OK. here is my problem that all of your wonderful women can help me with. When i got pregnant i had just gotten down to my dream size because all my life i had been obese and had to deal with the torture of not looking like a model to everyone at school and for some reason people would just hate me because i was fat i mean they didnt even get to know me first i'm a great person. well i had finally gotten down to a size 5 and i got pregnant and now i'm huge and i feel disgusting all the time i feel unattractive like i let myself down and my boyfriend didnt help any by telling me he wants me back to normal in like 4 weeks to 8 weeks my question is will i ever get skinny again or has this totally ruined it for me forever even though i work so hard to stay normal?
2007-02-26 15:03:47 · 14 answers · asked by pixiedust_asda2000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know what you mean about feeling enormous and unattractive, although I'm sure you're not. Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot--why would he say something like that?
If you nurse, and you eat sensibly, and you build some kind of exercise into your day every day, the weight will come off and pretty quickly, too. Not in 4-8 weeks, but within a few months. The bummer is that although you may be back in your regular clothes, and at or below your pre-pregnancy weight, you may find that the pounds are distributed differently.
I don't think I'll ever have the flat, muscle-y stomach I had before two babies and two C-sections. Well, maybe if I devoted a lot of time to it, but who has tons of time to devote to ab work? :)
You don't have to be a freak about working out, either. Put the baby in a stroller and walk every day. Walk stairs whenever you have the opportunity. Play fetch with the dog. Park a little farther away at the mall or the grocery or the post office or wherever and walk. Just build in activity wherever you can.
2007-02-26 15:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Yarro Pilz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you'll get your shape back, if you diet and exercise, and it sounds like you have a good handle on that already, since you know lost all that weight! Besides, baby weight isn't pure fat, so you did not let yourself go and should not feel let down.
The only thing is that your boyfriend's time limit is insensitive and unrealistic. It took you nine months to gain all that weight, and it may well take you nine months to lose it. You're not even supposed to start dieting and exercising until six weeks after the birth because your body has some intense recovery to do! Tell him that you're very sensitve about you weight and you're also very serious about losing it, but that 4-8 weeks is simply not long enough and he should love you regardless of how long it takes you to regian your shape...you just did him the biggest favor in the world by bringing a piece of him into the world...the least he can do is support you on your journey through pregnancy and afterwards.
2007-02-26 23:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be blunt but your boyfriend is a jerk. He has no right to say that to you. I'm pretty sure he's not perfect either. I'm sure you are beautiful. Don't let these mean things that people say make you feel bad about yourself. I doubt you will never be "skinny" again. You worked hard to get down to a size 5 and I'm sue you can do it again. But like said above, I am sure you are beautiful no matter what size you are. Worry about you and your baby and tell your boyfriend that the day he goes through 9 months of pregnancy and then labor THEN he can tell you how you should look.
2007-02-26 23:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!
I breastfed and was nearly back down to my pregnancy size after 7 months. I had a rough delivery so I couldn't exercise, but the breast feeding was enough.
Just watch what you eat afterwards. You'll be shocked at how much you loose when you give birth! My prepregnancy clothes fit, but differently. My hips were wider than before and my stomache flater...i think because my hips widened.
My hubby said the same thing about weight. But, don't worry once the baby is here they don't even care that our body's are changing. He's just self consious himself and he's projecting it onto you.
Just talk to him about your fears the next time he talks about it. Tell him you fear what's happening to your body and don't need him making it worse. Just be open and honest. Tell him about the kids making fun of you and the last thing you need is someone so close to you do it. It's time to be brutally honest with him, it works!!
2007-02-26 23:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With good diet and exercise it will happen. You have to have good will power because if not it wont happen. Whatever you do don't give up like I did. My baby is 7yrs old and I am not the same size as I was when I got pregnant. But with work I hope to soon be there.
2007-02-26 23:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by LAP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you'll get skinny again, this is the time just to take care of yourself and not worry about your waist size, eat all those healthy stuff and get yourself into shape, start kegal exercises and work on those thighs, this way after you have baby you'll have the energy to get up and exercise and get back down to that size 5. even if you don't get back down to size 5 just remember your more mature and curvy than you were before, making you more lovely and um... oh how do I say this bodaycious than before.
2007-02-26 23:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get back to normal. It takes discipline which you probably already have, diet and exercise. But to let you know most doctors do not want you exercising for the first 6 to 8 weeks, you need to give yourself a stressfree time to heal. And for your boyfriend to even say that is rude and I think he needs a slap upside his head.
2007-02-26 23:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fuc* him it will take you 9 months to 2 years before you back to normal. tell him to go get pregnant and then give birth and see what he looks like. you will be normal again don't worry but it will take a while, walk a lot. also go to www.infantasic.com it had videos on working out while playing with baby its fun for them and a work out for us its what i use its great i bought both movies good luck. and tell him to support the way you look because your body is that way because of him and you gave him his child with that body and you wont just bounce back. if that don't work leave his sorry @ss
2007-02-26 23:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by sexy mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not like you the way you are, Replace him. He wanted a baby. He needs to Grow Up. What a child I tell CHILD... Don't feel gross out, why.... All that matters is that u have a health baby.... His Love is all that really matters.... Your Husband attitude is grossing me out. You can lose it if your want to, but whats the rush. Focus on the little one.
2007-02-26 23:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting pregnant if you're not married? Why are you getting impregnated by someone who'd tell you what your boyfriend told you? Did you bump your damn head?
Here's a clue, gain some self esteem and then tell your boyfriend to *** off. Lose the weight because you want to and find a real man.
2007-02-26 23:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋