a mistake and do not allow people to tell you otherwise. i really admire single moms. it cant be real easy. the most important thing is that you have a very sweet piece of you. you sound like a proud mama.
2007-02-26 23:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do not want to be judged do not give out that information to just anyone. There is no need for people to know your private business, and you telling them just opens their judgemental doors.
2007-02-27 00:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of females that are unwed mothers. Don't let it get to you. They are probably just jealous because your daughter is prettier than their child.
2007-02-26 23:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
people are gonna do what they're gonna do. If you wanna let it bother you, that's your problem.
By the way, sex before marriage isn't a "mistake."
2007-02-27 00:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people are rude, just don't put anything out there for them to comment on....keep your personal life personal.
2007-02-26 23:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!tell them devils!
2007-02-27 00:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Boondocksaint 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋