Me and my b/f have been dating for 2 yrs going on 3 we use to have alot of sex ?

Question

just for the hell of it but to be honest i really dont like having sex is that normal? i mean we havent had sex in like a month now it's not really my thing but we do satisfy ourself in other ways, i know he would like to have more sex with me but i dont really feel anything i never get orgasms he does though.. hmmmm how can we fix that why dont i feel anything ? his thing is not small niether .

Answer 1

gee, you'd think after three years that he'd be able to get you off during intercourse.. sounds like you need to do a little better job communicating with him regarding sexual techniques..

or, if you honestly don't like having sex with im, then perhaps this is a sign that you are not in love. sex is more than just a physical thing.. if you don't feel the love or emotions, then you won't be in the right relaxed frame of mind to have orgasms.

is it normal to not crave sex? well, it depends on the situation. i don't crave sex but this is because i don't want it unless i am in a serious relationship. i do desire love and romance and sex will come with that territory.

in your case, to be in a 3 year relationship and to have lost interest in sex? well, that is definitely an indication that something might be wrong. could be hormonal or biological, or could be emotional/mental. might wanna talk with your doctor about your lack fo sex drive and have some tests done to make sure it is not biological.

and hmmm, since you posted this question here in LGBT, are you potentially questioning your sexuality or sexual orientation? do you have thoughts in the back of your mind that you may be lesbian or bisexual? or maybe even transgendered or transsexual? sex won't be enjoyable if you are going thru these issues. that i know from personal experiences..