It seems like im having a huge diffuculty with women lately. I know im a nice guy i just dont know what im doing wrong.
2007-02-26 14:38:25 · 17 answers · asked by Nicholas M 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am also a nice guy, and I never could understand why most women are attracted to loud, arrogant, neglectful, irresponsible, unkind, men.
Now, as a much wiser, experienced, and older man, I understand that this paradox is biological; and that the majority of women that go for these type of guys are fickle, self centered, opporotunistic, critical, unfaithful earthly creatures. Their instinctive drive is rooted in seeking the monkey-like alpha male to share his spoils. However she will churn and burn these neanderthals. They also have a voracious appetite for breaking the hearts of nice guys like you. I personally have cried a river for 3 such women that I loved deeply, including one that I was married to. There was a time when men were the cheaters......but from my experience, and all that I hear anymore is that my men friends are getting screwed over and losing their heart, homes, children, and income to a cheating spouse. The women have the advantage in the courts eyes.
There is a small minority of women out there that are super kind, nourchering souls that enjoy life. I have a great lover now who is the best, and I am certain that she is a gift from God.
I was unsure if that type of woman existed. I came up with a way to enjoy Myself....and developed a creedo " be yourself"....which I adhere to to a fault. I became happy with just being me and enjoying this earth, and darned if that didn't just make me super attractive to a different kind of girl, who is fulfilling all of my dreams.
Be kind, be a Man. Do not accept fluff! Seek yourself first, understand yourself, and a woman of your caliber will come to you. I think that we all must have to understand heartbreak before we can understand our needs, but I wish more smiles than tears for you my kind friend.
Answer to your question: BE YOURSELF! be patient and discriminating. It will happen. Don't judge yourself; you are not qualified.Bottom Line: The majority of women don't deserve you.
2007-02-26 15:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by jerry g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, now retired, I can confidently tell you two possible routes:
1). Quit dreaming and live in the "here and now" and you might find somebody you like.
2). Live your life in a dream state, and you'll have tons of "dream girls", none of them real and none of them you can stay warm with at night.
God Bless you.
2007-02-26 22:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in activities that will put you in contact with other people with similar interests. (If you're an animal lover, volunteer at your local shelter for example.) I know a guy and girl who are married now who met when they were both volunteers at a Ronald McDonald House. It's a lot better basis for a relationship than meeting in a bar or something.
2007-02-26 22:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, quit thinking that you are doing something wrong. It's easy to forget that life is a JOURNEY. We all want to "be there". You haven't met the woman of your dreams....yet. And the way to do this is to design a terrific life, keep having fun meeting lots of people, enjoy your life, develop goals, discover and pursue interests. This life is a tremendous gift, and if you celebrate it, you'll find someone who wants to celebrate it with you. Trust me.
2007-02-26 22:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Caper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you are a nice guy too. It could be that you are just looking too hard. Relax and continue to prepare yourself for her and she'll come to you. All the best.
2007-02-26 22:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by nursey 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just be yourself. Let the woman love you for what you are! Dun pretend to be someone just to impress a woman. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 22:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_gal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trying too hard. Look for a best friend candidate and once best friends, then marry her
2007-02-26 22:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by syrdell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're probably not hanging out in the right places.
Are you hanging out in bars, tractor pulls, brothels, the local race track, city jail? I would gamble that you're not, and that's your problem. You need to hang out where you can meet quality chicks, dude.
Good Luck!
2007-02-26 22:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Amish Rebel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stop looking and it will happen! seriously you will find love when your least expecting it. try and take your mind off it if your a nice guy you will find a nice girl :) in time!
The best of luck!
2007-02-26 22:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
In order to find a woman of your dreams, you need to be the man of someone's dreams.
2007-02-26 22:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋