I'm in a weird situation. I've been noticing lately that someone I run into alot always gets nervous when I approach. A while ago, I noticed this person staring me down, I found out who she was a little while later and decided to contact her online to give a friendly hello. I assumed that when someone is staring at you and smiling, and trying to be near you, they might be interested in talking to you, but might not necessarily know how to initiate the conversation. So I initiated conversation, but I think I might have scared her because of how I contacted her. She remembers who I am, because now when she sees me, her smiles and staring are no more, and she barely looks at me. And when she passed me, she pretends like she's doing something. I have two guesses. Either she wants to say something, but doesn't know how. Or she thinks she gave me the wrong impression. How do I figure out which it is? And how do I let her know that I'm not attracted to her like she might think (heaven forbid)
2007-02-26 14:36:32 · 7 answers · asked by Not You, Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
? If that is the case. Any other guesses? It's sort of bothering me, now.
2007-02-26 14:38:53 · update #1
Wow, Stephanie, you know what's odd, I actually did just that. I told her that I didn't mean to annoy her, and that I thought I would be making a friend based on her behavior. But, she didn't respond.
2007-02-26 14:50:38 · update #2
Sorry to hear that cuppycake. Yeah, I think the rumors are starting already. This guy that associates with her, who I think is her boyfriend always gives me dirty looks when he sees me. I have thought about just clearing things up. I know I didn't do anything wrong, but I think it would be weird, I wouldn't even know what the hell to say. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.
2007-02-26 15:03:35 · update #3
It might be hard for you,but I highly suggest you should find a way to talk to her and straighten things out.
The reason I think this is because of something that happened to me. I am totally straight, and always have been. but for some reason unbeknown to me, a girl in High school must have had the impression that I was a lesbian and freaked out and yelled at me once when I walked into the girls locker while she was dressing. She told me she thought I shouldn't be allowed in the girls locker because she would rather get dressed in front of the boys than me. I was completely in shock by what she was saying,and have absolutely no clue why she thought this about me.
My main point though, is that I never cleared it up with her, and it has always bothered me. I've always wondered what happened to make her think this, and how many people she might have spread this rumor to.
So for your own peace of mind find out what this girl is thinking and straighten it out so you can either be friends, or if not...at the very least just get this off your mind and off of your conscience.
2007-02-26 14:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your theroy was right that she was attracted to you, she might have freaked when you contacted her online , like her dirty secret was out, maybe she is a lesso and does not know how to deal with it, and you've put her in a place where she is not comfortable. Wyh don't you show her the question you asked,, be bold i dare ya..lol you would have a good chance of solving the answer then
2007-02-26 14:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewwww......hard one...lol
Well, if you contacted her online, maybe via messenger, most of the time we get offlines, just leave her another message, one explaining what you were up too. Or, email her again...tell her your sorry that you maybe made her feel nervous or upset her, or that you had no intentions of making her feel the way she did. That you had hoped that you would make a new friend, and that was it....
Maybe she's confused you with someone else, maybe she thought you were her husbands mistress....lol and was wanting to confront you....
2007-02-26 14:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never said what you said to her on line. Do you remined her of someone she knows, did you make her feel funny about what you said on line? Talk to her again, and be honest about how you feel and tell her she can too. Be open, maybe you'll get answers.
2007-02-26 14:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep smiling at her and say hi
and leave it at that she will figure out your not a threat eventually if if she doesnt her loss
2007-02-26 14:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might be intimidated of you. Either that or they are attracted to you.
2007-02-26 14:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by HazyMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply..approach her and ask...
2007-02-26 14:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋