How can you tell if your husband is falling out of love with you?

Answer 1

I believe always ask or find out for sure before coming to a conclusion like that, maybe - like most marriages he's just comfortable and you don't always need to talk you don' always need to cuddle. Go up to him and run your hand down his back affectionatly, do you show enough yourself thats another question to ask, does he have any reason to fall out of love with you, or are you suddenly feeling insecure and unsure because something new is happening or a different routine, check all this out first before any speculation. Good luck.

Answer 2

Fr Greeley made a comment that I think is true .. that men and women routinely fall in love and out of love .. like a rubber band.

The problem of course is if that band gets too stretched then the marriage can break.

Since you asked this question then something probably is wrong. hopefully not bad wrong.

I found that it is often the little things that start not to add up.....

not taking calls at work .. or snapping about them.
trying to find reasons NOT to be home.
over work.
etc.

now there might not be a girl friend .. but something is wrong.

You can also ask yourself is there anything you might be doing to contribute to this? You might even be improving yourself or doing something good .. and it might be bugging him.

for example
I am watching a downward tail spin at work.

From his perspective:
he hates that she has not lost pregnancy weight.
he hates that he is not making enough money
he hates that she has a job now
... his male ego hurts .. not providing.
... this forces him to watch the kids
... this forces him to act less macho
... this forces him home by 5pm no questions asked.
....... ex us ranger now forced to baby sit.
... this forces her out of the barefoot and pregnant corner that she was in. now she is more independent. not only can drive but must drive. not only can work, now must work.

"good woman is like a good gun ..loaded and in the corner" .. not quite said but simmers in the background.

all these things probably are good, but the change has been very stressful for both now

--
she now knows something is wrong.
she has called enough to know that she knows that he is taking 2hr lunches and takes an hour at 3pm to hang with his rummy friends. His supervisor has noticed, but the work is getting done.

he always now snarls at her if she calls the office phone. he snarls more if she calls the cell phone.
he takes long lunches to schmooze with an aggressive pouncy girl we shall call Ms. R.

Have they had sex? who knows.

he then has to work on the weekends to make up for lost time at work .. and he has to work on weekends because he took an impossible assignment that he is having trouble completing.

It also may be a trysting time for he and Ms R., but we don't know.

They seem to have had a good marriage, but it is being strained right now by moving to what supposedly was a better job.

Answer 3

Some signs you could look out for: uneasiness being around you, not looking at you in the eye when talking with you, reclusive/sudden introversion, staying out more and longer than usual and not kissing/hugging/touching you as much as he should or used to. However, there may be other reasons why he might display these behaviour which may not have anything to do with you. So, It's really not easy to tell. Only he can reaffirm your thoughts.

I wish you well.

Answer 4

Ask him. Tell him you feel like something is missing from your relationship and try to be specific (no more dinner dates, less sex,etc). Be open and most importantly non-critical of his answers. Don't say "that's not true" if you disagree with something he says..remember he perceives it to be true. All relationships go through phases. He may be having work issues he has chosen not to burden you with. Make him a nice candlelight dinner, get rid of thr kids for the evening (if applicable) and a have an honest heart-to heart conversation--no screaming and yelling, unless he admits to having an affair-- then all bets are off. lol. Good luck

Answer 5

The communication becomes almost non-existent and when you do communicate, he keeps it very brief. He doesn't include or consider you in the finances. He sleeps on the couch by choice. He smells like sex after work. He purposely does or says things to upset you and make you repulsed by him so you will want to leave him, that way he doesn't have to feel responsible. He can always tell everyone, SHE LEFT ME..........when in actuality, he checked out emotionally long before you did physically.

Answer 6

The truth is through out every marriage you keep falling in and out of love. Through the down times just do little things to bring back the magic. Remember when you 1st fell in love and try to do some of the things together you did when you were dating. I believe if you were ever truly in love you can always bring that back again. Best of Luck!!!

Answer 7

He doesn't look at you the same. If he's really your husband and your his wife, you can tell. You just try to act like its not what it is.

If he's not touching you or kissing you the same way. When hes dressing up nicer than usual to go out. He's always out. When he's broke out of nowhere. When you start catching him in lies. These are clues.

Answer 8

yesss just look at the ealy days togher when the first kiss love happyness you shered with him and think look at life for you today with him im sure you can see what i mean, love caring comes from effort caring allways you man thinking of just you saying doing the little things that you love remmber love takes two allways but still you carnt make him do all this only he can then you will know in your heart the answer your wanting to know take some time to see just how hes treating you and youll know .

Answer 9

he no longer treats u special, u are no longer a priority, he makes promises and fails to keep them, he deliberately says and does things that cause fights, he is critical of her and may begin to name call and disrespect her when alone or in the presence of others. he no longer compliments u anymore, avoids u whenever he can, friends and family are more important than u, he is not interested in what is going on in your life anymore, even may cut u off in conversations and act as if your boring him, and the next step may be an affair or some attachment to another. he just doesn't act as if he is even in the marriage anymore. he doesn't communicate with u, and doesn't share things with u, or need u to be part of any decisions he is making. lack of respect on his part.

Answer 10

Its not always that they fall out of love, its that they tend to get bored. Mine has done that too.

Try something new a few times, and see if he takes an interest?

Then follow your gut instinct.......