There is something that if its not taken care of soon.. could potentially be a seriuos problem... It has been going on for way to long... and he is not understanding the seriousness of this.. How can I get him to listen?
2007-02-26 14:49:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am NOT getting his mother involved in this.. she is already nosey enough
2007-02-26 14:52:34 · update #1
I dont flip out on him at all... in fact.. I let way too much go.. and I think that is part of the reason I am in this situation right now...
2007-02-26 15:30:13 · update #2
Try writing him a letter, seeing the problems from your perspective in writing may have the impact you are looking for. Also you can outline your expectations and when a person is reading they have a higher likelihood of understanding.
2007-02-26 15:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by ilostabuck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont yell at him for one. Husbands never listen to wives that yell or speak in that condesending tone or in a tone where it sounds like you are ordering him to do something. I can tell by the way you put 3 question marks on your sentance you probably flip out on him alot. You need to sit down with him at the kitchen table, alone and with the TV off and the kids out of the room. Speak calmly and tell him "i believe we might have a serious problem if this thing is not taken care of...maybe i am just worrying too much but could you tell me what you think?" Then if he gives an answer like "Dont worry about it" or "i will take care of it" and its one of those 'im blowing you off" reponses...then you say "Sweety, You are the boss, but im not at peace right now. Maybe i just dont understand, but how/when will you take care of it"
I know alot of women dont like to talk that way, but believe me, we men love it when you talk like that and we respond very well.
2007-02-26 23:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him flat out what you just told us. Get him alone, away from the kids, and in a good mood if possible. Tell him you are frustrated, and tell him why. Be sure to have concrete examples. And try to phrase things so they don't seem like an attack...you don't want him on the defensive. Stay calm, state your case and see what happens.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 22:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Omni D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Sorry, I'm Guilty also of this. My wife gets real frustrated with me and she gets right in my face and shows me where and what needs to be done in "HER OPINION". Mother-in-laws can be a real pain in the Butt, but you didn't marry her and I take it SHE don't pay the bills. You and He alone must sit down and compromise each others ideals and thoughts towards a common goal, Love conquers all
2007-02-26 23:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by plowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a general strike.....no cooking...no washing...no housework..and above all NO SEX......he might get the point....but, My honest opinion is that "nagging" is the most annoying thing for men. The more you repeat, the more men will not listen. If there is a big problem and a civilized conversation is not possible.....a letter might be a good thing. let him sign it on the dotted line that he read it and give him a deadline...with consequences. sooo Good Luck.
2007-02-26 23:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please define "listen". Do you mean you want him to do what you want or do you just want him to hear you and give you feedback? If you are trying to change the way he does things or change him at all, then you are in for a world of hurt. Only God can change a man's heart, you are certainly not God.
2007-02-26 23:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a big problem. Maybe when he tells you something you should tell him that your not listening to him because he does not listen.
Ask him to tell you what you just told him and tell him how much that bothers you.
2007-02-26 23:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to calmly tell him how you are feeling....NEVER NEVER accuse or complain and fret and fume.....he will not respond...tell him how you feel...tell him you need him....and you really want to make your relationship special....
MEN are not mind readers (nor are women)....tell him what you need..if he loves you...he'll surely come around....
just a friendly tip...build a circle of close firends too....your spouse cannot fulfill all your emotional needs....
all the best dear
2007-02-26 23:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jennie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not a man...but can i suggest??? write him a letter...tell him everything you wanted to say to him thru your letter...but be sure he reads that...good luck!!!
2007-02-26 22:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by xxxx66 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he has to be willing if he doest then u both need to go to counseling
2007-02-26 22:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Adam B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋