Ok let me try to sum this up. My friend leaves her 2 kids w/ a licensed sitter. Her ex who does not financially support his kids has asked to see them like 2 or 3 times. Their arrangement is he will let her know when he wants to see them for a few hrs and he will pick them up from the sitter during the day while she's at wrk. He has no job. She lets the sitter know what time to expect him & the sitter makes him sign in and out of the day care ctr she has. Out of nowhere he shows up, interigates the sitter, threatens to have her licensed taken away & she tells him that she cannot release the kids to him unless pre-authorized by the mom since she is afterall, employed by her..not him cuz he doesnt help pay for babysitting. Yes, he DOES have a legal right to see his kids but I see the sitters point of view. He doesnt care about the kids, he just wants to upset my friend. What can she do, that is still legal, that can stop him from trying to take the kids unannounced? Any advise will do.
2007-02-26 15:19:21 · 6 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello,
well if its in the court order she needs to supply it to the sitter he is suppose to announce before he comes...she does not have to release them to him if she feels he is a threat to the children....on the other hand he does have a right to see his children also.....as a mother of 2 girls i make sure every one knows what is going on with them and their father...that away if any thing is to happen that would cause them danger in some way it is all recorded....they are her children and she needs to every thing in her power to protect them like a mother should....so she needs to give a copy to the sitter so she can call an authority figure on her side to stop him from taking the children....there is nothing she can do if she does not have it....so please tell her to protect her children if she feels he will endanger them.....good luck in your matter....
2007-02-26 15:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should only see the kids on the designated times that the court has stipulated, if he wants more time then he should go to court to amend visitation. But he certainly cannot just go get the kids without permission from the sole parent if it is not "his" authorized time. It's seems so dramatic, but if he wants the kids more he will have to fight for them, tell your friend that she has the rights to those kids and should keep things civil.
2007-02-26 23:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, is her ex and ex-husband?
If so, the divorce will spell this out, if there's a conflict, take it to the judge.
If not a divorce, get a lawyer, and file a paternity suit,....now, now, now.
This only gets worse. The paternity suit will adjudicate he's the father, and he'll have to pay token support, and visitation will be spelled out. If he cause truoble, the judge can smak him down.
However, if you friend was cheatin on her ex and the kids aren't his, well she'll have bigger problems.
2007-02-26 23:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is Court Ordered that he can only see them with pre-approval from the mother than he is overstepping his boundaries. If there is no Court Order than he is in his legal rights. They are his children too. I am not sure the exact laws and whatnot in your state but Fathers have rights to their children too unless it has gone through the court system and she has been awarded full custody.
2007-02-26 23:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by pkrgddss77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop all this is to go through the courts. The judge will lay the law down to both sides.
2007-02-26 23:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Restraining Order might help.
2007-02-26 23:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by tklines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋