If your husband cheated on you with a fabulous girl who at the begining didn´t know he was married, how do you stop feeling so worthless? How do you get over the fact that he never treated you the way he treats her? How do you live thinking about the two of them together being happy? And the worst thing is she is simply fabulos, so pretty and so sweet, such a nice girl, she didn´t now my husband was married she found out when I kicked him out of the house. It turns out he had always wanted to be with her, since he was young and when she got divorced he when running to her and they look so happy toughether! How do I live with this?
2007-02-26 14:23:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you live like this? Well wish him well mentally and live well. Realize you will love again. Try to stop tormenting yourself with pain. You are fabulous, you are all the things she is in your mind and more. Move on. How can you be worthless just because your husband is gone? Hes one of many possibilities. Hes one of thousands...So know that when one door closes another door opens.
2007-02-26 21:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lucy,
First of all you are not worthless at all. Him cheating on you and your marriage was just plain wrong and he never should have done this to you and to your marriage. Is your husband still wanting to be with her or is he sorry for what he has done? If he is not sorry and really does not love or want you and he would rather have her then i say leave him and file for divorce. However if he wants the marriage to work then seek counseling and help for you and for this marriage. You still will need counseling and help for the pain you are feeling no matter what. You need to learn to over time get past this and move on with your life either with or without your husband. Also go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter. Hugs to you today and I am here if you need someone to talk to.
2007-02-26 22:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you took him back? What were you thinking, he only came back because she has some morals and he doesn't. Let's face it you are second choice in his mind and perhaps the only reason he hasn't left you is because she knows he is not a good man and she wouldn't want him even if he was divorced. This is not a marriage and the way people in love treat each other. Get rid of him and find someone worthy of your love and trust. I really like the sound of the other girl, lots of courage and standards. You should learn from her and get rid of him forever
2007-02-26 22:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around and do you really want to be waiting for him to be kicked out of her life just for him to run back to you? He has already made it clear that something better than you exists in his mind...if it isn't one person then it will be another...he is a loser, recognize it now and save yourself a whole lot more heart ache than your feeling now...and by doing so feel some comfort that he can't hurt you like your hurt right now ever again...good luck.
2007-02-26 23:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that he lied to you and that you can do better. My ex slept with the 17 year old babysitter. Since then, I've found someone who has been honest and loving to me. It hurts for a while, but eventually, you will realize it's better for you not to be with him if he didn't love you the way that you loved him.
2007-02-26 22:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost stop putting her on a pedestal! She is not perfect or she would not be going through a divorce herself and she would know a cheating lying loser when she saw him! Keep living your life focusing on you and stop thinking about those losers! Believe in karma, what goes around comes around believe it!
2007-02-26 23:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just get up every morning to start with, it gets easier after after a while. You have to decide that you are going to live.
2007-02-26 22:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋