I've read some of her texts in her phone (just cuz I was bored one day) and it was saying stuff like "when can I see you again" and "I really miss you". Anyway, theres more proof then just that but that's not my question. I need to know...Should I talk to her about it? My dad? My brother? I don't know what to do! I think about it every second of my day, some one please help...
2007-02-26 15:36:12 · 22 answers · asked by KaY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it may seem like it could be a friend from the info I gave you, but I've heard stuff you just wouldn't say to a friend or even a realitive...I don't want to put it on here though...
2007-02-26 15:39:57 · update #1
Ask her.
Tell her just what you said here - you were bored and read her texts. It was not a good thing for you to do - but because you did it you need to ask her about it.
It's not something I think you should talk to your brother about or your father.
Tough situation. Best wishes.
2007-02-26 15:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need someone to talk too. That's too much turmoil to deal with at your age. But you should not mention it to anyone within your immediate family.
Do you have a favorite aunt, uncle, grand parent who you might talk too or another adult who isn't in your immediate family? It's likely they already know what is going on.
In the meantime, stop reading your mom's letters\notes and listening to her phone messages. First it's wrong, you wouldn't want someone reading your letters would you? It's a mistake and will only make you more anxious.
Yet at the same time you need someone to talk to. The odds are that if she is cheating, she will stop, most do. And most things like that don't last more than a few weeks. Furthermore, she may not be cheating at all. You don't know for certain.
Don't let on to your Mom what you suspect. Let your Mom and Dad work out their problems, the odds are that they will.
2007-02-26 15:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being her daughter and thinking that your family is happy its certainly your business just a pity you read through her messages, she may go right off at you, is there some other way you can catch her out, if your brother is older than you and wiser talk to him so that its not fully on your shoulders as long as hes not a blurter and doesn't come out with it, he may even have the guts to ask her. If you don't look to your brother( say if he's younger and not wise) you may have to wait for another opportunity to approach her, maybe you could do things or put things in places so your dad actually accidently finds it.
2007-02-26 15:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should learn to stay away from other people's personal property. How would you feel if your mother read your private things, not by accident but a deliberate act, not very happy I suspect. If it is worrying you then you need to talk to your mother, I'd start off with an apology then say you are worried if she will leave your family because you love her very much. You might find it all innocent so just talk to her in private and never do that again
2007-02-26 15:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a real hard one. If you have any idea who this guy is, or if his number is in her phone, you could get his number and go to a pay phone and call him and say in case you didn't know ... first name is a married woman with children. then leave it alone for a bit... and re check her phone for text messages. and see if it is still going on. Or you can go to your mom, and say thanks for embarrassing me and your family.....but everyone at school is talking about you and your BF, and that we are all stupid for not knowing, thanks for ruining our lives. Then see what she does. Where and WHO you got the info from is of none of her business, that unlike her....you protect the ones who are important to you. The fact is ... is that you know and that it will only be a matter of time b4 your dad finds out.......but like I said....this is really hard. I hate this for you....But if there is really one piece of advice that I can give you....that is unfortunantly....not to do the same when you become a mother.
2007-02-26 15:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. the same thing happened with my dad. he told me it was true. I told him that he was a dog for lying to everybody.......it wasn't pleasant, but at least i didn't have to stress about it anymore.
the one hard fact which so many people refuse to accept is that our parents' marriage is really nobody's business except their own. that upsets many people and they don't want it to be true, but the only people in a marriage are the husband and a wife.
how their marriage plays out affects the rest of the family in major ways....but the actual marriage is no one's business.
I say this so that you know that telling your Father will not fix things or make things better. It's best if you stay out of it.
Shame on all adults that put their children in situations such as these.
Talk to a close friend that won't blab your family business to everyone. You'll need someone that will listen and be your friend when things get tough.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-02-26 15:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know for a fact that she "might be cheating"?? From snooping where you shouldn't be snooping? You'd probably have a cow if one of your parents read your blog or your text messages!! GROW UP and smell the coffee!! Your Mon and Dad are probably playing a "sexual" game between themselves for THEIR enjoyment, NOT yours. Haveing kids around ALL the time does not afford a couple to have much private time, so like you lil brats, they text eachother to spice up their lovelife(whats left of it). Mind your own business and if what you say is TRUE, deal with it THEN.
2007-02-26 15:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by tdoh2o4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your alone some time ask her what her thoughts are about being faithful in a marraige.
You never know though your parents could be swingers or just living together because of you children and having separate lives.
Ask, you have a brain and a heart to follow.These are your parents, you'll never be closer to anybody else so do communicate.
2007-02-26 16:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is between your mom and your dad. Leave it alone. And it's their business. Whatever may happen will affect you good or bad, but stay out of it. If you involve yourself now, you may feel guilty about the outcome later. This situation (if there is one) is their business not yours. They had a life before you came along. Leave them to work it out.
2007-02-26 15:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by tklines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For real, the best thing you can do is Stay out of it. Best Advice. You don't want to get in the middle of anything, trust me. I did and I regret it. Look at what your life will be like, if you get involved.
2007-02-26 15:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋